I am a virgin and unfortunatly if I had to be honest with my self I don't truly know the terms of what I am looking for and I think women sense and take advtange of that. If you don't know what you truly want, I think I can agree that people no matter what will see you as weak and take advantage of it, and I think that might be the big reason why I have sucked with women for a long time. My problem is I am a 35 year old virgin.

I hear many dating coaches say things like for example alan rodger currie is big on telling a girl honeslty that they only intend on "having a casual" situation so to not play with a woman's heart. I hear all this stuff that the worst thing a guy can do is date a woman with the mere appearance that you want to have a long term romantic relationship only when he only wanted sex all this time. As a virgin I have never experienced a romantic relationship or sex so I have a hard time comprehending what I want.

I meet girls alot and get numbers and the common thing I say to them is that I am open to BOTH a casual relationship or long term relationship, as if I am giving them the opportunity to choose. I also say things like I don't want marriage and they immediatly reject me. I also say all I want is sex and they reject me too.

So here is the question I ask everyone, how do you define a true casual relationship? or how do you define what it is I am looking for. Based on what I am describing, is it considered a true casual relationship?

Here is what I am looking for :

When I go do day game pick up, my ultimate goal in mind is to find a girl, get her number, and have a girl who I can have sex with often, weather thats once or twice or thrice a week or more. preferably this is a long term situation where I have this girl to go to over the course of months or years if its good.

Let me make it clear I am not interested in one time only hookups, I have never understood the purpose of wanting to have sex with someone only once and ditching them. I figured once you have sex with someone once there is a big probabily you will want to have sex with her again.

I like the idea of having multiple girlfriends to do this with, however not sure if I should just keep it a secret from all the other girlfriends or just be honest that I am into having multiple sex partners.

Lastly, I have never been in a romantic relationship so I have no concept or idea if I will fall in love with everyone, but speaking to which I feel right now, in a perfect world, I'd rather just have sex most the time we meet, and not have to spend so much time going to stores with her buying stuff, going to restaurants, spending time with her family, having kids, all that stuff is time consuming to me and takes away from me, Id prefer just to see her for sex.

I guess what I picture what I want is someone who is like my long term girlfriend but I hardly spend time with her only for sex and thats it. Not sure if there are women who are recepetive to that type of situation or if I need to secretly act like I want romance when I really don't.