So, I meet this girl on tinder. 7/10, fun to talk to and active at texting. She wants to go out with me and explicitly says so, which is really nice. We move to whatsapp fast and keep talking there.

I live 1 hour away from her, but I've a lot of friends there so I go on the weekends and that's how we matched. Meeting with her after work takes a lot of time and I will be tired all the week, so it's not an attractive idea to me.

I got sick a week or two after we started talking. Thursday and friday I didn't go to work and stayed at home. On saturday it was my friend's GF birthday and I was invited to dinner and then to the club. The tinder girl told me she was going to a big club and I knew I could see her if I went there with my friends. I didn't want to go, and she even teased me about it, but one thing I learned since joining seddit is to always say yes to invitations.

Your friends invited you to the pub? your cousin invited you to the beach? a friend of a friend is going to a car meet and he wants someone in the passenger seat? There are a lot of reasons to say no, but staying at home watching netflix and reading reddit isn't one. If you catch yourself thinking excuses like "I want to watch some movies today", "it's too cold outside", "I'm feeling tired, I've only sleep 7 hours" or something like that, SAY FUCKING YES. It will get you in a more positive state, you will have fun, you will meet new people, you will have cool stories to tell on your dates and you will be glad you did it.

If you take only one thing from this post: if the question starts with "do you want to...", say yes

So, I went and met some new people, saw some friends I don't see much and had lots of fun. Went home at 6am.

She wasn't at the club. At first I told her I was staying home, so she went to another place I don't like. The next day, we texted again, we were both hangover and she didn't want to go on a date, but I pushed a little and she said yes.

I picked her up in my car around 8pm and drove to a park. It was cold, so we stayed inside smoking weed, listening to music and talking. This was the first opportunity to physically scalate and go for a kiss, but I'm always afraid of going for the first kiss, so it didn't happen (yes, I'm working on that).

We went to a bar and asked for beers. We were sitting at the bar, but there was a lot of people and the lights were all on, so it wasn't an intimate place to scalate. We had a good conversation and our legs were touching, but that's it.

I pay and we walk one block to my car. That was the moment. We were walking really close and we both were thinking the same, I only had to hold her and go for the kiss. Yep, didn't do it.

She told me she was tired and I took her home. Now, if you want to take two things from this post instead of just one, here you are: If you want to kiss her in the first date, do it. It may feel hard, but she is there looking at you and thinking why you don't do it. She is thinking that maybe you don't like her or maybe you are a pussy. Maybe you really don't like her, then it's ok, go home and find another girl, but if you like her go for the kiss in the first date. It's important, it's relaxing and it opens the door to keep scalating.

What if you are like me and couldn't do it? well, do it when saying goodbye. Yeah, you kiss her and then she goes away, it sucks, but it's way better than not doing it. I was going to do that, but there was a miscalculation and I fucked it up. Kissed her cheek like a friend and went home.

A few minutes after that she texts me saying she had a good time and I replied that I did too. An hour after that she sends another text, "why you didn't kiss me? you don't like me?". Of course she wanted a kiss, it was obvious and I fucked up. Trust your instincts, kiss her in the first date, don't be a coward.

The story continues and I kissed her the next weekend, but there isn't much to learn from there.

TL;DR: If somebody invites you somewhere, you say yes and have fun instead of staying at home watching movies/sleeping/reading reddit.

If you like her and you think she is into you, go for the kiss in the first date.