Well, seddit, I would like to post about this amazing date I had with this girl I met during lunch last week. Unfortunately, it didn't go nearly as well as I had hoped, despite trying to ready myself as much as possible. So, without further ado, here is my field report.

I had a date set up with this girl I met during lunch on Thursday. I will call her T. We met at a Starbucks near the campus because I didn't really know much about her and I know I like coffee, so it seemed an easy choice. She got there before I did, and she didn't notice me walk in. I stood by the door and texted her a greeting, but she didn't look up, so I just went over and greeted her.

  • Mistake #1, I should've just gone to her and said hi. I wanted to seem playful, but I don't think it came across as such.

After I said hi, she got up and we shook hands.

  • Mistake #2, I should've gone for a hug or something more.

We ordered our coffee, me going first. After I ordered and payed for mine, and kind of hovered near the table she was sitting at before. After a minute I sat down there.

  • I have no idea whether this was a mistake or not. I think I should have stayed around her or gone to sit down. By hovering it seemed like I was indecisive. Maybe I'm reading too much into this. ugh.

The sitting arrangements for the table was a booth-like seat and a chair across from it. I moved the chair so I was at a near right angle to T. We talked for a little bit, and I tried to touch my legs to hers for a bit. It didn't really work out that well. About a half an hour later, I said we should go for a walk. We exited and walked towards the campus. I led the way, of course. At least I did that right. I didn't do anything but bumping my arm against hers here for a while.

  • Mistake #3, seriously, I think I'm retarded. I could've grabbed her hand or had her put her arm around mine or put my arm around her. Instead, I barely touched her. Awesome.

I started a game called "Questions," where each person asks the other a question (More on this in a bit, but the questions right here are "Get to know you" type questions.). We get to a table at the campus, and at this point the conversation is pretty good. I've made her laugh and I'm actually enjoying myself. She seems to be enjoying herself as well. We talk for a bit more. We are sitting at right angles again. At some point, I ask if I can see a ring she is wearing.

  • Mistake #4, I wanted to hold her hand here, but she took the ring off and gave it to me. I should've asked differently. I could have said "let me see your hand" or something similar.

Around this point, I started asking sexual questions such as "What type or panties are you wearing" and "When did you have your first orgasm?" After several of these questions, the conversation never turned sexual.

  • Mistake #5, I never successfully turned the conversation sexual. I guess I just have to try harder, but I wasn't able to get her to really talk about sex openly. This might have been extra hard because I didn't ramp up the kino.

She mentioned at this point that she had a prior commitment and couldn't stay long, so I decided we should start heading back to where she parked her bike. She continued the questions game here, asking me several screening questions. Questions such as my stance on gay marriage and abortion. (This was a huge red light for me, but I answered anyway. I thought I might as well be honest :/ )

  • I'm not sure if this was a mistake or not. I usually don't like to talk about this stuff because it is so controversial. Oh well. Maybe taking a stand actually helped me.

As we were walking back, I told her to give me her hand and I twirled her. T asked me why I did that, and I answered "I just wanted to twirl you." We went on talking about dancing at that point and then she asked if I had any phobias. I admitted to spiders. She talked about how she hated spiders as well. She also mentioned about a specific fear of dying alone (not married, etc). I asked her if she would marry someone out of desperation and she said "Only if he was really rich." She asked me about who I thought the most attractive celebrity was. I mentioned Mila Kunis who she didn't know. I also mentioned Lizzy Hale, who she didn't know either. Anyway, She answered Jonny Depp. At this point we got to her bike and we parted ways. She came at me for a frontal hug. We talked for another minute, and I tried to hug her again, but got a side hug. She thanked me for the "date" (she even used quote fingers . . .) I asked her why she used quote fingers and she said she really didn't know what this was. I told her not to worry about labeling it.

  • Mistake #6, She was confused at the end as to whether or not this was an actual date. Spectacular. I think this mistake is really a culmination of all the other mistakes. I'm still listing this though.

As I was walking to my car, she passed me on her bike and yelled hi and waved. I waved back and told her not to fall (She wasn't wearing a helmet. I think it was a dorky comment. She laughed though.) As I was driving home, she yelled hey and waved as I passed her. I waved back.

So, Seddit, that's about it. I didn't go into too much detail because I thought a lot of it was irrelevant. I barely touched her the whole time. That was my biggest mistake. I really don't think I will get another shot at her, because by now she probably thinks of me only as a friend. We do have a lot of similarities and she was fun to hang out with, but I blew it. IF I get another chance, I would have to up the kino tremendously. I will have other dates with other girls, but it's just so frustrating that I can't even do something so seemingly simple. Writing about doing this stuff is so much different than actually doing it in real life.