This is my second post. In my first, I made it my goal to approach one new girl per day to improve my conversational skills and get past my approach anxiety. It has been a few days since then, and I have been sticking to it.

Ive actually found its easier to make conversation with everyone instead of having to worry over which girl to approach or hoping that a girl will cross paths at some point during the day. This is because I am never sure of how many 18-22 year old girls(if any) i might see some days, but I always know that I will see some sort of person, even if its an old man or a homeless person or a crackwhore. Just makes it easier to get my approach numbers up.

I was watching a video of Adam Lyons at the 2009 21 Convention and he said that people shouldn't be so obsessed with approaching and opening, that we should be more focused on the ultimate goal, which is closing. Although I agree that closing is the goal, I think that you have to have all the skills pre-closing down before you can get to closing or even start thinking about it. Its similar to chess, you can't learn how to checkmate before you have learned the basics of the game. Focusing on endgame tactics is completely pointless if you don't have a good understanding of how all the pieces move. In terms of seduction, without getting comfortable going up and initiating small talk, you wont be comfortable doing anything past that. In my mind, the approach is the basis for everything else that might happen after the first Hi or Hello or whatever the first word you use is. Its the first pawn move of the game, that will hopefully end in a checkmate, but not until the opening, middlegame, and endgame are all skillfully and patiently played out. At my current stage in this journey, I'm getting as much experience as I can approaching strangers, good looking or ugly as they might be, just to get the feel for it. At this point being successful with women is at the top of the latter, and im just on the first rung.

[FR] 1) In my Chemistry lecture, we took a quiz at the beginning of the class period. I noticed an asian [HB 4] sitting to my right, so after we turned our quizzes in, I asked her how she thought she did on the quiz. We ended up talking for about 10 minutes about classes, our majors, and college in general. It was a very smooth and flowing conversation. Her not being attractive to me, and also her sweet personality made me feel very comfortable talking to her.

2) Last night my ex-gf and I, after texting earlier in the week, decided to go get a drink and appetizer at a restaurant nearby. She came to my house and we hung out for a bit, watching the Laker game and having a beer. Then I drove us to the restaurant. Like I said in my first post, I have always had a problem attracting girls who are very dominant. Although I hadn't seen this girl in a few years, sure enough those qualities came out again big time.

Our conversations, like they had in the past, basically consisted of me saying something, then her having to "one-up" me about it. I tell her about something cool I did, she knows a friend who did too, but is much better at it. I like a certain musician, she recently went to a concert of a band that is way cooler. That sort of thing. Even at the restaurant, she just HAD to tell the guy sitting a few seats down at the bar how cool her job is, and just HAD to tell the bartender she knew someone who owned the brewery that made the beer he was serving. I played around a little with it by making sure I got the attention back on myself, interrupted her a bit, and generally tried to keep her in her place, which she wasn't digging.

The waitress [HB 3.5] brought us our food. The waitress was looking stressed, so I told her she was doing a great job. I work at a restaurant so I know how crazy it can be sometimes. She smiled like I had made her night. She said she'd been working 9 consecutive days and that I had put her in a much better mood just by saying that. Then we talked a bit about the restaurant biz and shared a few funny stories. I told her where I worked and she said she wanted to come in to have a glass of wine some evening. We exchanged names and it was left at that, but it was nice to see I had helped alleviate some of her stress and made a positive impact. Meanwhile the evil ex-gf was still sitting right there, probably listening to my convo, either that, or letting someone else at the bar know how awesome she is. The waitress conversation was a nice break from the annoying situation. I just kept asking myself how I put up with her before, because obviously she hadn't changed a bit.

We finished our food and beers and drove home. I turned the music up loud so we didnt really have to talk. Got back to my house, that was it. Hugged and then she drove off. I got into my house, deleted her name from my phone and that was that.

Although it felt like a pointless waste of time and money to go out with this girl again, talking to the waitress only boosted my experience level with approach, which is priceless in my opinion. Whether she will actually visit my work or not, I don't know, but if she does, who knows...maybe she has some HB10 friends to introduce to me?!?

Its like Pokemon on Gameboy I suppose. You can't raise a Pokemon's HP (with a few exceptions) unless you actually enter it into battles. If it stays in the poke-ball forever, it wont ever have the experience necessary to be a good fighter. / If I dont approach, then I wont experience the discomfort it brings me, thus I will never grow or learn. Accepting and welcoming fear -----> growth.

Im not sorry this was long and I never will be. Its not only for you to read, but for me to get shit off my chest and make some sense of my thoughts.

PS: I also want to say thanks who ever did the post about DJ Fuji's speech at the 21 Convention. That video rocked me to the core.

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