I've been reading seddit over quite some time for self development. I've lost weight and gained muscle, been reading Models, dressed way better and have gotten more confidence over time. After a LTR and some healing time, Then I gave myself a chance to try Tinder.

Got a match with a really cute girl, and started texting. After some back and forth, asked for her number and continued to text over WU.

We started texting, I asked her out on the second day. She said she was going to be very busy this week. Okay, sure, "she will let me know when she's available". She's already said she would love to go out, but nothing concrete. I knew it was stupid to continue to just chat, but did anyways.

To be honest, I was starting to get one-itis with this one, and actually becoming afraid that I would screw up, i.e. caring too much about what she thought. My dilemma was basically that other guys would most probably be after her and I needed to continue to be in touch with her until she's available.

Quite interestingly I recently read a post here about polarization and "texting for logistics only". So I said "fuck it! I am the fucking prize, not her". Did not write for one day. Today I texted her something like "hey how are you doing" she politely replied as usual. Then I went like "Hey what about we go out this weekend" - "oh this weekend I'm busy, how about next week?" - "sure, so let's set a date. When can you go out", she then said "ok what about wednesday after work?" - "perfect".

At that point I had really stopped giving a damn. If she wanted to go out, she would let me know when. If she didn't I would just stop texting her and move on. Instead of continuing to text her and chat about life and shit, I decided it would be better to actually meet.

Polarize, gents. It's a filter for you. Don't waste your time and energy on lingering for approval. You are the prize. If they don't reply, move on. And when it works, it's awesome.

Cheers.

Edit: grammar