Time: 1 hour solo + 1.5 hours with two wings

Opens: 9

Number-close: 1 out of 4 attempts

 

This time I was trying to focus on upon seeing the girl, I would image us fucking, me giving her an orgasm, how nice it would be to lay beside eachother sweaty - Maybe it made me approach the girl sometimes, but I would mostly forget and go back to overthinking and feeling anxiety. Althought, I’ve gotten MUCH better managing it, and also it’s been quite diminished by going out daygamging every day for over a week now!

 

Awesome solo session; I didn’t care much about “going hard” asking people for time/directions, I was just winging it and planning to talk to girls I found attractive.

 

  • Warmed up asking a girl for the library, then we talked about her school and study
  • About 20 minutes later, asked a woman for directions
  • Almost backed out of this one, I was picturing me fucking her, then I noticed our eyes met several times, and I stopped her! “I had to stop you, you look very nice.” - “oh, thanks!” - “What are you doing out?"
    • Good:
      • Challenged her; She said she was going to a workshop which sounded interesting and self-development-ish, then when she said it was for work I said that went from interesting to boring..
      • Held her hand longer, while closing her - she actually interrupted me saying she had a bf, then I touched her shoulder and said have a nice day
      • You went for it all alone, no wings to fall back on, completly solo bro!
    • Improve:
      • Do not hesitate, you KNOW when you find the girl attractive/interesting, that’s a GO!
    • References:
      • The ones YOU really find attractive are probably having mutual feelings ;)
  • Keeping momentum up, asking a woman for an area
  • 40 minutes of walking around, only find this out while listening to the recording
  • Follow a chick for three blocks/quarters because of hesitation, then I went for it! I was kinda “lucky” that she slowed down to light her cigarette, then I went around to open her.
    • Good:
      • Joked about her killing/hunting her jacket (furry)
    • Improve:
      • Stop with the canned shit, be more in the moment, say whatever you think/feel
      • Allow silences, mindful of your body and the moment with her, look into her eyes
      • Be congruent, but try drawing state from within - say self-amusing/engaging shit

 

My wings then came in during my last solo set, making a funny face behind the girl, hah!

 

  • Asked a girl, she didn’t speak my language, let her go
    • Improve: Be more of a man, dominant and leading, demanding presence, you’re the man.
  • Cute blonde girl
    • I stopped her saying she looked good, then I talked too much, too fast, give her more time to react, be cool and relax more.
    • Good:
      • Was relativly present
      • Sounded confident when opening
      • Stayed in set longer; Walked-with when she started walking, kept talking
      • Attempted number-close!
      • Shared a bit of myself, my job situation, coffee/tea preference
    • Mistakes to Lessons:
      • Use statements more overall than questions: “Aren’t you going the wrong way, then?” to “Area? You’re going the wrong way!” - Which could more easily be built upon in the conversation for fun - “You’re just a disoriented little girl!"
      • Say you’re on your way home from X: My usual thing to say is that I'm meeting with friends to make the impression that I have friends and a life (I already have those things) - This because there was a possibility of an instant-date
        • More expressing - Less impressing!
      • Stop trying to make it work, make it more fun and awesome
        • Stop trying to be smooth
        • Play to fucking win - Stop making it safe
      • Try closing with: “I have some time before meeting my friends, would you join me for a quick cup of tea?"
      • Let her know about your DICK; You had the comfort down, then be more sexual, tease and challenge playfully, imagine fucking this girl then project that energy onto her
    • Improve:
      • Stronger sense of self/reality - Step out of the “trying to impress and get this girl” frame, to “I’m the man, and I’m gonna find out if you’re cool, then see if you’re down with us sharing some 'fucking' fun ;)"
        • If she was a friend I knew, I would tease her for taking the tram instead of walking 20-30 minutes, instead of “ooh, aren’t you going the wrong way?” - trying to “make this set work"
      • Share more of yourself, knowing you’re the shit
        • This would work better if you actually felt more of the shit, doing more of the things you enjoy - I’ve been slacking off on my hobbies doing daygame
  • Waiting girl on her phone (found out she worked as a cop)
    • I could have done SO much funny shit with this set, just imagining it now at home..! She was waiting for her friend, going to the cinema seeing a movie called the Child Robber (or something) - the cop-jokes are just coming to me now, but none in-set due to nerves and attachment to validation, approval, and “playing it safe” - Found out later she had a bf whose also a cop.
    • Improve:
      • Be more in the moment WITH the woman, mindful of what you see/think/feel
      • Get self-validated (permission, amusing, ease) - Stop wanting validation and good reactions from the girl
      • Play to win! (making yourself laugh, cracking jokes you find funny - that may or may not be offensive, saying shit you “think/feel”see” with this girl, state what you find attractive about her)
    • Lessons:
      • When I latch unto her approval and validation - .. Gonna have a bad time!
      • Be at ease with yourself, be confident in being uneasy and uncofident sometimes
  • I then chat with a swedish Amnesty-promoter, just chatting, letting her do her pitch, joking some
    • Should’ve kept walking, knowing she had talked to me and seeing me around approaching chicks made me a lot more in my head
  • Brunette standing, then her friend came in
    • She was surprised to get the compliment, like “What.. Me?” - “Yeah you.” - “Oh, thank you!” - With these girls I noticed was just going thru the motions, not really wanting to date her anyway, but I WOULD fuck her.. I gotta remember this i for practice to make myself better as a man, so just go for it, you opened her for a reason, have balls and go thru, push for it.
    • Improve:
      • Was too pushy, came off as needy perhaps, when going for the number: “Come on! Live a little!”, i said, cause she hesitated..
    • Good:
      • I opened her and attempted closing her :)

