boyos, hello. if you read my last post, you will know that i am recently single and ready to mingle. i have started doing pickup for the first time in my life after reading and dreaming about having the courage to do it for a decade. i have returned from iceland. this week was one of the best weeks of my life, if not the best week of my life.

i could probably write a 50 page story about all of the adventures i had so i will just try my best to bulletpoint the highlights (they are all going to be long still, sorry...). if all you are interested in is results tldr's are at the bottom.

  • i arrived in reykjavik, felt kinda sad and lonely but i FELT MY FEELINGS (so important, imo) and I didn't fake anything. I went to the reykjavik art museum (it was kinda lame, dont reccomend) and after not finding any art that I could reasonate with i saw a piano tucked away in a corner. i started playing tchaikovsky's october which is one of the very few pieces i have fully memorized in my head and started weeping in this museum, playing the piano with no one around me. then a museum worker came up and told me he thought i played well but im not suppsoed to touch the piano, so i left lol. i felt better after letting out all my emotions and decided to try and find some people to hang out with. i went to the bar at the Kex hostel but it was Sunday afternoon and pretty much empty. i walked around reykjavik some more and eventually got hungry, so i stopped by this little restaraunt called "reykjavik street food" (great food btw) ordered and went upstairs. there, i saw a very cute girl in the corner of the cafe sitting by herself! i felt intimidated so i went into the bathroom, splashed some water in my face and made myself acknowledge that if i approach, the worst that happens is i get rejected and I'm no worse off than before. so, i accepted that it will feel uncomfortable to approach but i went up to her, told her i thought she was cute and asked if i could sit with her. as i sat down the booth bench thing i sat on flipped up because it was broken and i almost fell lmao. anyways, she seemed receptive and so we started chatting. turned out she was in iceland alone as well and i honestly don't remember what the hell i was saying, i just kinda talked about what was on my mind but eventually i asked her to go get a drink and she was down. so we went to some bar and i started kinoing her but she was pulling away. and i got confused because she seemed to like me but kept pulling away if i would touch her hand or have our legs rub. the thing about me is that i'm a very transparent person and i'm not good at hiding my emotions so i went from being bubbly and happy to being kind of mopey because first of all i was confused by the fact that she seemed to be into me but was pulling away, but also because i wanted our interaction to end so i can go game other chicks and i wasn't sure how to get out of it lol. in that moment i started thinking about mark manson's models, and his point on honesty and vulnerability. and i really didn't think anything whatsoever was going to happen between us so i decided fuck it, i will tell her EVERYTHING. like, i have no investment in the relationship with this girl at this point BUT i do have investment in the curiousity of understand what the fuck is happening and why she is sending me mixed signalds, so i decided i will confront her. i will tell her that i lost my gf of 3.5 years and i am here to take my mind off her and i will tell her point blank that i am confused by her pulling away from me when i am trying to escalate. and then she says, "well, i do think you're attractive but i have a boyfriend." lads. it was in this moment that i regained all my energy. since i am so new to gaming chicks and going out, i needed this external validation of being told im attractive. i believe it deep down, but i just needed to hear a cute chick tell me that. so after basically understanding that i didn't fuck anything up but rather it's just the circumstance of her having a boyfriend that was holding her back, i felt great and continued hanging out with her. i talked to some other people in the bar for a while and eventually i offered her a ride to her hotel. we arrive there and i say "well, bye, it was great meeting you." i literally didn't escalate anything at all at this point because i respect the fact that she has a bf and she was trying to control herself (keyword, trying :D ) and then, she leaned in for a kiss. i pulled back and im like "woah woah woah wtf what happened to your bf????" and she says something like "well, things aren't so great bla bla bla and i want to kiss you" and i say "well i want to kiss you too but are you sure you want to do this? i dont want you to regret it later!" and she kind of nods and we started making out hard. at this point i figure in for a penny in for a pound so i start trying to get her to touch my dick but she is kind of resisiting it again lol. so anyways we make out a bit more and suddenly shes like "do you want to come inside with me?" and im like