This one happened about 3 weeks back. Haven't had time to write it down.

Met this girl on OkC. We had a conversation thread going for a little bit, and it died off since we weren't able to work out a time to meet up. Then I didn't talk to her for about a month, then I noticed that she visited my profile. I said to myself, 'what the hell', and just messaged her again. This time, we had agreed to meet up for drinks after work.

So my first impression was that she didn't look like her picture. Usually, the girls look better than their pictures. But I got over that and got us a seat at the booth. Bar booths are actually quite narrow, so you can actually sit across from each other and touch easily, and the legs underneath can't help but touch if you're facing each other.

I noticed that at first, her lower body was turned away from me. And from reading somewhere on here, that she was ready to go. I can't say that initially, she was too interested in the conversation, and for that matter, neither was I. Just small talk about where she worked, and how she's back at her old job.

This was something I was dreadful at before. I'd keep asking about work, then get distracted by some topic about work that was interesting to me. But as women (I've met, at least) rarely seem to find passion in their work, they associate those bad feelings of work with me.

This time, I made sure to quickly find a segue from work to something more fun, like vacation or travel. She started complaining about her boss, and I asked her when her next vacation was.

I can't recall most of the conversation, as it mostly moved to her interests like watching baseball. But I was keenly aware of the kino that we were doing. I'd do the usual touch to emphasize points. Since our booth was narrow, it was easy to reach across and touch her hand, without it seeming like I was trying too hard. Another one I ran was that I noticed she had a gigantic ring on (it was hard to miss). So I asked her about it, just as an excuse to hold her hand. Come to think of it now, she didn't drop it quickly and just let me hold it, and I was the one that eventually dropped it. I should drop those kinos more quickly, as part of the push part of push/pull.

In addition, her lower body had moved towards pointing toward me as she grew more comfortable, and eventually, our knees were touching. I'm mildly surprised by how IOIs and kino works once you pay attention to doing it.

I had somewhere else to be, so we left after an hour and a half at the bar. We walked outside. I'm always a bit sheepish about k-closing in public, so this time, it was first a kiss on the cheek, then before letting go, I paused, and then just a closed mouth kiss on the lips.

I have to admit, I wasn't terribly attracted to the girl (but probably wouldn't mind f-closing her), and that is what hold me back a lot of the time, even though she was giving me IOIs. I haven't asked her out again since, but we've texted back and forth. She was the first to text after the date:

Her: Hi. How's it going?

Me: Doing well! Walking around at a street festival. You?

Her: Street fest? Which one? Im good. Just woke up

Me: Down in XXXX! Was serendipitous. You must have a had a late night watching baseball... :) [She likes baseball. I should have made a reference to making it to first base or something sexual]

Her: It is such a gorgeous day!!! Wish it was warmer so I could lay on a beach

Me: Haha, yeah, the weather is pretty good. Hopefully, it'll stay that way while camping for the next couple of days! And no bears.

Her: Nice! That's gonna be fun. Yes, watch out for bear. Especially hungry bears.

Then I didn't hear from her for a week while I was out camping. Then I got:

Her: U free next weekend for Sac?

Me: Sac? What is it? Sound dirty. :) or do you mean Saturday?

Her: Lol! Sacramento. Sounds dirty- pls. Sorry- that text was meant for my sister. Too back you cant recall texts.

Then she was saying she was watching a baseball game on TV. I live about an hour from her, or else I would have just asked her to come over or something. But that's where things are at. I haven't had time to pull the trigger on her.

I think I generally did pretty well here (well, better than before), and it was the catalyst for me to realize that if I can get her comfortable and attracted, I don't actually have to chase her, and let her come to me.

I'm not sure if i'll pull the trigger on her, but maybe. I have other two girls lined up for this weekend. Abundance is great. Thanks seddit.