What’s up r/Seduction,

I wanted to share my ongoing journey going from absolutely no women, to having multiple, in the span of a couple weeks.

Like perhaps some of you, I’ve pretty recently gone through a breakup of one of my best relationships so far. Naturally, I’m experiencing grief. Usually, I enjoy gaming and spending time to myself. However, sometimes that loneliness really gets to you, so we seek support from rebounds, casual sex, or FWBs.

So how does one find these relationships?

What started as one night of my friend and I going to a college campus here local to us to ‘spit game’, has evolved into a weekly ritual of going to bars and nightclubs every weekend, and the results so far have been nothing short of promising.

To put it simply and to keep this brief, here’s what we do - feel free to try this, perhaps you’ll yield results. You’ll have to step outside of your comfort zone in order to get what you’re looking for.

  1. Identify two or three places (minimum) where you can go to reliably join a social scene. For me, it is the clichéd bars and nightclubs, and I’ll explain a little further down why.

  2. Create a small knitted social circle. Your friends in this social circle should have, loosely, the same wants / goals as you. For example, we go out with the goal of (enjoying ourselves), and talking to women.

In said social circle, it’s important to have individuals who are rather outgoing, or simply confident.

  1. Step outside of your shell. This point basically entails the process of approaching women - both women you’re interested in, and not. The more random conversations you strike up, the better your confidence becomes, and the higher the odds of landing the woman you want are.

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  1. So why the bar and/or nightclub?

Point 1 addresses the importance of identifying social settings you can go to regularly. For me, I like to go to the bar / nightclub because the women there are prone to be already relaxed, open, and outgoing.

  1. Having a vibrant social circle - wherein everyone in your group feels confident, and outgoing - will make women close-by merely intrigued. They will pick up on the vibe that your group is putting out.

The social circle is really important too because A) it provides social proof, and B) you’ll likely be more open to being more ‘daring’ as far as approaching women is concerned, which will generally help your confidence.

  1. Making the approach. You’re dancing with your friends - there she is. You guys are making eye contact and have been intermittently over the course of several minutes. Use that light, playful, ‘dancing’ mood as a Segway into chatting her up. If she seemed into you, and you carry the ‘enjoying myself’ complex, you’ll have pretty good odds of getting the number.

Thing about a bar or nightclub is, you can be approaching women all night long, under the guise of dancing and having fun with your friends, while being confident throughout the experience. It would be hard to do this and not get a number at the end of the night.

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In conclusion: I went from simping for my ex girlfriend to confidently pulling beautiful girls’ numbers and establishing dates (and having options), in just a couple weeks.

It may take a little bit of time to recon for good social settings as well as solid friends, so just start by going out on the weekends and surrounding yourself with people with similar goals/interests. Once you’ve found 2 or 3 of these guys to take with you, aim to create a routine of going to places you’ve established as a good social scene prior, be friendly with all the workers, and start approaching women. Just remember to enjoy yourself.