I want to start off by saying thank you, thank you for all that you have taught me over the past 3 months seddit. You have inspired me to break out of my stubborn shell and just fucking do it already. For reference, I'm a sophomore in college and last night was my first night out of the semester. I have never been at a party, struck up a conversation with a stranger, and gotten her number, until now.

(FR) Girl#1- Made and HELD eye contact with an HB7. I did that thing I learned on here where you should never be the first one to break eye contact and boom I got a smile. That was my in and so I walked up and introduced myself. Made small talk, whats your major, what year are you, where are you from. I told her that I was 20 minutes from the city and that my friends and I never visited. She then started talking about her trip to France and that took off in several different directions. We talked for about 10 minutes, no pauses, and the body language from her end was positive and I did my best to initiate kino in tight areas- a slight touching of the arm, I complimented her dress and felt the fabric at the same time, little things like that. After ten minutes I told her I had to go meet back up with my friends but that it was really nice meeting her and asked for her number.

Girl#2- Walked up a flight of stairs and saw a huge crowd of girls just standing around. (wasn't sure why) I said, and this is something I never would have had the confidence to say before, "so this is where all the girls are!" One girl, HB7 turned to me and said, this is where the keg is. She asked if I was getting a drink and I told her how I don't drink at parties anymore, just before them. We started talking about drinking, pregaming, I met a friend of hers along the way. I found out she (the HB7, not the friend) was a transfer so I asked her about her other school and that went in different directions as well. After about 6 minutes I ejected and gave her my cell phone so she could put her number in it.

Girl#3- This really cute, short girl, HB8, comments on how hot it was in the party (it was hot as hell). I pretty much just went off that, made strong initial eye contact and opened a conversation with her. I found out that it was her birthday and so we talked about that. I found out she was a freshman so I asked her what classes she was taking/why she was taking them/what she wanted to be after college, etc. (dentist, btw) I also opened her guy friends, introduced myself and asked them the quick basics, whats your name, where are you from. I then brought my attention back to the girl and talked for a few minutes longer, I'm not sure what about. After about 10 minutes, I handed her my phone to put her number in it, then ejected.

Girl#4- I met her friend first, then her. She was an HB7.5. Made small talk about where she was from and how she liked the school so far. Very quickly, probably after 3 minutes, I asked for her number. After i got it I asked what her plan was for the rest of the night. She said she and her friends were going downtown and that I should come. So I went with her downtown, and on the way met all of her 6 friends. I talked to her about a lot of things, like where she went to school, what, if any sports did she play, what she wanted to major in, what classes she was taking, etc. as we got closer to the bars she started asking me whether or my I thought her fake ID would get her in. I told her she's a pretty girl and that she would have no problem. I said that I was the one who needed to be worried. I told her that I would have a better chance of getting in if I was with her. She said ok, so I put my arm around her and we walked the last half a block until we got to the entrance. We both for in no problem and when we did she and her friends went straight to order drinks. I asked her if she wanted to dance and she was sort of resisting, I had no idea why. After a little bit of trying to dance with her and failing I finally decided to eject. I told her that it was really nice hanging out with you and that we would do it again, but that I was gonna go find my friends. She said ok, gave me a big hug and asked me to text her so that she could have my number. I then left.

I don't understand what happened, she invites me downtown with her and every time it seemed like I walked slower or faster, she was right beside me. We made good conversation and she seemed interested. Then we got to the bars and just like that, from hot to cold. I don't understand, does anyone have any explanation for this? Maybe I should have shown a little more resistance when she first asked me to go downtown, rather than just agreeing right away.....

All things considered, this was the best night I've ever had out, and it's all credit to seddit. (hey that rhymes!). I have never, like I said, randomly approached a girl I'd never met before, talked, and asked for her number, and tonight I did it four times. What really worked for my approach anxiety was the anecdote I read on here a couple months back about how elephants tied by rope to a tiny pick in the ground could at anytime use their strength to break free but never tried. They never tried in their older age because when they were just babies they couldn't break free and so they were conditioned to think that they were stranded there. The title of the post is "it's called mindset." I highly suggest anyone with approach anxiety to search it and save it. I'm going to read it before every time I go out from now on.