Wall of text below, will do my best to break it up.
So I'm back from University for the summer and decide that since I have a couple of days off from work (working off my student overdraft) I'd go out on the local town: I'm a real country bumpkin, so there is serious planning involved logistically if myself or any of my friends want to go to anywhere with a club.
Well the group who went out consisted of myself O, 2 of my best school friends, C and S, as well as 2 cousins j and J. We range in age from 18 to 20, with myself, C and S being 19. In my opinion we're not quite at our best pic up age, simply because the average age of people out in Leicester (a relatively small English city) is roughly 21-22 though I'll elaborate more as we move on.
Anyway, we get to leicester and the initial bar we wanted to go to before the club is closed - bummer - but it's no dramas since there are plenty of clubs and bars to go to, and co-incidentally there was a wetherspoons just down the road from the club (wetherspoons is a franchise of big bars, with cheap drinks and is usually packed out with people). So we go in because I'm dying for the toilet and S ( /u/salkaar ) wants to start opening sets. He's peacocking heavily, with eyeliner on. Anyway, we spot a 5 - set, best was a 7 and all the boys like her bar me. So I say 'Go on S, go open them' AND HE DOES!!! Massive shout out to him, as a set opener he's bloody fantastic, and we leave him to it - In one of /u/salkaars field reports, he told me off for stealing his set, when I followed him 2/3 mins after he'd opened a set (typically S can open but can't follow conversation on, and I suffer from AA and so struggle to open). So I tell the other three to wait until S beckons us all over. To cut a long story short, the 5 set that we chatted to we're relatively interesting and we were planning on bouncing them to a club, but they weren't allowed in (along with j at the start) since they we're only 18, looked only 18, and weren't carrying any more discernible information to prove who they were (since leicester has a problem with underage entry and fake IDs).
So we move to another bar, right next door to the club, and I spot a 2 set of HB 8s, one asian and one white (I'm white, 6ft) and she was jacked up on heels making her about 6ft as well. They were just about to walk into this bar. So I employed the 3 second rule, walked straight over and opened with 'This is only my second night out in leicester (truth) where's the best place to go here?' Anyway we talked and it turned out she was 24 and had a child, but she seemed eager to talk and was showing a lot of IOIs. We spoke various times throughout the night, and she kept trying to wing me. My standards are pretty high, and though I was lowering my SV, I made it clear she was the only attractive one. Admittedly she had a BF and so I couldnt think of anything witty to say as a boyfriend breaker, but her IOIs were pretty clear; we talked about whether her hair was real and we she said about dip dying, and basically inviting me to touch this bit of hair, coincidentally touching her chest, and she swatted my hand away playfully, though she clearly enjoyed it. Anyway, I didnt N-Close since I didnt want to meet up with her again, and it was the same with the other various sets I met.
We got into the bar and spent some time there (god awful music, zero lighting and was sauna temperature so I was soaked through within 20 mins of dancing. By this time, J has pulled the only other HB8 in the club - hes slightly smaller than me, but well built and was wearing a rather skimpy t-shirt, which all the girls went crazy for.
We then finally managed to get into the club after pursuading the bouncer to use Facebook to prove j was who he actually was, all to pay £3 entry for a wasteland, full of fat birds and loads of guys 4:1 ratio at best, and there were no girls above a 7 in my opinion. Anyway, once again, being the pro he was, /u/salkaar managed to wing J to pull the only 7, and j to pull a 5 with a good body, who was a head taller than him. By this point I was burning out and decided that I wanted to head home, which all the other boys seemed happy to do. In my opinion it wasn't a great night for me, though I did get over approach anxiety.
Evaluation: AA is a serious problem for me, and I really struggle to approach if I give it any thought. The three second rule might even be too long for me, so I support the rule of instants. If you see somebody you like, go straight over; the less thought the better. Also, make sure you dress right for the occasion; I wore a shirt and shoes, yet Tees and converses were more appropriate. However, I got over the AA and managed to open a set of HB8s and kept them interested.One bad move was not recognising how to get out of a 5 set, when the HB7 had a BF and was less interested in me than I was in her.
TL:DR Lots of approaches, Including 1 2-set of 8s, kept them interested. No closes, though no attempts. Evaluation: know when a girl isnt interested so you don't waste time on something futile. Big love to /u/salkaar who's a set opening don!
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