Friends girlfriend..

Hi, so to make a long story short I like my friends girlfriend, they are a total mismatch and it is obvious to every one involved. However, I still got some principals which involves not stealing or whatever, a friends girlfriend.

It is obvious to both me and her that we like each other, and they are on the definite verge of breaking up, but I felt I let her down (she got trust issues), and I really should've taken her number when I could and I fucking beat myself up so much over that. So how can I contact her, all this shit is just because I don't have fucking facebook. Looking up her number feels waaay too stalkerish, and not a great foundation to start a relationship on or am I being over-dramatic about it? Only time I see her is when I'm chilling with my friend.

And yes, if it were to come down to it I would sacrifice my relationship with my friend for her, I trust her a lot (I got legit trust issues), and she is definitely a great gal, flaws and all.

Ask my friend for her number and have a real chat with him? Honestly I feel a bit bad about it considering he hasn't picked up on most of the signals.. Advice please

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Well that is true, but they havent had sex in weeks and stuff. Its pretty messed up as is, and there is something about her making me want to protect her. The relationship is abusive. He got the emotionql range of a rock and only cares about her looks, while she is depressed. Basically feels like she wants to get out of there, and I have no way to contact her.

Its not like he takes care or loves her. He says stuff I know is hurtful, is passive-aggressive and overall acting like an idiot. He literally berates her in front of me, and yet I sit there like a cunt and then talks to him while alone to not put myself in their relationship.

Another person doesn't deserve to be treated like that by someone they love or consider close. That shit is fucked up, I wonder what happens behind closed doors.

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I think you should try to get yourself together before going all in on this really... If you have trust issues, is it really a good idea to go after your friend's girl, on the cue that she's into you? What happens if you made a mistake and she's not? You have no friend anymore, are heart-broken, etc. You'll be worse than back to square 1.

Get your trust and confidence issues together first. I suggest going on to /r/seduction, there are resources for you over there, or get a psychologist. Girls are attracted to confident and interesting guys. You are trying to put a band-aid on a fire hydrant. Work on yourself first, hit the gym to improve your appearance and improve your confidence, become well-read, have good music taste, interesting hobbies, a good job, etc.

Getting a gf will be a non-issue after that, I promise.

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Dude, I have studied female attraction signals a lot. I can spot attraction, and literally feel her emotions and the tension SHE feels while holding my gaze. I basically never avert my eyes, something clicked in my head while practicing eye contact so now I can hold it forever with everyone, it's fucked up. From that however, I learnt a lot by eye contact signals, since I do this to every girl every day shit is real. And yes, ladies have definitely started to consider me more attractive, and that is somewhat unusual for me considering my self-esteem. So yes, it's the small things, like how she sits angled or closer towards me or the big like she sits on my side if I am in the middle or roots for me. Or how she looks at me while speaking, how her eyes glisten when she smiles. Or how she every now and then takes a peek out of the corner of her eye.

That shit can't be faked, and trust me on this, I can see it, feel it and read it. I have been asked if I have a bigger sister by 4 random girls the last year, because "I seem like that kind of guy".

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Title	Friends girlfriend..
Author	HelpMeOutG
Upvotes	0
Comments	24
Date	January 28, 2016 11:18 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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