Context

When ever I go to the mall with my friend/friends I usually make 1 or 2 approaches that have up until today resulted in failure. Now the two main friends that I go with never approach with me, they usually heckle and watch me (not the best friends for PU I know...). So today I before going out, I had fb messaged an HB (she has claims to have no cell, I told her to give me her landline, she said fb is better) telling her to give me her landline# so I could tell her our plans for today. I had dressed up in case she fb messaged me back while I was at the mall and I had to go meet her. So I was feeling very confident. I also read an FR beforehand about a money game where a friend takes your money, and for every approach you get a certain amount back to eventually earn all you money back. I ended up giving my friend $20 and he said 5 approaches, $4 for each approach. There was about an hour left till the store closed. I also was shopping.

1st Approach - Inside Clothing Store

I am considering buying a jacket. I walk up to this HB6.5 with this jacket on.

tm: How does this jacket look? (I probably should have said "how do I look?")

S: laughs It's nice.

tm: I feel like it has earthy tones.

S: Hmm, Yeah.

tm: Yeah that was an artsy statement.

S: Mhm. Are you an artist?

tm: No, graphic designer. You have a nice style, are you a fashion designer?

S: No film maker.

tm: Oh! What type of films to you make?

S: I like making music videos.

tm: Cool. I'm a rapper (not a joke) so maybe one day you could do one for me.

S: laughs Yeah!

tm: We should- We should go do- We should go do some activities later on. (Yes, I stumbled hard with this close. Very bad. I obviously wasn't direct enough. I think she took this as a meeting to plan a music video...) takes out phone Give me your number.

S: Yeah! gives number and name

tm: My name is tm btw. (make a joke about my name, can't remember if I shook her hand).

S: laughs

tm: It was nice meeting you.

S: Yeah!

tm: Thanks! (ugh, I really should not have said that...)

She was very responsive, but I feel like she misunderstood the whole thing. I probably won't text her. Unless I need a music video haha.

2nd Approach - Inside same clothing store (1st HB had just left)

I go in with the same "how's this jacket" opening. She tried to drift away through out the conversation. As I remember I just stood right where I was. HB7

tm: (jacket opening+complimenting her style saying she looks like a person who knows clothing)

J: Uhm... It looks good. How much is it? smiles

tm: Only $50.

J: Wow that's good.

tm: Yeah, it's a steal. I feel like a burglar. J attempts to walk away So do you do fashion design?

J: No, Business.

tm: Oh cool, where?

J: Blahblah. (known for partying around my area)

tm: Party school nice. So do you like to party?

J: Sometimes, only on the weekends.

tm: Ah I see, being good girl.

J: attempts to leave again

tm: Well we should party together sometime. If I'm ever in Blahblah area we can do something.

J: Yeah.

tm: takes out phone Give me your number.

J: Here, let me put it in. (What does this say about her?)

tm: Okay. hands phone

J: puts in number That is my real number btw. (Just thinking now... sarcasm?)

tm: Wow! I real number, can't believe it!. (Sarcasm...)

S: laughs (at my sarcasm, not at me)

We say goodbye and part ways. Looking back on the "real number" part and how many times she tried to walk away, I now think the number I got is fake... I did text her a few hours later (late I know), but no response.

3rd Approach - In Shoe Section of Sport chek.

I go in using the same type of opening. Except I use a pink woman's shoe asking how it looks. (I just held it up, didn't put it on haha) She is talking quiet and with not much charisma. HB7

R: laughs Looks good.

tm: How about on you? holds shoe to her feet Yeah that would look good.

R: Mhm. smiling

tm: So are you a runner?

R: Yeah.

tm: Cool, I am trying to get into running myself. Any tips?

R: (Long talk about running tips then warning about injuring yourself and needing a splint) I had that happen to me.

tm: Well I guess the running just couldn't handle you!

R: laughs

tm: We should go running sometime, you could help me. (I need to be more direct...) gets phone What's your number?

R: I can't.

tm: Aw, why not? (chump response...)

R: I have a boyfriend, he's over their. looks to men's section (wow... he wasn't even look over at us, I'm sure he could here us)

tm: Okay, thanks for the advice anyways. Bye!

R: Bye.

I wish she said she had a boyfriend earlier, I guess she really thought I was talking to her for advice only. Shoulda know from her timidness. A negative part about being indirect. Luckily the boyfriend did nothing at all, not even a look when I yelled sorry to him. (chump move)

4th (Last) Approach - The Bay (Main clothing store in mall)

At this point we are leaving the mall. I am very desperate to find a girl. My friend spots one and I walk towards her, but I see this HB7 who looks more my age and decide to go in for her instead. I have this empty bag with me, from the jacket I bought, that I am now wearing.

tm: Hi!

W: Hi, can I help you?

tm: Oh do you work here?

W: Yes. (dang...)

tm: Well I have this bag here, could you use it?

W: You want me to take it?

tm: Yes. Could you reuse it for something?

W: Sure.

tm: Okay cool, so you can put clothes in it.

W: Well it has printing not from this store on the outside. We would use it for (I forget what).

tm: turns bag inside-out There.

W: puzzled look We still can't use it.

tm: Well okay I guess you can still have it. I have an idea, how about we trade?

W: What?

tm: I give you this bag, and you give me your number.

W: laughs No sorry.

tm: I like a girl who plays hard to get.

W: smiles No sorry.

tm: Well okay, here's the bag. (I should've kept that bag! She doesn't deserve it :(.) Bye.

W: Thanks bye.

Ridiculousness I know. I was very desperate and didn't really care. Also at some point I asked her age, i don't know why. She said 19. I didn't have much comment.

As my friend and I were leaving he said that one didn't count. I tell him that I tried #closing. He obviously knows that it should count. So I yell out to the W as we are leaving.

tm: Hey! I asked for your # right?

W: laughing and smiling Yeah! Good job! (not sarcasm haha)

So afterwards ask him for change (He gets to keep $4). He says no and just lets me keep the $20. I say that defeats the purpose because if we do it again I will feel less pressure. He says well maybe he'll take the money next time...

Conclusion

That money game really pushed me. I will definitely be doing that again.I need to work on my direct approaches, or at least being more direct and assertive. I am getting more used to approaching and gaining confidence. I can hold eye contact easily now, but looking towards her lips is odd for me. I also need to use kino. I feel that most girls I approach are laughing often. I feel like maybe they don't take me seriously? I am 17 (turning 18 soon) so it is hard finding girls around my age. Almost all the HBs I approached today and other times are in their 20s so I am getting used to older women.

Other notes

Ever since yesterday, when I got my first close. I have been feeling sick, almost nervous or having butterflies. It's hard for me to eat. I guess I'm just not used to talking to HBs much. I am fine in the moment but afterwards i feel sick. I am still confident and what not though. My friends have always picked at me for trying to get girls through pick up and failing. I just yesterday I go my first close and today 2, but they are still the same. They are jealous probably, but it is getting on my nerves. (not affecting game, just getting me mad). I need to find a real wingman. Any one around Hamilton, ON?...

tl;dr Ridiculous/odd openings/jokes, 1st HB gave me # possibly thinking it was only for business reasons, 2nd HB gave me a possibly fake number, 3rd HB had a boyfriend, 4th HB was an employee. Improving, but have a long ways to go