TL;DR - Time constraints aren't just for in-field seduction.

To be honest, I've never used Tinder for random hookups. Some have turned out that way through a successful date or when the girl decided from the very onset that she wanted sex.

After a frustrating Saturday night with my FWB in my hometown (she got too wasted), I was anxious for something before driving 5 hours back to my current town. Sunday on tinder I became very straightforward without being overt.

For is particular girl, after a quick hello, I told her I have to drive out of town soon so I should stop by her place beforehand. She said she was at a friend's place. I suggested she should get away from them to meet me. She told me I was very straightforward, and I responded with a :). I gave it about 30 minutes before following up with "wanna meet pretty soon?" to which she said yes with a smiley.

Naturally she wanted to meet at a nearby bar first. I get to the bar before her and order a Newcastle. Chatted with thirsty mediocre women nearby for 15 minutes expecting that I've totally been stood up. Finally my girl comes up and takes the seat right next to me on the other side.

She is much hotter than I could tell in her pics. (Korean mixed with Lithuanian is a thing of beauty.) I'm done with my beer so we both get one more (she complimented my choice so we both ordered the same). She's not giving me many IOIs during conversation. I am desperately clinging to everything I can remember from Seduction and TRP about holding frame and emanating masculine energy, but I was surely struggling. I think I saw her play with her hair once, but nothing about it looked flirtatious and she was definitely leaning away from me. In addition, her stories involved a year working at a military checkpoint in a safe area of the Middle East in which she met new soldiers from all over the world on a daily basis. I'm of generally small build, so I admittedly suddenly felt a little intimidated.

As I finish my 2nd beer, I see that she still has almost half of hers left. Normally I would wait patiently for her to drink more, but of course I had a long drive ahead of me. So I say "Let's get out of here."

I completely expected this to be the end of our encounter. I expected her to have an excuse for not moving the interaction and further. To my surprise, she melodically says "okay." That surprised me, but I still wasn't sure if that meant we're going to her place. So I say "I'm parked out this way. I'll follow you." And I was again a little surprised that she went with it.

Back to her place, we waste almost no time. Exchange numbers and I'm out the door within 3 minutes. She clearly wanted nothing more than sex.

Takeaways

  • Strong game isn't about saying all the right things all the time and always having the right moves. It's more about whether you happen to be doing/saying the right things for whatever mood the girl is in. Which means it's a waste of your time to worry about pleasing her. Be you, but a version of you that is manly, comfortable, and intentional with your words and movements... in essence, holding frame.
  • Time constraints saved my weakish game. Time constraint in the tinder chat and time constraint of "Let's get out of here." The way she just about kicked me out the door after the sex showed me that the time constraint in this situation was probably the most important factor. If that's not what she wanted, the time constraint at the very least would have saved me from wasting more than 30 minutes of my own time.