How can I stop getting these bad One-itis problems with girls I’m really attracted too? Even though I’m still approaching

Got2B22 · 2018-05-28T14:45:57+00:00

dude, I still get oneitis for months! and really strong

The best tip I found is to cut all social media, Facebook stalking and mind dwelling of her

Consciously you learn it's just your mind playing tricks on you and projecting what isn't real. hard to get rid of the emotions tho...

but hey, that's what women can do to you, at the end of the day they have the strongest game ;)

WIA20XX · 2018-05-28T16:25:56+00:00

The guy that works at the pizza place eventually gets tired of pizza. Your dick needs to find itself in more chicks for the "spell of the one true love" to wear off.

The girl that will end up breaking this infatuation will probably be less attractive and more demanding - which paradoxically is often more engaging.

TravonM · 2018-05-28T20:28:01+00:00

It's normal bro, when you like a girl you're going to have feelings for her. It's up to you to decide what you want to do about it.

Audentes · 2018-05-28T19:57:01+00:00

I think it's only normal when you find that girl who is just a cut above everyone else to fixate more than desired. For people seeking relationships out of this seemingly endless cycle it's even more likely.

I'm at the point in my journey where I've come to accept when I get this way because I believe I can recognize when it's real, at least for me. At that point it's about containing myself around her until or if she is on the same page. And focusing on being as busy as possible to get out of my own head. I think people here fight "oneitis" as a lot of guys get extra needy when they're experiencing it, so they try to ban the notion of it.

That being said, I'm also constantly reevaluating my perspective as I have more experiences, so take that as version 0.1 or 0.2 for example. Someone else may be further along and see it differently.

One note, I see oneitis as recognizing one woman out of all the ones you're seeing as the one you want and prioritizing her. Not as abandoning approaches or meeting women and letting one woman take over your life.

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