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[–]djdante 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey bud,
Let me be the first to lend a hand.
First of all nope, you didn't do anything wrong by letting her pay. It's a very real thing these days that lots of women honestly don't want to feel like the guy is paying for them. I allow women to split the bill with me all the time to no ill effect.
So when things get 'confusing' is when I like to take the direct approach. I don't accept ambiguity from the people around me, and I think no man who values himself highly should either.
If I were in yours shoes, I would text/email/call her and say something along the lines of. "Hey, look I notice we miss each other all the time. To me it feels like you have been avoiding me and thats totally okay if you don't want to meet, just tell me. However I do like you and want to catch up again. So let's lock in a time this week if you want to catch up, if not that's fine. I just don't like ambiguity and thought I should get clarity"
It's direct, to the point, and not trying to hide anything. Worst case scenario, she says not, but she respects you and you respect yourself.
Best case scenario, she says yes!
[–]--geode 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Would it not make sense to just disappear for a bit and see if she messages you?
[–]ozzagahwihung 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are over thinking it.
People really do have conflicting schedules sometimes. If she's keen, she'll make it work.
[–]rom9 -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Soemthing very similar happened to me a while ago. Give a girl the benefit of the doubt twice. On the third occasion if she does not offer to reschedule herself then next her. Be very clear. This forced girls who are either not interested or are on the fence to get real. Even if she says no and does not reschedule u stay out the friend zone in case things change later on.
[–]Gebbo10 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'd say use a bit of push pull to see how it turns out
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