Had a friend over at my house a couple of weeks ago and he noticed my copy of The Game. We got talking about the whole seduction scene and it turns out we both had some interest in improving seduction/pick up. We got talking and decided to go out and try out a few things. He has had some experience doing this solo but I have had zero experience.

We went out last night with the intention of trying to go up and talk to girls. Went to a bar/club that has a pretty good reputation of having loads of good looking girls.

In the queue my mate started talking to a group of young girls (about 6 or 7 of them) and starting using stuff like “Who do you think lies more – men or women” and the opener about whether it is considered cheating if a girl kisses other girls. The girls were a bit young and pretty lippy so I didn’t really care about talking to them. One thing I did notice is that despite the fact they were being lippy and rude he was still able to bring them around to decent social conversation (despite the fact he managed to make fun of one of the girl’s hair which she didn’t take well).

In the club we ran into a group of three girls, two of which we knew and the other was a friend of their. I kept looking around the room looking for eye contact to try and hold with other girls. Once or twice I made eye contact but broke it straight away (bad habit of mine). I chatted to the girl I didn’t know which was fine. I was totally fine talking to this girl I didn’t know, but couldn’t just go up and talk to another stranger – it feels weird.

Funnily enough we both ran into a girl we had both slept with recently which was a bit awkward but we handled it ok. After this my mate approached a couple of girls and encouraged me to do the same. I simply couldn’t do it. I have chronic approach anxiety, if you were to divide up my AA across every guy on the planet I don’t think anyone would be able to do approaches. It’s horrible. I did see a classic mother hen example which was interesting. We then left and he tried another couple of approaches with no success.

Despite the fact I made no cold approaches it was still interesting to see someone in action. Also, it really made me realise my major sticking point is AA. I booked into speed dating on Wednesday for a laugh hoping it will help. Anyone have experience with this?

One thing that stuck out that I was hoping you guys could help with:

  • All the cold interactions seem so forced and fake, in many ways I hate this. Should I just stay away from nightclub/pub game or is this just something I need to change my mind-set about?