Mindset: I don’t care if I feel shitty, I’m gonna go talk to girls and see what I can do, I’m gonna be present and accept and embrace my state as it is.

 

Sets: 8

Number-close: 3 of 5 attempts

Instant-date: 0 of 0 attempts

 

The day started out shit with me in bed watching and reading game-related articles. But I’ve noticed I’ve gotten a lot better “snapping out of it” when I’m about to go out to daygame. There’s things I can do like exercise to cool music, but today I just went as is and accepted all my feelings and thoughts. I’ve learned that it doesn’t really matter, cause I still can go out and have good progression, which today I did.

 

Setting up date with the swedish-artsy introvert girl, gonna check the recording for her place, if not available, then ill just ask her on text.

 

  • Tall blonde taking pictures of the christmas lights
    • We walked for too long without opening anyone, so we put on the effective time-challenge (open a girl within 1.5 minutes, if not, 5 pushups on the street)
    • Just an okay conversation about it’s nice out with the lights, then she said she had a boyfriend.
    • GOOD
      • I challenged her for faking having a boyfriend
      • I teased her when she said she had to go to a meeting, I said: “We don’t have a meeting yet, you’re moving a bit too fast, but we could arrange something if you like."
      • I held her hand a bit longer
      • I touched her on her arm

 

My wing didn’t manage to open anyone within the time-challenge, so he took pushups while I stood over him, embracing the fact people watching. And to bums sitting around laughed like hell saying shit like “cojones!” - it was funny and puts us more in state for mustering up more courage as well

 

  • Indirect; girl in mall on her phone outside a cafe
    • We went inside a walk-thru mall and I see a cute girl standing looking at her phone. I felt the social pressure of being indoors, so I decided to go indirect: “excuse me, do you know if they have good coffee here?” - This actually made it harder to transition to normal convo and to being direct, it got kinda awkward when I said: “I’m just kidding, I just had to make something up to talk to you, cause I think you’re cute."
    • GOOD
      • Opened a cute girl indoors, a rare occasion
      • Tried transition to direct
      • Stayed in thru initial awkwardness, and introduced myself, even after the bf was mentioned
    • LESSONS
      • Just go direct
      • If you DO go indirect, be more playful in vibe and intent, and show “directness” in your sub-com with your eyes and tonality and body language
  • Cute looking girl
    • Fairly short interaction, the girl, as often, appreciated the compliment, but she left and I tried to hold her there with just asking questions, ending a little awkward
    • GOOD
      • Front-stop open, running a bit to catch her
      • Thinking after the interaction: “awesome, who the fuck would have the balls to do that?!"
      • Tried to keep her put by asking something
      • Laughed off the awkwardness of the interaction, no big deal, I opened!
    • IMPROVE
      • Be more intentful and dominant, you gave your energy/efforts, demand more of her attention/presence, because YOU are the man, YOU’RE the shit!
  • Dark-haired swedish girl in furry jacket
    • GOOD
      • I ran around her and did the front-stop open
      • Held her hand longer
      • She challenged me to guess her age, when she asked me, I used her dialect and said the same “well.. guess ;)” - she laughed
      • Joked about being distracted by her furry coat and I stroked it on her arm
    • LESSONS
      • Don’t only give her your number, walk away with her’s in your phone - perhaps make her text you on the spot
      • Don’t try and be smooth on the opener or throughout, be yourself (your best self)
      • Get eachother to share more of yourselves to get more comfort
      • Spice it up more with more attraction-spikes, try and do more sexual innuendos
      • Could’ve hugged her goodbye
  • Cute small swedish girl in dark clothing and winter-hat
    • GOOD
      • I opened her with: “excuse me? hey. this may be a little random, but you.. are cute."
        • I noticed she was more responsive then other girls, saying hey calmly right back, and saying thank you in a calm “introverted way”, which fancies my boat actually being a more naturally introverted guy myself
      • Being okay with forgetting things she said (her age), then just honestly ask her again
      • She took my number and texted me right there
      • Slipping in some silences and letting her fill in the gaps, while sipping my coffee
    • LESSONS
      • Joked about our names being a perfect match “Johnny and Jenny"
      • Should’ve joked more about the daddy-thing, I misheard her - couldve been sexually playful and teasing her for calling me daddy so soon (while doing some kino-touch)
      • I noticed myself being more chill when I saw that she was chill and liked my approach and me, I should just assume this from the get-go with every girl (ASSUME ATTRACTION)
      • Teased her a bit for being unsure of her age
        • Then I said not caring about my age and forgetting I have my birthday soon (true)
      • Good your sharing yourself, but keep it more on the positives. Talk like you like yourself more, and get better at story-telling.
      • Lead more, instead of following her or the interaction’s flow
        • Balance between flowing in interaction, which is good, but lead in a way that gets you to chat about things you care about, or finding more specific things about her

I meet up with the 2th wing and I see the girl I just talked to behind us, I then re-open asking “you haven’t found the store yet?"

