Interesting day today. I got blown out by 4 women for saying something awkward. Wasn't really trying for any type of close, just casual conversation.

My general strategy on okc has become the friend search opener. Okc women are way more receptive to making friends first. It seems to get more responses than anything else. Something like "Hey I'm new in town, just looking for some cool friends". Anyway...

HB6 okc Her profile said write to her if there were at least 10 things I could teach her (I hate bullshit hoops like that). I wrote and said that my "message me if" must have at least 10 things for her. She wrote back, said it did, but that I was obviously just looking for sex and to have a nice life. My profile is apparently too sex-charged and opening the message with a search for friendship didn't override the profile. Then again, I think people who make demands in their profiles are basically thriving on rejecting people. I'm not sure this one was about me.

HB6 okc Starts as a simple discussion about what's going on around town, quickly turns to a troubleshooting session about her problems. Any attempt to echo her own statements back to her was met with barbs and indignity. This one was my fault, I should have known better than to focus on her unhappiness. I should have just kept trying to turn the conversation to lighter things.

HB6 bar Ok, now I'm more in my element. It's an open mic and I am a fairly good performer, so it's a good dhv move. This HB honestly looked familiar to me, so before my set I sat down to talk with her. She said she was from out of town. She went up for her set, I listened and smiled, then resumed the process of trying to figure out where I knew her from. Maybe she thought I was stuck on the "where do i know you" thing and just got bored, but she gave me this raised eyebrow eye rolling head turning move that definitely said "I'm done with you"

HB8 This one is not my fault! She began joking about throwing her top onto the stage. I said I thought that was a shrewd idea. Then she revised it to throwing panties and quickly said "Oh, but not the panties I'm wearing. A spare pair." I said, "I think you just told me you are wearing panties." She got perplexed and said "Uh yeah, why wouldn't I be? Why are you... what the...". Then she said "I'm really sorry, I did NOT mean to go there" and just kind of ejected. Later, she complimented me on my performance so maybe she was just embarrassed. That's some serious panty shame or something. Not sure what the issue was. Thoughts?

On the plus side of the evening:

HB8 Complimented me on my singing (she sang too). We didn't really talk much, so nothing weird was said

HB6 okc Liked the exact same profile that the other one did not like. Go figure.

HB6 okc Thought I lost her over some witty Magic 8 Ball banter. She said her 8ball told her not to befriend me and that she's not into polyamory anyway. I said great, we should trust the wisdom of the 8ball but to let me know if it reconsiders the situation. She wrote back a "You're fun ;)" so I put it in the win column.

HB6 bar Put a few dollars down my shirt while I performed

5 random HB's on okc Various forms of positive responses to the friend search opener, none were bothered by my "sex-charged" profile.

Not really sure what else to report. Demonstrating a skill like singing/guitar generates a lot of acceptance right away. Definitely a keeper.

The way this nets out to me is...dial it back, or just expect that 100% success is not going to happen. I kind of feel like each of the women who blew me out had their own narrative running in their head. Women are not perfect either. But if I want to do better with those, I have to look at it as my job to frame stuff so the don't freak.