UHH. YES?????? and so we go inside, we fuck for like an hour, i fart on her bed afterwards because i had to fart so why not and she got mad hahahha. i get dressed and i left. and that my lads, is why you always approach. because maybe 95% of the time you will get told "i have a bf" or "thank you bur im not interested" or maybe you have some interaction but it goes poorly but you know what? eventually, shit like the above will happen. EVENTUALLY it will. and the key is to keep going forward like a machine. learn, adjust and keep going and keep trying and you will succeed. so, that was the first time i ever fucked a girl that i didn't meet from an online dating app, and also the first time i fucked a girl and left the apartment afterwards. i was so grateful that it happened on my first night because it really gave me the capacity to enjoy the rest of my trip without worrying about girls too much.
  • i had a lot of cool interactions and stories throughout iceland, seeing beautiful places and meeting great people but majority of it is not seddit related so i will skip over it. however, i do highly reccomend getting a campervan and going to see iceland, growing up in a city/suburbs, it was honestly the most beautiful mindblowwing place i've ever gone in the world.
  • my last night was a great lesson on attitude. i specifically wanted to end up in reykjavik on friday night so i could go out to the bars and clubs. mind you, i haven't done anything like that for like ten years and certainly never with the amount of confidence i have today in who i am, my lifestyle, my attractiveness, etc. having a gf for a long time helped a lot with that. anyways, i got to the club in reykjavik but I was WAY too thirsty and I put pressure on myself to get a chick and it wasn't happening so I got very upset even though I tried my best not to get upset. i mean i was gaming chicks left and right in the club but i was tanking really hard. like somehow every conversation i had turned into a fucking interview where i was like "what do you do?" "why are you here?" "what do you like?" etc. usually im decent at making statements and having conversations but i was just doing horrifically. the upstairs of the club was loud as fuck and everyone was dancing but im not a good dancer and i always felt embarrased dancing in clubs before so i just kind of avoided being there and stayed around the downstairs area where it was a bit quieter. but it was very hard to game chicks, 99% of them were with groups and idk guys, i just had no game as i keep saying. so yeah, i felt very down and after like 1.5-2 hours of this shit i just needed to take a break and leave. I decided to go walk around and find a chill bar that wasnt pumping edm really really loud. I ended up approaching and joining some other group of icelandic locals and this one guy was so nice to me and it was just really nice in that moment to have someone that seemed to care and connect with me on a human level, so I told him all about my life and my story and shit. i told him all about my ex and the fact that i have depression and how i've been getting rejected all night and i wasn't handling it well. and honestly guys, i went to the bathroom in that bar and fucking cried. for a good 60 seconds. i just needed to fucking cry. and i washed my face and went outside and I ended up feeling so much better, I decided to go back to the club but genuinely just go fucking dance and not give a fuck what happens. I never did that in my life, I mean I never really went clubbing much. Plus I think I dance weird lol. But I ended up doing it and going back and just dancing like no one was watching and dude, of course, that is when all the girls start to be into me lmao, and I ended up feeling so much better So I danced with a lot of chicks and ended up making out with one who was mad cute but it was such a great lesson about expectations and attitude when going out. i tried to escalate more with that girl but she didn't want more which i was ok with. for me, i think i really understand now what it means to go have fun and not worry about what happens. like literally, there were girls i chatted up in the beginning of the night with the sole intention of trying to get into their pants and they all seemed to be turned off by that. because my thirst of sex clearly overshadowed the interest that i was showing in them. but when i went and started dancing on my own and not giving a fuck if i was dancing alone or with girls but i was just dancing and smiling and making eye contact and having fun, THE VERY SAME GIRLS THAT WERE COLD EARLIER IN THE NIGHT CAME AND SMILED AND LAUGHED AND DANCED WITH ME. it's obvious but they love that shit. they love being with guys who are happy on their own. it's literally this video, but it's in the club and it's true every friday and saturday night https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/d7n0ft/have_your_own_fun_and_girls_will_join_in_naturally/

tl;dr.

-first night of trip same day fclose

-last night of trip random makeout in club

till next time lads!