Long time lurker, first time poster. I'm new to this (early 30's, divorced) and wanted to try this out. So outside of just approaching for a quick response to, I guess prove to myself that it was okay to engage random women, I've done what I call my first two actual approaches.

  1. A girl I've seen a couple times in the store, finally went up to her and told her I thought she was beautiful and just had to say hi. She said she was very flattered and a conversation ensued. I qualified her as being a whiskey girl (I approached in the booze aisle), she was very receptive, we chatted some more and I went for the close, telling her we should grab a drink together (instadate not an option). She again said she was very flattered but then said she was married. I told her it was nice meeting her and ejected. I prescreen for wedding rings before I approach, but hers was a simple gold band that I didn't notice.

  2. Saw a girl in store, approached, said she was beautiful, conversation ensued. Said she was moving to another part of town, was growing berries, talked about massages, just random convo that I was proud of myself for keeping going and not doing interview questions. She was smiling, seemed engaged, but when I went for the close she simply said "no thank you".

I need to work on closing/transitioning to close/feeling the right time to close. Suggestions? Feedback?