I kinda went back and forth on writing up this post, because really while this was a milestone night for me I know it doesn't stack up to some of the other stuff going on around here. Still, for me it was huge. So gonna write.

I had an OKCupid date set up (this gets better, I swear) for 7pm. Nothing extravagant, just meeting up with this gal for a milkshake at a local place. I contacted this girl back in like August and communication was... weird/flaky, but then we messaged some the other day and I used the "Hey I know we're both busy, and I don't want to waste your time or mine, so if your serious about meeting up give me your number and I'll find a time for us to meet up" line, she gave me her number, and I set up the date. I was a little iffy because she's a bit taller than me (and a bit older) which I don't typically find attractive, but I'm trying to put myself out there, expand my comfort zone, and try out new things (including women I may not have previously been willing to go out with).

We talked for about two hours. There wasn't really any chemistry but I think we both really enjoyed ourselves and maybe I'll hit her up again for something social. Not sure yet. Walked her to her car, gave her a kiss, and parted ways.

I was supposed to meet some friends/coworkers for bowling, so came home to change but couldn't get ahold of any of them. At this point I was actually kinda bummed. The date was fine but obviously wasn't mindblowing, and now I couldn't get ahold of my friends. On a whim texted a gal I met not too long ago (at a club, blowjob in my car afterwards - first time anything like that had ever happened for me). She said she was at a bar near my house (with her friend I also met that first night). I told her I thought she should come over, and she said she'd text me later. We've texted a few times since I met her but nothing ever went anywhere. Rather than waiting for her to text me I got changed and went down to the bar and met up her and her friend (they were out with her friends' coworkers come to find out). She and her friend were glad to see me, so really glad I just had the balls to show up instead of waiting around to hear from her.

Quick aside: Her friend caught my eye first when I first met them, and I still find her really hot. But you work with what you're given. She wasn't the one that things happened with, so not going to wreck myself for one thing when something else is already working out. That said... both seem pretty open, casual, etc. (kissed both of them basically upon meeting them the night I met them) so who knows.

Anyway we shot some pool and stuff like that, I cut up with their friends and we basically just had a good time for an hour or two. I maybe should write more here about what the interaction was like in case it would be instructional to anyone, but for now I won't go into it - I can edit things in if anyone wants. While I was at the bar my friend/coworker called me, said bowling was canceled but they had gone to a strip club. Now, that really surprised me, because she was with her boyfriend, they don't really seem like strip club people, etc. (definitely not somewhere I'd been before!), but I told her I was with friends and if they wanted to join me they could, otherwise I'd check in with them later. But I didn't want to really make any plans now that I was with the gal I texted... you know, things might lead to things, right?

A former coworker of hers, a gay guy, texted her and said he was at another bar downtown (I work downtown and that's much more my scene when I go out) and wanted to see her. Eventually we headed out to find him. I was kinda hoping her friend would come but she didn't (she was like... throwing up drunk I guess). The gal I was with followed in her car and I suggested we park under my office; I have free downtown parking any time because of work, but this factors in more later.

So we walked over to that other bar, and really wound up not even doing anything there because her gay friend was just outside smoking with some of his friends. When they were finished smoking he suggested going to the local gay-friendly bar. It's actually a decent place, probably has the best music in town and the best dance floor, and incidentally is where I met the gal I was with, so of course we went. He paid for our covers which for me adds a little humor to the night - a gay guy paying my cover in the midst of the rest of this night, but anyway.

We hung out there for a bit. My friends called, asked if I could give them a ride cause they were drunk, but I told them I was busy and I'd check in with them later. At this point it was about 1am or so. I suggested to the gal that we leave and she agreed, so we walked back to the office where my car was parked.

Now, we've got a parking garage under the building, and if you have the code you can get into the building and take the elevator down. So we did that of course. This played out somewhat similarly as when I met this gal. Last time though she wanted to have sex but 1) I didn't have any condoms, 2) I was still a virgin, and 3) I didn't have any condoms. Well of course this time I did, but also didn't want to bother with backseat car sex. Last time we'd parked down there the building was closed so we weren't actually able to get in (construction), but this time it wasn't.

In the basement off the garage there are bathrooms, and I knew the ladies' had a decent couch on it. We made out quite a bit in the elevator then I took her in the bathroom, we made out some more, she blew me, I fingered her, etc. etc. Asked if she wanted it (this was kinda a joke because the first time she was begging me for sex, but virgin or no I wasn't gonna go without a condom), she said she did of course, so told her I had some condoms in my car this time, went out and got them, we fucked for awhile.

We parted ways at about 2:30. Everything in my town closes at 2, so I figured my friends were long gone, but called them to check up on them. Well, the strip club doesn't close til 4 I found out, so I said I'd come get them. But they asked me to hang out with them there for a bit, and at first I didn't want to, but then I said what the hell. I'm actually kinda a reserved guy, and I'd already just had sex in the bathroom where I work so I felt like I'd covered enough ground for the night, but, again, what the hell, why not?

So went in there. They thought it was pretty funny that I joined them (and it was) and paid for a couple lap dances for me. I really couldn't help but to just laugh, though. I was literally having sex not twenty minutes before this, and here are all these guys paying to look at tits and get lapdances. I actually had a good time, though I can't ever see that becoming my scene. I just rode the good vibe the rest of the night (my roommate, who dates my coworker, was sitting between me and his girlfriend and gets a lapdance and I tell the stripper - "Hey, go easy, he's a virgin" which I am still laughing at the face he gave me for that).

We left when the place closed. Due to logistics I took my coworkers two friends back to their car across town, and we chatted a bit and when the one in the front seat left she put her hand on mine and told me to be safe driving home, but honestly I was spent physically and mentally by that time and just told her to have a good night.

That's how I kicked off 2014.

I don't know if anyone will gather anything from this or not. I hope it will be inspirational and if anyone wants details added I'll throw them in so maybe it can be instructional, too. I tried to include at least some technique, mindset, etc. I'm not a master at this. I'm no pickup artist. I barely know what the hell I'm doing. Almost one year ago I decided it was time to figure out how the hell the guy/girl thing worked, largely due to finding this subreddit. I read a lot and moved in August and tried to hit the ground running. Read The Game and Models (and about half of Mystery Method, which I want to go back and finish but it's so technical and I think Mystery goes for a different kind of woman than I go for, even though there was still a lot of good tips in there) and actually went and put myself out there. Have gotten numbers, kissed girls, lost my virginity on Thanksgiving Day, and have really had a lot of fun meeting neat people. This post is really just the result of putting into practice so much of the stuff that I read. That moment sitting in the strip club with this strippers tits on my face when I'd just had sex half an hour before is going to stay with me for a long, long time - that's the king-of-the-world kind of memory that you can pull yourself up by your bootstraps with.

I'm no one special. I'm 29 years old, 5'8", weight about 155, don't work out (plan to soon, or so I always say), and I feel like my personality gets me a lot farther than my looks (though I have made a serious effort at things like dressing and grooming). I'm pretty vanilla, but just scratching the surface here have already had more success than I expected, and I really do believe anyone can do this.

That wraps up my first Field Report. If you read the whole thing, that's probably more amazing than the story itself haha.