Ok first up. I grew up as the gawky kid with the bad skin, and glasses. Upon hitting 20 however my body, face, everything changed dramatically over the course of a year or so. Shortly after that I discovered I had a serious penchant for the gym. So over the course of that year or so, I turn in to one of the good looking guys. Girls that wouldn't say Hi before now wanted to sit down and have a conversation with me.

Suddenly I had the attention I wanted, but remain to this day clueless what to do with it.

More than once or twice a week, I'll get some eyes, a quip, a gesture, something that says in an obvious way yes I'm interested from a woman without trying. Not every woman, and for some reason average often ignores me, and I get the most attention from women most guys (me included) would give their left nut for.

Last week. I had something close to my ideal woman (I mean a solid 8 on even the fussiest guy's meter) make a point of bringing the drink across the coffee house floor to me, make a quip, give me a wink, and then wait for some response from me... at which point I thanked her for the drink, smiled, mumbled incoherently, and walked off.

I came back a second say, same thing, but painfully obvious; the biting of the lip, the swish of the hair and the smile. Again I smile walk off. Third visit she hands it to me with both hands, makes it so I can't take it without touching her hands, makes real pointed eye contact, and says

"Careful it's hot"

"I've got it" I say.

"You really have." she replies with a smile.

I take the drink, and stroll. Fourth time I go back, I get the look I've seen a hundred times--sometimes it's an obvious 'well fuck you too', others it's a 'what's wrong with me?' Any which way, the look always lets me know I blew it. I know guys that get a quarter of the attention I do, but have nailed triple digits. I get attention with no effort, but can count on one hand the amount of times I've got laid. If it wasn't for the girls that more or less dragged me in to a fuck, I doubt I could count one.

Most of what I'm reading here is how do you get attention. I already have attention, I just don't have the confidence to make it more.

Help?