Help me out here guys

recyclablebanthas · 2017-02-05T15:59:54+00:00

I work in a big shopping plaza as a security guard full of beautiful costumers and vendors.

I have tried to keep myself in check and not flirt with costumers so I don't lose the (can't find the word here) respect (authority?)

This is just common sense. You're in a position of authority and are there to create a sense of comfort and safety for them.

It's not the place for you to be risking that by hitting on girls.

A while ago I was talking with a co-worker with more tenure then me and he was telling me how he would flirt with this vendor and grind with another......

They're fine risking their jobs and livelihoods. I've seen people lose their jobs over shit like this. All it takes is one girl to be put off and decide to file a formal sexual harassment claim. Or for her to be angry because she gets spurned when she's interested and you're playing the field.

Here's my dilemma, what if I find a girl there that I actually like and she knows about all the stupid shit I did with the other girls?

Is it really that attractive to end up with a girl who would judge you for your past? This is not much to worry about.

I've lost and left other jobs before because I dated a girl on them and shit didn't end well.

Rule of thumb is that you shouldn't date at work if you're incapable of doing so without leaving a mess behind.

It's possible to date multiple women with no mess at the same workplace. Sometimes at the same time. With little to no fallout.

But you can't be a dick about it and you can't be indiscreetly running around. Or you're asking for trouble.

Should I just go for it and stop acting so stuck up and "professional"?

You're not acting stuck up. They're acting like idiots.

summadat · 2017-02-05T12:51:29+00:00

It really depends on what type of girls you want to attract.

If you want to attract the flirty girls then yeah, go flirt!

But if you want to attract that girl you want to date, you really like, etc. Then be yourself. Do not worry about what your co-workers are doing. You do you.

baranomania · 2017-02-05T14:59:43+00:00

I think you shouldn't be too afraid of reputation. If you come across a girl that you really like, you can express yourself honestly like "I was just playing around with them, but I see something different in you." Of course you should modify the line with your emotions, how much you value her, how she's different etc. You can just be honest and get the girl you like too, regardless of your previous reputation.

Title	Help me out here guys
Author	adavila1870
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	February 5, 2017 10:36 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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