[Field Report] Rough Night

– SHAMELESS BREAKDOWN –
23/01/2019
Night Game

*BRIEF: Learning to use observational/proactive openers and if I pass building/breakin rapport

*DEBRIEF: I used two observational openers but had nothing to follow up with, reason being, while I approached the set my goals for the night went out the window. One set went well, my building rapport need some work vs my breaking rapport

*CONTEXT*
I am new to game and really inexperienced with women. I am extremely socially conditioned and have a lot to work through. I really got into game for the last two weeks with wingmen. We have been going out each and every night. I have been doing OK but this night has been rough on me. Me and my wings briefed before hand in the venue. Wings will be known as "Crush" and "Bear" from now on forth.

Set 1
After having some fun on the dancefloor we were on our way to another bar (The venue has 3 bars) at the door sat a two set. I approached and as I reached them I stumbled and forgot the FTC. They were sitting close to the dancefloor and it looked like they were in deep conversation so I opened with: "You guys know there is much quiter places to have a hartfelt conversation" they said they are not busy having a heart felt conversation I went blank and said they should enjoy their night out and left.

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Set 2
Crush gave me some motivation to enter a seated set outside where it was quite. There were 5 girls and I walked over. Once again forgetting the FTC but using an observational opener: "You guys seem to be missing out all great music inside." They said they will go dance a bit later and then again I slammed blank. Things turned awkard as I tried to stumble over my lips to say something, I greeted them with a "You should enjoy their night out." I was totally in my head and was not thinking at all. For some reason the nervousness hit me hard last night.

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Set 4
After not even getting an reaction from set 3, I entered a complete negative mindset. I went to the bathroom and heard my new favourite song come on "Blah Blah Blah" - Armin van Buuren and I had to finish up fast before the music dropped. I ran toward the dance floor to hit the drop. I made it!!! The beat was drumming through my chest and I was all over the dance floor. After the song finished I felt so much better and decided to go to the bar where it was a bit more quite so that I can find the song and add it to my spotify playlist. Whilst doing this I kept talking to the barman to keep my energy up, I will be honest I had no intention to open any other set but a set presented it self nontheless. A beautifull blond walked in, I thought to my self that I am just going to keep quite and move on but I felt to guilty for choding. I opened her. "You know I think the bar is closed", pointing to the turned over chair behind her. She asked if I worked here in a rude manner and before I could answer one of Crush's motivational sentances jumped into my head "It is a shit test". I told her, yes actually I am the manager of the pub, now you need to take your money and scram in a playfull manner. She laughed and was hooked almost instantly. She revealed that she was actually there to get a plaster because she stepped into glass now she keeps sliding around in her shoe. I broke rapport and while I said "Ahhhh disguisting now I need to go home thinking of a bloody foot. Thank you for that" I also turned my back as to seem I am leaving. She sticks to her role and says that I should have a nice night. (BTW what is an appropriate way to come back from this?).I told her my story of the bathrom and how I ran out like super man from the bathroom to hit the drop of the song that is when she said stepped into the glass. I told her that I don't want to go dancing with her since she dances on glass. I also through out the set introduced kino, rewarding her after each laughter and she started touching me back. Her friends came around the corner and I imediately introduced my self and mingled with them for a bit. They tried to pull her away to go back to the dance floor and she said "Its fine go without me I am fine". This was truly surprising to me. Never in my life have I seen a girl try and wave her friends off to stay with me. Sadly the victory was not long held. Her chode friend tried to convince her the whole time to join and I was just standing around not knowing what to do (See this was completely new to me). I decided eventually ok let me befriend the obsticles some more until I find my chance with my target. It is at least better standing around or trying to get her attention from the chode the whole time. I mingled with her friends especially the one that turned 21 and at this point my target came back over to me, should have rewarded with a hug but did not. The chode still next to her side. He was pissed off with me I could see that. I tried to befriend him... no luck. Ignored him for the rest of the night. Everybody moved back to the dance floor. Should have led them, did not. Once back at the dance floor I saw they were with a lot of other guys at least 4 and the extra chode with his 2 friends as well. I introduced my self and tried to befriend them. Before I could build a connection with them they decided to change venues. I decided that I had a good run and it is already 2 in the morning I need to get back to bed for work.

3 POSITIVES
I opened two sets with observational approaches
I passed the shit test which got the set to hook
I broke rapport well.

3 NEGATIVES
I let my precieved failures get to my head
I forgot about my FTC
I should have isolated her somehow (Don't know when though the chode was like a fly around a turd)

3 LESSONS
Don't let "bombed" out sets get to in my head, instead I need to remind my self that you either win or learn
Should not have stood around and do nothing when the chode talked to her
Should have lead the group more. They were on their feet and moving around the whole time

QUESTIONS
How could I have dealt with the chode?
Any advice to not be in my head so much?
Any advice on not forgetting about things like FTC?
Was there something I could have done to motivate the group to leave her friend with me?

ACTION ITEMS
Remember to throw false time constraints and also build rapport more through DHV or Qualification, not only break rapport

P.S It is the 24th, I am not going to write a rapport as there was only one set we gamed. The venue was quite. I am having difficulties opening sets but once I am in I can stick around and have fun. Any advice on how to open a set properly would be awesome.