I bolded "signs" of some more important situations. Consider them TL:DR

To be clear, I'm a little social looser and AFC, I suck shit and out of PU I want better social skills, women second but I think this shit goes together anyway. I'm like the guys who created the community of PU, future programmer/engineer with little social skills. I even catch myself having their early PU mindset. Ok but about night:

I and other 7 of my "group-mates" from college organised via event on facebook to go to a nightclub this night. There were going to be 6 guys and 2 girls + any friends of theirs.

1st venue: I got to the club where the party was supposed to be. I thought the venue is closed today... but it wasn't. It was just so fucking empty... I found there 5 other guys and one of my guy friends K. At least it was free entrance. I suggested going to the other club because we couldn't contact anybody else. Luckily other guy friend M has just arrived by his car so we drove to the second club.

2nd venue: [Downoward negative spiral:] We arrived and I was stiff. M was negative fuck (I kind of like him but let's be honest) and K was stiff too. After some time we changed our boof and sat with some other group but neither of us had the balls to open them and talk with them and M was still negative fuck and probably DGAF about socialising. I knew I should and It's nothing wrong with being friendly, I tried remembering good thoughts and practicing Ghost and Flame to make myself go socialise, but well... it didn't happen. I was over-analysing what to say, I actually lost my conversational skills every time I wanted to open them. We found out that other people from facebook DGAF about event they organised so we were left alone.

[Trying to open] K started wandering around and asking girls to dance and he failed 80% of the time but he tried while I was still stiff as fuck... I noticed him at the bar next to HB5 and HB6.5. I took my chance and approached him, exchanged a few sentences and then tried to open the girls with kino. I placed my hands lightly on their shoulders (since they were by the bar, their backs to me) like in "how to kino" series. "Hi! How's it going?" but this convo was mostly made of "whaat?" "are you not hearing well?" to which I replied "I do".. I don;t know why but HB5 told me that she hears worse on one ear blah blah.... [I guess I focused on and looked too much in the eyes of 5 instead the cuter 6.5 who actually interested me. 5 was more receptive and even though they both giggled at awkward situation of making convo without hearing any other I focused on 5 which was my mistake] They didn;t really turn around to me, especially HB6.5 so I returned to my friend K just next to them and talked a bit more. Girls went on their way and we got back to our sad, negative part of boof next to this group of seemingly cool guys and at least attractive girls having fun.

Rest of the night in the club looked similiar, M was negative and pissed at our other friends and wanted to go for hookers. K was trying to dance with girls but I can say it was at least a bit creepy. I instead was stiff and sitting, trying to bring myself back into positive state, reading my little cheatsheet in the toilet, trying to do a quick meditation or something and open some girls with handshake to spinning them around.

[Friendly people] There was a bit of fun when one girl's 21st birthady were celebrated by their friends hitting her on the ass with a belt... 21 times. Everyone was friendly, some guys in the booth next to them talked with the girl and shouted something about belt, girls in the back did the same excluding shouting. Everyone around had good time when she screamed, laughed and talked even though rest of her group wasn;t so outgoing. Well the latter didn't happen and other didn't help much. K and M wanted to go to the old-town so I agreed after they persisted since club wasn't fun tonight... not for me.

3d "venue": I, K and M went to grab some food and I told K to punch me hard if I see a cute girls around our age and don;t approach her. Nothing particular happened. We got back to the car which didn;t start... Car was towed with M to his house. Our girl friend W called us and wanted us to go to other pub so we went there... I and K that is.

4th venue: [Friendly strangers again] On our way to W guy on the bus stop asked us "How's it going" So we started talking and it occured to me... fuck people are friendly... especially after alcohol... and everybody drinks at a night club.

We arrived at pub and W greeted us at entrance. We met W's girl friend and her boyfriend and they've quickly gone for a bus. We went to grab some food since it was almost 4am and then went to for the bus home. K left us at the bus "station" and I took bus with W since we live close (as it occured). I sucked at convo but keeping with commonalities such as common schools or experiences with people made some convo and it wasn;t that bad. I tried making a lot of eye contact and I guess it worked well since she returned it. I wasn't trying to game her, rather try to talk with her to know her more and practice my charisma. We split up near our homes and here I am.

It's 5:15 am and I just wrote this worthless FR. It;s pretty worthless to the community but I learned some things just by writing this.

What I learned: * Negativity is a baaaaad thing when it comes to having fun and socialising.

  • I guess I should be more persistent when it comes to girls not giving me much attention. This time she actually had boyfriend as I noticed later but I could at least push it enough to make her say that to me and/or make friends with her.

  • Everyone, almost every-fucking-one is more friendly that I think.

  • I can;t have fun in a club and I want to fix it.

  • My eye contact, convo skills and body language need improvement in action.

  • I should learn how to open properly, non creepy and fixing attention on me.

What more I should and can learn from this? Any advice will be appreciated. TL:DR- bolded text in [brackets] marks more important (IMO) stuff and "What I learned" part.

PS: Have you got any links to solid nightclub game? I think I lack some guidance and visualisation. If anybody is in Poland and has some skills... I want to go out with you and just watch how you do your thing.