Did night game last night, usually I ONLY do day game because I don't really like the bar/club environment but I figured I would give it another shot. My communication skills are tight and I have no approach anxiety, all the issues I have with night game are basically just failure to escalate, the environment is so foreign to me and I feel calibrated towards night game. I only did a few sets because I was there with my friend and just trying to enjoy the night,

1st set

I run up to a huge group of people walking on the street and tell them i'm coming with them, they welcome me and my friend along and we end up in a bar. I can't remember if I opened HB6 or if she engaged me, but we were talking. I interacted with her and she gave me a lot of IOI's, but honestly I didn't know what to do, like normally in day game I would of bounced her after a few minutes but I feel it wasn't appropriate here; in retrospect I probably should of just moved her into another part of room and either vibing or try to escalate sexually. At one point I saw her hug or talk to another guy (something I know is really arbitrary and irrelevant)- it kind of made me uninterested in her- it's just something I need to get over.

2nd set

I duck faced, yep I DID IT! I even looked around afterwards and I saw this HB6 staring at me, I guess I unconsciously gave her the "You caught me look"- because she was all like

HB6: I caught you!

Theillbehaviored: I know how embarressing, don't tell anyone! (In a comical way) HB6: What? You were staring at my boobs!

Theillbehaviored: Huh? No I don't care about those,

HB6: Then what were you laughing at then?

Theillbehaviored: Okay... don't tell anyone, promise?

HB6: Yeah

Theillbehaviored: (duckface)

HB6: AH AHAHAHAAHAAAA

Theillbehaviored: Besides, I don't care about your boobs... I have my own, see? (My breast are muscle not fat btw)

HB6: OMG let me touch them (she undoes my shirt and starts feeling my breast)

Theillbehaviored: What size do you think they are?

HB6: Your probably a c-cup

Theillbehaviored: No way, thats awesome! What're you? HB6: D

Theillbehaviored: Hahah, YOU?! Yeah right, your not a D cup. Here, let me see...

HB6: Okay (thrusts chests towards me)

I took both of my hands and grasped her breast and squeezed them, then quickly let go like it wasen't a big deal, THIS was my frame the whole time. Like, I wasen't like OMG BOOBS! Remember from the beginning I said I was unimpressed by them basically, and even when I touched them I put fourth the "meh" frame, which I deff think was the right move because it made her want my approval, where I fucked up is I should've tried to move her or escalate right after this, fuck anything would've been better than what I did, even trying to make out with her right there; after that I just vibed with her for a few more minutes, I then saw her start talking to another guy and I left.

3rd set Was about to leave and saw another HB6 in the parking lot, in her car on the phone. I ALWAYS wanted to do the 'who lies more men or woman' opener- I always thought it was SO cheesy, but i'm really curious and want to amuse myself so I went over to her. I go and motion her to roll her window done and she does, I then do the opener and we start vibing. I start doing cold reads like telling her shes a visual thinker, she's pretty impressed... by this point she had her friend who was still at the bar waiting for a ride on hold for at least 3-5 minutes just to talk to me. She said she needed to get back to her friend but I kept talking and she made her wait longer. I for some reason ejected and told her to have a good night... again, DIDN'T escalate.

Debrief Okay so, I can pretty much already tell what I did wrong here, but I do welcome all feedback.

  1. Didn't escalate- pretty sure I could of got a make out with all three of those sets if I wanted, but I didn't. It's not that I get nervous in set, I never do and I never get AA, I just never really went in for make outs that many times yet and need to try it out to get reference experiences.

  2. Don't be afraid to go into mixed sets, most guys will actually start qualifying themselves to me because i'm so muscular and they can tell i'm confident.

  3. Stop ejecting from sets early- I do this almost unconsciously, it's SO weird. The vibe is good and i'll be getting IOI's, I don't feel nervous at all, but I just leave.

  4. Don't get discouraged when girl i'm talking to starts talking to other guys, its a social venue, that's inevitable.

Overall, it was a good night... I wasen't even really out to sarge, I just wanted to have fun with my buddy. Something that was REALLY wierd with the transition from day game to night game is the concept of 'momentum' and 'social proof'- the things I like about day game is that after you finish a set, you have a few minutes to walk along and recover before going into another set; in night game, I would do this and find myself just standing around the bar awkwardly, I NEED to always be in set. Instead of looking at this from a negative point of view though, I should be looking at it as a way to build momentum and further my state.

Social proof: In day game there really is no social proof, and it's good and bad, you can be a pimp in one set and get completely blown out in another and it won't matter at all. Seems pretty important in night game, luckily I did establish good social proof in the venues I was in.