There's this HB8 bartender that I've known for some time. She works at a pub that I like going. I usually just tease her because we root for different local sports teams. It's fun. This is the type of bartender that is flirtatious with everyone. Men hit on her and buy her drinks all the time.

So there's this new waitress that walks around the pub with a menu. So I started talking to her and told her "I'm going to need two things from you, the first one is your name (which she gave right away), and the second one is your number" "but I don't know you" "it's fine, I know you have to work, so keep doing your rounds and every time you do one, I'll ask you a question and we'll know each other a bit". While she was away, I talked to the bartender with the usual stuff. After some rounds, I invited the waitress a drink.

I noticed the cute bartender was looking when I talked to the waitress.

One important thing. When I'm by myself, I'm super outgoing with everyone on the bar, joking and toasting for no reason. Another great thing that happened was that the owner of the bar took a drink next to me. I went on talking with him and had an awesome time. Hey, it's never a bad idea to befriend the owner of your favorite bar! She, of course, noticed this.

Later that night

Me: "Hey, HB8, I saw you the other day"

HB8: "Really? Where"

Me: "On Tinder, but I swiped left"

HB8: "Haha, really? Why would you do that?"

Me: "Because you know, you like this other team that sucks and I swipe left on girls who like that team"

HB8 laughs

Me: "Hey, come over here..."

maintaining eye contact

"Question. Let's say this is Tinder now. Look at me. Would you swipe right or left on me?"

HB8: "I would swipe right"

Me: "Ok so here's my phone, why don't you write down your number and we'll go out on Sunday?"

HB8: "But looks like you're into that waitress"

Me: "Yeah the waitress thing was only to make you jealous"

HB8 laughs

Me: "Tell you something. Just write down your number and I'll call you tomorrow at (time). I'm now going home, so that you see it's you I want"

HB8: "Ok (writes down number), so send me a picture of you at home"

As I'm leaving: "No, I'm not sending you any picture of me at home, you'll get to see my house when I take you there" smirk

She smiled as I left.

Today I called her, we got a date tomorrow.

Two important lessons I got

  1. Bartenders and most girls get TONS of attention. Your job is to show that you a) can pickup anyone you want b) other girls want you c) you are actually super fun to be around.
  2. After you get their attention and interest, it's time to go aggressive and confident. Go for it. Let her know you want her. Get what you want. That's what you are there for. Girls who seek attention want men who are "superior" compared to others.

I'm honestly on a learning process right now. I'm sharing this experience with hopes that anyone can try it on their own. I would say that the two most important things that I've developed are confidence and being super outgoing.

Cheers