This isn't really a field report as such, because there's nothing to say. Last night was kind of instant rejection after instant rejection. Bad night for my confidence!
Earlier in the night I was approaching girls who were in small groups and was just trying to open with simple situational openers and stuff. I wasn't able to get any conversations started as the girls kind of blanked me. There's lots of examples, and i don't tihnk they even matter, but like at one point, there was a girl standing by some birthday balloons (it was some girls birthday in there) and I said ''do you know the birthday girl?!'' and smiled and she just said ''nope'' and walked off after a short glance. Lots of occasions like that.
Then we headed to more of a clubby bar. Basically a popular bar with a little dance floor that was quite busy. Since it was too loud to really talk , I tried to use techniques I've seen in pickup vids where it's more about approaching and smiling and offering your hand and stuff. Well it didn't work for me! lol Girls would just shake their head as if to say 'no'. One girl gave me her hand and seemed receptive, but almost as soon as I tried to talk to her a little bit, her friend came and litterally dragged her away. This happens lots and lots; Girls dragging their friends away.
Final bar was just a trendy kind of bar. Bit like a fancy cocktail bar i guess. I was maybe a bit drunk at this point and confidence had been shattered, but I carried on regardless! I used a couple of 'canned openers' (including the one that I used to open a girl who i ended up having sex with a girl a few weeks back) Again though, it wasn't possible to advance the conversation. Sometimes they'd just smile and literally walk off, and again, on one occasion, as I was talking, the girls friend just snatched her from me!
Feeling a bit bad this morning!
I read another article this morning from a PUA guy who says that you should basically only ever approach girls who are basically completely by themselves late at night and open in a very sexual, direct way. Say, a girl by herself at 1am outside a cab rank or something. It sounded a bit 'rapey' when i read it, but i'm starting to wonder if there's merit in there!
Not sure what to do to improve. Approach anxiety isn't really an issue at this point, but I just feel as though you need to be brad pitt to open girls unless you happen to get super lucky and find a drukn girl who happens to think you're hot.
I know that i'm picky and that I only approach very attractive girls, so in a sense i'm trying to punch above my weight in terms of physical attractiveness, but i simply don't want to sleep with girls who i'm not attracted too.
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