8/26/16 - Houston, TX

Went out late (did not arrive at venue until ~1240 when bars close at 2) because we were waiting for a friend to arrive from out of town. Was not much of an issue because I had been watching pickup videos and been social with women all day (was already in state, excited to go out, felt like tonight was going to be a good night). Roll into venue, its not nearly as crowded as I would have hoped, but dont let that drop my state much. Only opened 5 sets all night. The first 4 are pretty hard blowouts. Girls who just clearly were not interested in talking for one reason or another. The 1st set I opened were literally the 3 hottest girls in the club, all dressed like plastic 10s. I walked into the door, high fived two cute girls who were walking towards me to snap myself into the zone, and then just opened these plastic stunners. It was a massacre, but multiple people walked up to me like "dude they were so hot I cant believe you just did that" haha. Anyway, I considered it like "sacrificing the lamb" for the night. I find that with most of my blowouts where the girl isn't interested in talking to me (vs those who dont want to talk because they want to dance or those that have boyfriends) they look kind of frightened, as though I'm coming on way too strong and they arent ready for it. I think its still a good idea to come on fairly strong but I need to get better at CALIBRATING OFF THE OPEN. If I roll up and introduce myself and the girl has those "what the hell are you trying to do here/what the hell is going on here???" eyes I need to take it a step back and slow things down. Also DONT APOLOGIZE FOR SCARING HER. That shit never seems to work. Just take a step back and proceed as if everything is still okay. So yea that sums up my first 4 sets. Now to the 5th, final, and most interesting one:

Walk up to this girl in what I thought was a threeset. Introduce myself and she immediately asks me if this is a bet, as if I don't have the right to be there talking to her without some kind of external push. i tell her it is and that I need to survive two minutes. She laughs but is still defensive. I used this frame a few more times if she lost interest and I'd be like "Wait no only 30 more seconds and I win the money" or something even after it had been 5 or 10 minutes. So we chat and joke for a little and then I pull her away from her friends to a quieter part of the club. More chatting and joking, but she isn't giving me any outer IOIs. My only IOI is that she came with me and kept talking to me. So then we sit on these benches and yet again no IOIs. I start calling her out telling her that her body language and eye contact suck and all this stuff. She likes it. I also pickup on the fact that she loves whenever I'm sassy or sarcastic and when I shoot back at her whenever she's being sassy or sarcastic so I really play up that part of my personality. I move around the seat a couple times, touch her some, arm around her, all sorts of kino. Yet again though she's not giving me anything back. At one point tho she looks me dead in the eyes and says "You are really hot, do you know that?" And my heart almost skipped a beat. But all I could think of was dont fall into her trap dont make it seem like it matters to you so I replied back that I was a 3 and she was a 7, but because I work out and go to a good school we were almost nearly on the same pedestal. She enjoyed this comeback but I think for a split second she felt how excited I was by her comment. At least I felt it. But thats okay, I suspect for someone like me not used to being told they are so hot its going to take a few references before I develop that icy nature towards the comment. I'm cool with that. I SHOULD HAVE MOVED HER AROUND THE VENUE. We ended up on those same couches for 30-45 minutes. Not good. I should have bounced her to the bar or the rooftop or something. I wasn't leading enough. But my verbal game was so tight that I still had her full attention even without proper leading. Now at this point its like 145 and I'm trying to execute the pull. I didn't feel like I had enough IOIs to even try to directly pull back to my place so I thought I'd have a good shot getting her to come to an "afterparty" (Spoiler alert, there was no afterparty. It was just 3 of my guy friends hanging out watching television and eating late night takeout) at this house kinda close to the venue. I'm trying to push for this really hard using the Julien techniques. Afterparty. Adventure. Excitement. Just do it. It makes it sexier. All that stuff. she's really not feeling it. Then I try to pull for late night food at this 24 hour diner. She's still like "I came with my friend, I'm going home with her." Just couldnt make it happen. at like 156 I bounce her outside the club and try one more time for the pull, cant make it happen. NOW THIS PART IS IMPORTANT- I go for the number before I bounce but I downplay the number so much. "Ugh you are just gunna flake on me." "Numbers are pointless." "I cant believe we cant keep this interaction going." And make her qualify herself.. "No, I never flake!" "I loved talking to you" stuff like that. Then once I get the number I just jump in my uber. No kiss. No hug. Don't even try. Act annoyed. Act like she let you down. I knew she liked me and I knew she wanted to see me again so don't make her think she has you on the hook. I hop into the uber and head to the "afterparty" and text her the address anyway. She replies back and tells me shes coming for twenty minutes. Sweet, its on. then 5 minutes later she tells me shes actually not coming. Fuck, its off. But then shes like you can come to my place. I SHOULD HAVE BEEN TRYING FOR THIS BACK AT THE VENUE. ONCE I HAD HER OUTSIDE AND KNEW SHE WASNT COMING BACK WITH ME I SHOULD HAVE TRIED TO JUST GO WITH HER. Thats plan b, before any numbers from now on. Fuck numbers. So anyway I jump on this opportunity and shoot across town to her place, Its now almost 3am. Show up and its just me and her. She is yet again giving very few IOIs, maybe just some couch snuggling, and I still havent kissed this girl. But we are on her couch chatting and being sassy and flirting and snuggling for like 90 minutes , which I think we both enjoyed. And my hands are all over her, but in more of a caring and less sexual way, which I didn't mind. So now its like 4am, maybe 430, and I'm running out of things to say. I tell her I'll give her a massage, which she agrees to. I bring her up to her bedroom and am now massaging her on her bed and shes loving it...I'm pretty good at those. Tried to get her shirt off but she wasn't having it. Give her a nice massage and now I'm nibbling on her back/shoulders trying to decide how I want to proceed. Its almost 5am and this girl isn't giving me anything. Literally nothing to work with. I knew I had two options at this point: I could truly burn this set to the ground... i.e. start taking off my clothes, lay in bed next to her, and try to escelate. This would have either led to hooking up or I would have stayed over and then tried again in the morning. Or I could call it a night here and play it off like I didn't even want to fuck her or stay over and live to fight another day. I know the rule is to have that killer instinct and always play to win, but I kind of bitched out. It was 5am, I had already gotten a pull I didn't think I was going to get, and her total lack of IOIs had finally worn me down. I told her her bed was too small before she could even ask if I was staying over and called it a night at 5am after a brief makeout. Still an awesome night. Next time I wont be as overwhelmed by the reality that I pulled back to her place and should have more of that KILLER INSTINCT to really burn the set down to the ground and do everything I can, but my post-pull experience is still pretty fresh and I'm pleased with how it went. The day 2 seems set up well for more to happen.

Things I did well: Got into state quickly, assumed my own value well, didnt get discouraged by 4 straight opening blowouts in a poorly populated club, took massive action by even rallying my friends to go out that late and then repeatedly approaching unabashadly, moved her off the open well, worked my way through an initial total lack of attraction, persevered through a total lack of IOIs, didn't totally collapse and declare my love for her when she told me I was hot, ended up (clothed) in her bed

Things I did not do well: Did not move her well enough around the venue, did not go for the plan b pull back to her place until she suggested it, lost the killer instinct by 5am