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So I made a post recently asking for tips as I start this new journey of trying to break out of my shell and start talking to people. To have proper perspective I want to briefly talk a little bit about my self. If you want to skip this just go to the FR section of this post:
I am extremely short. It is the biggest problem I have with myself and it is the main reason why I am so shy. In my head, I think to myself, why in god's name would some chick date/talk with you when there are so many men in the world who are taller and/or better looking. It's something I have struggled with for a long time. I have a really good personality but the hard part is get to the point where it shows. I am absolutely terrified of opening up to strangers. It literally makes me feel nauseous sometimes. I often find myself running through all possible line of dialog that could come up and try to address them before hand and once I reach a "limb" that I can't finish I say, well fuck that that would be awkward. Then I chicken out and continue looking around. So that's me in a nutshell.
FR SECTION:
I decided to go to the mall. My mission for this night was to just talk to people. Random people I did not know. and try to just have a conversation. I wasn't trying to get a phone number or anything. Just conversation. As soon as I walk in I see a cologne section with a gorgeous teller. She was taller than me so initially I thought, don't do it. Thought on it for a little bit and decided fuck it, start crazy. So I walk over and see a shorter and older coworker with her. "Shit, I am already walking over here can't stop now." And here is what went down. Girl A is the shorter one and Girl B is the gorgeous one.
Me: "Hi!, I need your professional opinion... what is your favorite cologne?"
(made eye contact with both girls, shorter older one took charge)
A: "Alright I can help you out Let's go take a look over here."
(we walk over to the cologne and I think fuck I blew it, wrong girl. Girl B follows us though and while girl A goes behind the counter, B stands to the side of me. A pulls out a bunch of different colognes and starts saying she likes X and Y cologne so after smelling a couple I turn to B and ask her which is her favorite.)
B: "Cologne X"
Me: "Oh wow that does smell good."
B: "I really like that one."
( I see Acqua di Gio and ask if they have a sample of that)
Me: "Do you have a sample of this one right here? I can't pronounce it though."
A:"Oh yeah I think so one sec."(turns around to get sample)
Me:(I turn to B)"How do you pronounce that?" (with a smile of course)
B: "Acqua Di Gio"
Me: "That sounds amazing." (she kinda laughs)
( I smell the rest and say that I will continue to look around but really appreciate them taking the time to help me.)
A: "Not a problem, if you come back 'B' will be here to help you."
(I look at b and she smiles and waves. So I reach my hand out and shake both their hands saying my name and thank them and leave.)
At this point a friend who I invited out informs me he is here and brought 2 other guys. (bummer) So I go to meet them and find another opportunity to talk to a girl at one of the booths.
Me:"Hi I am supposed to be meeting friends here... and they said they are outside of Sears... but here I am and they aren't here."
Her: "Are they at the Men's Sears?"
Me: "I have no idea, they just said Sears."
Her: "Sure, the other door is down and to the right."
Me:"Thanks."(boring I know but w.e, trying to practice getting over talking to them)
So then I meet up with my friends and we go into a Sunglass Hut. At this point I felt like the focus wasn't on me anymore, it was on my friends. 2 of them are body builders and chick's kryptonite so when I tried to open on her she basically walked past me and went to one of the other guys. This kinda sucked and really ruined my momentum. Add onto this that I went to buy shoes and asked for a size 7 only to be told that I would need to look in the kids section. This completely destroyed me emotionally and socially and I knew I was probably out for the count. So we went to a pub, had some food and split. While at the pub I made eye contact with one of the waitresses but didn't do anything about it due to feeling fucking beta around these guys.
All in all I think it was interesting but done in the wrong way? To me it felt like asking for them to help me pick a cologne or for directions is way easier to do than "Hi you're cute, lets talk." Next time I go, I will definitely fly solo. Socially though, I am exhausted right now. I might update this if anything else comes to mind. Just wanted to document this. I am going to try and do this again on Thursday. So we will see how that goes and any feedback will be read and digested no matter how harsh. Cheers!
TL;DR: Opened on 2 girls but talked about normal stuff, then had my night ruined by a couple of things happening that caused me to basically feel like a level 1 beta.
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