 

SUMMARY:

 

GOOD

  • Tried teasing and challening some
  • Attempted closing
  • Walk-with to stay in-set
  • Opened a girl even tho it felt “too late”, following her, hesitating for too long

 

IMPROVE

  • Letting the really hot girls walk past me 'cause I didn’t have the balls to approach straight away (seeing them coming my way), then justifying it in my head saying that it’s “too late”, it would be too awkward - Just go, say hi, excuse me, don’t NEED something PLANNED to say!
  • Stay present in the moment, don’t think, don’t plan, don’t “pick the best thing to say/do” - just relax and be.
    • Use less “canned" shit, lines from sets earlier, this girl is unique, so are you, be yourself!
  • Be more at ease with yourself, be proud of yourself for doing this, allow silences - just look at the girl, be mindful of everything in you and the environment
  • Have more face-to-face time with women, instead of 80% walking and 20% being with girls, flip the ratio as much as possible!
  • Try “passing on” the fun, good vibe from with wings to the girl, generate state within yourself
  • Be more leading and dominating, don’t just allow yourself to be in the flow, letting her go the SECOND she hesitates or says “I have to go” - try and stop her, walk-with, keep jiving with her
  • Automatic Trying-for-Rapport tonality - Fix this shit! - Do more Breaking Rapport
  • Talk slower, relax more, be at ease, be comfortable being uncomfortable - Be present!
  • From all the sets today, few of them or ones I find really attractive to me, those ones are the ones I “let” walk pass me cause I can be a bitch

 

REFERENCES

  • It’s never “too late” or “too awkward” - I approached a girl I followed for three blocks, due to bitch butterflies hesitation - I went in, had a cool conversation, was okay “man to woman” style, then closed her while her brother just came in during her giving the number, haha
  • The girl with her friend wanted to fuck me, but didn’t wanna give out her number so easy and obviously, so she didn’t - I should’ve been more subtle maybe infront of her friend
  • I am abundant with girls/women:
    • Two numbers; the first one was to slow to answer, so I asked the 2th girl for the same date, I didn’t wanna wait - So the 1st girl can see me later instead.
  • Your handsome, manly, confident self can be too much for some girls - Learn to recognize this and build more comfort, backing off - relieve the tension

 

STICKING POINTS

  • Probably life-related; getting a job, working on some personal creative project (drawing/illustration/graphic design), helping/teaching my mom out with her financial situation
  • Have more focused game plan, have x number of opens as a goal, being man to woman, etc.. I could pay my wing to hold me accountable for extra commitment doing the tasks
  • Def more presence and self-trust
  • Generating self-validation, approval, and being more myself, self-amused