bros. i learned some crazy stuff tonight. haven't read this before so I'm sharing, giving back, etc.

there's this club my friends and i have started to frequent, and my first time there i landed a SNL.

how? i literally asked 1 or 2 girls to dance with me, and i danced with that girl all the way to her bed :D

since that night I visited, about 2-3 times, trying to repeat what i did, and literally had so much trouble just getting girls to dance with me. just DANCE. but tonight? it was different. see, before, on those unsuccessful nights, i would try to get the girls to dance with me in a similar fashion as a daygame approach, "hi you're beautiful, want to dance?" seldom worked. but tonight?

now, don't cancel me, and if its clear the girl wants you to leave her alone then do that. but all i did, was find girls i liked, kind of gently made them aware of my presence dancing around them, and just took their hand and started to dance with them. 75% of the girls fucking loved it. a few didn't want to and it was easy and obvious, they pulled their hand away, or looked away, or whatever, they gave an obvious sign. but the ones that loved it were the fucking key. and here's what i learned. its a principle i understood but not in this context and it makes sense now. women want you to be the leader. women want men to lead. if girls are out in the club dancing having fun and you say something as simple as "hi you're beautiful want to dance?" its not the worst thing in the world but its very sobering and a bit dry, away from the fun energy, and it basically puts the girl on the spot, in front of her friends, she needs to decide if she likes you enough to dance with you, and that's a harder sell then just fucking being happy, having a good time, gently taking the girls hands, smiling and starting to dance with her. that will do you fucking wonders. girls all night telling me I'm such a good dancer (I'm not) and having fun with me and just fantastic energy all around. and bros, its also sexy af that you are being a fucking LEADER. you don't ask her what she wants, you let her join you in your fun. you don't care what she says, you are unphased, you are having fun either way. and she knows this, that's why she dances with you. be a leader. dance the night away.

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tl;dr

just gently take the chicks hands at the club and dance with her, even without ioi's. if she pulls away, lets her go, but you don't need to do much else.