Having issues lasting in bed

CheekyEmu · 2019-08-05T08:20:31+00:00

A few things you can do. First, don't start with "putting it in". Rookie mistake. Start with making out, fingering her, and giving her oral. Insist on pleasing her first and making sure she's well on her way to being satisfied before you put it in. Second, go more than one round. I usually don't last long my first round, especially with a new partner, and especially if she's really hot, which we all hope for. That's ok. You don't have to last forever the first round. Figure out what your refractory period is (recovery time between rounds). Mine is about 10-15 minutes. Then communicate with her. I usually tell her right before I stick it in that I'm not going to last long the first time around, but that after that I'll need ten minutes and then I'll be ready to go all night. For me, after the first round, I can easily outlast women for the following rounds. No woman is going to care if she has to wait 10 minutes to get round two of your dick if you're busy giving her oral in the meantime. Again, make sure you're focused on satisfying her and not just on sticking your dick in her. I'll say it again; GET GOOD AT ORAL. Very few women care how long you last before cumming if you're good at oral and willing to spend all night drowning in her pussy. Lastly, if you really want to last longer you can try all the weird strategies and exercises and shit you see online, but probably the easiest one for lasting longer is to masturbate more. But the downside is that it will lower your testosterone and sex drive. But at 22 that might not be much of an issue.

lllIIIIIIIlIIIIIlll · 2019-08-05T09:07:57+00:00

First, foreplay is anything.

Second, this is personal, but when I drink a lot of beers (not drunk) I can't come. I can go on for hours but nothing comes out. Kinda shitty if you think about it, but maybe something for you.

AwkwardWolfDude · 2019-08-05T08:37:42+00:00

Being nervous is also a big factor. Sometimes you have to practice and get used to the experience to help your mind calm down. Don’t worry about messing up or not being able to last just have fun. The problem with one night stands is yeah people talk shit if they’re not emotionally connected to you and only want a specific need met. That’s why I don’t hook up with people in my workplace or social cliques I frequent a lot, I mean sex isn’t going to be great with everyone, especially if you don’t have great communication on your needs. There is always a way to satisfy your partner, lasting long isn’t the main focus. A lot of sex is mental too. Unless you have romantic interest in then just see it for what it is, practice. If a woman really cares about you, one sexual encounter that you didn’t last long in isn’t going to ruin your relationship. Not that I’m saying you should or shouldn’t have casual sex just saying don’t let someone demean you or make you scared youre not good enough for exploring your body

TheRealSkippah · 2019-08-05T08:54:05+00:00

2 Months of intense Keagle exercises will fix this.

smoothmax · 2019-08-05T14:02:10+00:00

There's a book called "She Comes First" with help for this. I think the main strategy is, eat her out until she comes then bang her for as short or long as you can without worrying about it.

Lyvewyrez · 2019-08-05T07:52:31+00:00

Check this out

And check out r/AJelqForYou

Jelqing is more about increasing size, but there's some great content that'll help with pacing.

Part of it is cortisol. The more stressed you are, the more your heart rate is up, the faster you will blow. Practice pacing yourself. Do 30min blocks of masturbating without blowing (otherwise known as edging). You're really trying to edge though, the goal is to get your body used to extended periods of stimulation without release. After a month or so of this, increase it to 45 minutes etc.

After you master that, go for an hour tops, but don't release. Another month, don't release after two sessions etc.

By then, if you practice this and do the kegel exercises, you'll have way more control. You'll start being able to achieve dry orgasms and hold through wet ones (known as retarded wet ones), but the point is you'll be able to blow and keep going.

Also, focus on foreplay. There's some really good instructional videos on PH about pleasuring women. Learn how to make her dripping wet and ready, get a few orgasms in before you even stick it in. I like to to tease them mercilessly beforehand so they are fucking begging for it, depending on the mood I'm in I'll either oblige or not. You get the point. Part of it is your performance, the other big part is how you turn her on. She's not a light switch, you need to work her body up first

beardedta · 2019-08-05T11:51:19+00:00

Viagra?

maxymred · 2019-08-05T12:59:30+00:00

2 pump chump is a great nickname. Definitely focus on making her satisfied and dont be afraid to try new positions

recyclablebanthas · 2019-08-05T17:42:31+00:00

.....both times things would go very well until it was time for me to put it in and I would last less than a minute and not even have a chance to slow it down.

This kind of thing can be managed if you explore your own body when you masturbate.

If you're always masturbating for speed, that's how you'll perform.
Take your time.
Tease it out when you're getting close to the end. Work on drawing it out.
Whether you realise it or not, you can develop the awareness of how close you are to the "point of no return," and as you build that awareness, you will have the option to slow down or stop when you need to.

Title	Having issues lasting in bed
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Date	August 5, 2019 7:11 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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