Getting into dating (Help)

rwramire · 2020-06-22T14:37:10+00:00

Definitely would recommend reading some books. Up your style game, get some cool hobbies, build an awesome life in general. Get a job, definitely a good idea, also can be decent way to meet chicks. Start working out / learn martial arts/ basic self defense - will up your confidence game 200%.

Set up a tinder and other online. Get an idea of who you are trying to attract. What do you want? A gf, a fwb, a hook up, a wife? Figure that out. If you could have anyone who would it be, what wou lb d it take? Be realistic too, dont be sad if you can't get 10s instantly. Try to be better than you were yesterday. I'm not expert burs some simple easy generally good advice.

Also find some good friends to help. Ask them if they know anyone... doesn't hurt. Try meetup.com and possibly therapy (a lot of people need doctors to heal their brains no shame)

Probably stop PMO, admittedly its seriously as addictive as heroin. Try God lol. That helps. Live with honestly principal and purpose.

I like the 4 agreements, the way of man, and becoming a barbarian (books). Also stealth seduction (video series). Crazy stupid love is good movie... study the dude. Dont be steve Carroll, be han solo lol.

ciscokid12345 · 2020-06-22T15:00:55+00:00

Here is the big secret... Concentrate on yourself first.

The worst thing you can do is "meet a great girl" right now. That will end up with kids by 21. Working full time at a crappy job to get by. I wish someone would have told me this! I'm 39 and just wasted 20 years with a BPD woman that I wouldn't even swipe right on today. Now I get to pay her alimony for LIFE...

You're not done with school. You're not done developing a career. Your hobbies aren't fully formed. The women you will attract right now as a broke 19y/o are so much less qualified than the ones you will attract when you finish law school or whatever.

When you work on you, the women will show up knocking on your door. Give yourself time.

Ape1Bear2 · 2020-06-22T14:30:35+00:00

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h8tank88 · 2020-06-22T14:55:42+00:00

Actually, man... not to be sarcastic, but high school was where I met the girl I ended up having a lifelong 'on & off' love affair with. I'd gone out with a couple of girls before that, but nothing serious.

My point is not to try to point out any fault in you, but maybe how you're looking at the situation... The fact is, before any of these 'dating apps' or online dating, we'd actually meet girls at the places we were, and it's hard to find a place with more eligible females at that age than school.

Think about it. Statistics, at least the ones I know of, show most couples met: at work, school, or through their social circle. That doesn't mean you can't do it some other way, but, whatever means you use, you're going to have to 'get your hands dirty' so to speak & start talking to the girl you have an interest in. Otherwise, some other dude is going to - and, because he had the nerve to do so, he's MUCH more likely to have a positive outcome than someone who tries some roundabout way to meet her.

rwtf2008 · 2020-06-22T17:53:23+00:00

Aside from “pick up” books/videos (don’t use those unless you just want to hookup and not date) here’s pretty much the tried and true recipe in no particular order:

1). Have hobbies you enjoy and are passionate about. Doesn’t matter if it’s coin collecting, scuba diving, spelunking, racing, BJJ, Krav Maga etc.

2). Have a healthy lifestyle, you don’t have to squat 500lbs to get a girl you just need to take care of yourself. You just need to exercise and eat right. Besides, the number on the bar is for you and no one else.

3). Go into a career field you enjoy and find ways to be financially secure if it doesn’t pay all that well.

4). Confidence is key when you ask a girl out. Be direct and specific without being demanding and controlling. If you want a better chance at her saying yes then never ask “Hey you wanna get some drinks sometime?” If she’s Really interested in you it may work but if it’s a cold approach it’s less likely to work. Ask instead “Are you available for coffee on Friday, I’ll meet you at [address/coffee shop name] at [insert time]?”

5). Dating apps shouldn’t be a crutch but if you use one or two make sure the profile is truthful and not a cookie cutter - 90% of profiles I read say they “enjoy traveling”.

6). Talk to her like a human no matter how gorgeous you think she is. Women get put on a pedestal and really they want to be recognized for what they bring to the table, otherwise you’re just saying “You have a nice face and that’s all I care about.”

7). Don’t drop everything for a girl, make time for her but keep working on your life too.

ElchinValiyev · 2020-06-22T18:15:24+00:00

Just read "Mark Manson - Models". It has everything you need to know for starters.

docshay · 2020-06-22T20:09:18+00:00

Find your purpose and be happy with yourself first. Then share your purpose and happiness with people around you. Then share it with women.

ZattoxZA · 2020-06-22T23:15:15+00:00

I don't recommend using social media and dating apps! You might get laid (and might even get into a relationship) but it won't change you as a person and you won't develop that attractive & sexy energy.

Socialize with strangers / new people whenever possible.
- Try to use your gut and NOT spending hours on youtube watching tutorials
- Topics can be very boring, it's really just about being comfortable and yourself around people, you never met before, in general

Talking to girls won't be that different.
Just that she will feel that you find her attractive and perhaps even are horny and that will turn her on. You won't even need to talk about it, girls just know and they'll chase you.

I don't want to spend too much time explaining why this works so well but you can kinda guess why ;) Of course, you can also spend hours and hours on the internet to understand and learn as I did (I recommend RSD Max - The Natural Course) and come to the same above simple solution.
Do it! It will even catapult your career enormously as it did for me.

BONUS: Do sports :) to avoid getting depressed because of your belly. It's not the fat that scares girls away, it's how you feel about it.
By staying fit, you won't fall into this trap ;)

quinnmcd · 2020-06-22T21:12:10+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like:

How do I approach?
How do I get a number?
How do I talk to girls at college?
How/When do I kiss a girl?
Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

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Title	Getting into dating (Help)
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Date	June 22, 2020 2:06 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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