Help me out with kino?

lucholas · 2013-10-06T12:11:26+00:00

Let´s see. In my case, I talk quite a lot and usually tell stories or anechdotes so my "strategy" is to use the story as a tool to build up some kino. It makes total sense and nobody gets offended or creeped out by an example.

"So I was there and this huge guy come and pushes me" (Push her)

Or

"Let´s say you are HERE (move her around) and you are ME (make her cross her arms and look like me in body language) so I turn around (turn her) and I see this guy (I impersonate some guy/girl in my story"

It always work, she gets a laugh, I moved her (friends and everyone) around a lot and touch them and they have no way of complaining; I mean they are the spectator and you expect some collaboration if telling a story.

It might take some time to get comfortable but it´s less creepy than touching her just because or in a flirty way.

I got to kiss several girls just making them part of this story about how terrible are some people at making out.

My rule: ALWAYS POKER FACE. Touching a girl is the most normal thing in the world. NEVER proceed with subtlety, that creeps people out.

L1AM · 2013-10-06T07:13:02+00:00

Here we go— I've been in a similar situation. It'll take a lot of trial and error to fine-tune exactly where the sweet spot is (I got a light hearted "stop touching me" during the process), but it's well worth it, because kino is, in my opinion, even more important than the substance of your conversation.

Honestly, though, the general idea isn't hard at all. The best piece of advice I can give you is that you get away with more when you aren't looking.

In a seated situation, laugh and touch just above the knee. In a standing situation, playfully push the shoulder or touch/gently push the side of her elbow for half a second.
Eye contact is paramount in my experience, as the girls aren't terribly used to it.
Use her name. Seriously important in establishing connections
Also, be completely outcome independent. This is really magical. If they don't laugh, you don't care. If another guy tries to "challenge" you, you don't care. If someone makes a joke at your disposal, you laugh it off and don't care. I've found that any times I'm feeling off, it's because I'm not completely independent. When I have the realization and make the switch, it turns completely around.
Be really good friends with as many guys as you can. This is a fantastic way for easy social proof. Getting to know sophomore guys can let you snag their girls like * that.
Although it isn't essential, I don't pick things up off the ground for girls. I dunno, it's a personal touch. If they drop them more than once, I tease them about it: "Get it together there, [NAME]!"

Have a lot of fun with this! It adds a whole extra dynamic/level to your relationships with other girls. I don't know about your school community, but mine is fairly liberal with frontal hugs. I capitalize on that.

Sr_Wafffles · 2013-10-06T21:47:31+00:00

Hey man fellow 17 year old here. I can tell you from personally experience its hard as hell to get comfortable doing this yourself. Once you are its not so bad, I personally have to restrict myself sometimes now. The thing is, if you aren't doing it from the start it is creepier and creepier when you DO start.

But hey, you gotta start somewhere. So one of the easiest things is to touch her shoulder for impact when you say impactful things, or when you are about to tell her in particular something.

Another is just doing high fives for literally anything (don't give her 50 high fives in one interaction.... just do like one every few days or whatever). If its a laid back convo you can hold it for a while. Making up secret handshakes is tight as well.

Once you are real comfortable with a girl (have been hitting it off for AT LEAST one day in a high school environment) you can put her arm around her CASUALLY when its easy to do... can't really describe when but you know when you do this stuff enough.

Don't be afraid to LIGHTLY LIGHTLY LIGHTLY hit (honestly just a brush/touch, I'm not advocating beating women) when she is a little bitchy or messes with you. Its just fun and comfort building.

And when you're ALONE there's a whole "Kino Escalation Ladder" (google it) that's totally different.

dioxholster · 2013-10-06T16:14:17+00:00

i would never do it, but i witnessed its importance and it cant be underestimated. at first i thought it was all bullshit, something handsome guys can get away with but that all changed until i seen it done from the getgo and the impact it had.

Title	Help me out with kino?
Author	becauseimimportant
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Date	October 6, 2013 4:31 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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