Here is my first Seddit post and FR. Longtime lurker of Seddit, and this is my second Reddit account (real life people know my original acct).

Anyway this past weekend I hit two house parties with a couple (AFC) buddies of mine. Made some good approaches, but due to failure of a shit test and some other complications didn't manage a close. I'll cut the bullshit and get straight into the goods.

First party setting: Hipster house party on lawn with a dance floor sparking up inside toward the end of my attendance at this party. There was a ice sculpture for pouring shots down and a bunch of funky people mingling outside. Also, I am a college student and many of the partygoers were around the same age.

Approach 1: I notice a girl whom I had seen on the bus throughout this summer. Hipster girl, fake blonde, etc. I approach her asking if she rides the bus to campus in the morning this summer. We then talk about her classes, I joke with her about where she's going to work with her liberal arts degree (successful neg). She seems to be digging me but her female friend (whom I quickly introduce myself to and attempt to win over) quickly brings her to the ice sculpture to take a shot and though she promises we'll continue this conversation, it never happens. I was wondering on this approach How do I re-approach her without seeming too needy?

Approach 2: I start with a new line that was successful. 4 person set - 2 guys 2 girls. In the middle of their conversation I burst in and ask "On a scale of 1-10 how is everybody doing tonight!!??" This is met with great responses (13-15) so I play down and say "Wow what is y'all's secret to success? I'm only at like an 8 or 9" . I introduce myself to all, but I really begin talking up the AMOG so that I could gain some social proof. Unfortunately, my wing man who follows me into the group after I break the ice, disappears instead of engaging the ladies and they begin talking to themselves. Before I know it, the group has kind of broken up into me and the AMOG talking about some bullshit, and the two girls chatting with eachother and then as I go to talk more with them the party host brings them inside to dance on the upcoming dance floor. I changed sets though, because the girls were from a different state and the two dudes with them were also from the same state - probably going nowhere anyway.

Approach 3: This one is where I really fucked up. There was a set of like 5 guys and 1 HB 8 that my wingman had approached and won over. I come in and am immediately generating social proof. I'm quite social and I have a pretty long line of bullshit. I think I used the same line, but I ended the night pretty drunk so I can't really remember. After talking up the guys while the girl listens, a few minutes later I start talking her up. I recently completed my fourth year of Spanish and I am on the border line of considering myself fluent in the language. Big mistake flaunting this. She speaks something in French which I identify as French and say I don't speak that but I do speak Spanish. She asks me what some word was in Spanish (Shit Test) and I couldn't think of what it was! She IMMEDIATELY excused herself from the conversation. Wah wah wah! I thought of a good response afterwards "Hey now, if you want lessons it's going to cost you!" But I have a better idea: Don't flaunt knowing a language unless you REALLY, really, REALLY know that shit!

Second Party: We leave the hipster party and show up at an apartment party revolving around a beer pong table and populated heavily with AFCs and a few good looking girls. I know a good amount of the guys at the party, and already knew who the AMOG was going to be, so I walk in head held high and make a huge scene because I had not seen the guy in forever. This generates the attention of everyone at the party and I already have a boatload of social proof. I made some good approaches here, but I felt like I was going too into interview mode. I think this was for two reasons: By this part of the night (2 am ish) I was pretty drunk. Don't get too drunk or it will kill your wittiness and good comebacks. Secondly, there was just too high a concentration of AFCs and it seemed like all of my approaches were being bombarded by lame dudes coming into the conversation to talk to ME about shit that none of us cared about. Also, pick friends who are 1) not AFCs and 2) not really into drugs to the point of leaving the party early. I was starting to have a good connection with one girl there, when I was yelled "Hey, Smasher, let's go!" I could have stayed there, but drunk me just left with them and followed suit to go watch them do drugs with a group of 100% AFCs until I was sober enough to make it home.

All in all, not a failure because I did learn quite a bit about shit tests, but not exactly a success either. Thoughts and advice on social dynamics and engaging the women in a way to make a more serious connection are greatly appreciated. Thanks, Seddit. Hope my group opener works for you - it worked very well for me and I thought of it while at the first party.