We walked up the same road with my two wings walking in-front of us, with made me kinda nervous cause I didn’t want them to approach so she saw it. She asked me if they dared me to talk to her, I laughed it off and said “I don’t need a dare to talk to you”, she liked this.. Then I asked if she got a dare for taking my number, no she said she thought why not, and me kinda interrupting her saying “yolo?”. This walk was good cause it made it more real and it was way more comforting and personal.

- IMPROVE     - Be more present, I’m listening to the recording and thinking why didn’t I say this and that, like it should be.. It’s because I’m kinda nervous or anxious and caring to much about what she thinks of me.     - I let her to the leading with like finishing the convo asking me “where you going?”, I turned and saw my wings gone so I just said I should find them, but I could’ve ending it better with seeding the date more or asking where she lived and shit. - GOOD     - I re-opened, and walked with her (it would be awkward to spot eachother and NOT re-open)     - Letting it be silent a bit, then saying: “so, tell me something interesting about you."         - She likes to travel spontanously     - Going in physically a bit and joking about her having a diary before: “with a little cute lock on it as well?” - “dear diary, today I asked a boy”, my thinking was hinting that I could kiss her
  • Tried open up a girl with more alpha-styyyle (dared by wing)
    • My tonality is kinda weak, too much supplication
    • Teased about her calling me her bf, without us having been on a date - Then she laughed and walked off
  • Cute small girl in weird full-body jacket
    • Me and wing joked about this, and he dared me to say what I said to him: “her face said 23, but her body said 15"
    • I opened and held back my “15”-comment, haha, by saying she just looked younger from her body
    • I teased about her full-body jacket-thing, asking if its for work or what. Then said “it’s easy to get in, as well easy to get out” - intent was sexual innuendo, but don’t think my tonality projected this well enough
    • I am bored listening to myself, It’s okay that I don’t think my past is that interesting, but then convey that, BUT you CAN talk more with enthusiasm and passion, and not bore people with it.
    • I teased her about doing modern dance (spiritual voodoo stuff like “the sun” dance move"
    • Teased her about her “modern phone”, old school crap (but I do like the simplicity of it, and if this was her reason for it, I would’ve liked it - SO I shouldve asked her the reason for having that phone)
    • Nice “line” for seeding the day-2 with “…not as random as this."
    • Loved this. “Next time, you can probably put on something more sexy.” - she laughed
    • GOOD; kept talking AFTER nr-close, “what were you doing now?"
    • Couldve probably ended it with a hug, but it was a good interaction
    • Something different that happened was she said she couldnt this week, but next week
  • Cute brunette
    • I tried keeping her there, cause she had bad time for the bus, just keep talking and asking, but it was too low-value (taking) and I was stressed with her being kinda stressed (keep a stronger frame)
    • She enjoyed it tho

I notice my vibe is changing up and down from with wings to with girls.. It’s like I need to put up a front, be more careful and shit. Try just PASSING ON the good vibe from with wings, to the girl, be yourself man, it’s safe.

I said to to my friends that I feel that my ego wants me to pull out when I notice it’s going well, that my mind tricks me saying I’m NOT that horny, I DON’T want that much success with women/girls.. Fear of success.

OVERALL

Lessons:

  • It’s much easier when you just jump in solo before meeting up with wing, gain momentum fast, and keep it up, don’t let yourselves walk around for too long without talking to girls
  • Don’t fall into observer-mode; when your wing(s) opens a girl, immidiately find yourself find to chat with
  • Women enjoy confident, physical guys picking them up in the street
  • I can be myself, not trying too hard, feeling like shit, and it can still go very well
  • Have a more specific solid goal for the night, something internal rather than external (in MY control)
    • Open 10 sets each time
    • Warmup with 5 people FAST, THEN do the 10 sets