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Meditation helps to put you in a good state. The thing is it takes practice and consistency to get good at it. It’s not an overnight fix.
/r/seduction13/01/21 02:24 AM
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Sounds like someone who gives off “feel good” vibes. Makes you want to be around them. People who are friendly, non-judgmental, optimistic, and giving, tend to have such a vibe.
/r/seduction13/01/21 02:23 AM
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I tend to give physical compliments when I’m alone with a girl or having sex with her. I give physical compliments as a reward for high levels of compliance.
/r/seduction13/01/21 02:18 AM
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I’ve done both. I would say seeding the pull seems to be more effective but, I believe what’s more important is creating high levels of attraction and making her feel comfortable with you so it feels more natural to go for the pull.
/r/seduction13/01/21 02:17 AM
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Depends on how attracted she is to you. If you’re consistently having sex with her then I doubt she will have a problem with it.
/r/seduction13/01/21 02:13 AM
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Bring her into a fantasy world. Talk about other things that are associated with good and positive emotions. Don’t let her stir you into talking about her problems.
/r/seduction13/01/21 01:42 AM
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That’s a strong frame. And if you don’t get her, just know that it’s her loss not yours. There’s plenty of beautiful women but only one of you.
/r/seduction13/01/21 01:36 AM
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Checkout the book called the mating mind.
/r/seduction29/12/20 12:53 AM
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This a solid point. Some can teach better than they can do and some can do better than they can teach. I know some “naturals” who get women left and right but their advice is horrendous. They get girls but they don’t know how the hell they’re doing it.
/r/seduction29/12/20 12:51 AM
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Are you in abundance with women? Have you dated lots of women? You will quickly see that it’s all an illusion. Women have their flaws and insecurities just like any regular person. I used to fantasize about how great women are until I started dating them and realized the truth.
/r/seduction29/12/20 12:49 AM
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If you spend a lot of time being in the moment you will get better at saying the right thing. You’ll start to see patterns and get more familiar with vibes instead of being stuck in your head all the time.
/r/seduction26/12/20 07:51 PM
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Read the mystery method and apply what you learn for at least 30 days straight and you’ll notice improvement in the mentioned areas of your game.
/r/seduction26/12/20 07:49 PM
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Women are attracted to many characteristics in a man. Weight is simply one of many. I recommend every man to improve in as many areas as he can, but there is not one end all be all trait that gets every woman. The closest thing to an end all be all is preselection.
/r/seduction26/12/20 07:48 PM
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Go ahead and focus on one girl and keep getting hurt until you learn your lesson.
/r/seduction25/12/20 09:32 PM
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Listen to the coach and apply what he says and see if it works. If it works then you know he is legit, if it doesn’t work then he’s not legit. It’s as simple as that.
/r/seduction25/12/20 09:32 PM
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Find out if she’s interested first. You don’t want to shit where you sleep. Or other words, you don’t want to risk making the environment uncomfortable for you and her by violating it with unwanted advances. If you can’t tell if she’s interested then you haven’t turned her on enough yet. Talk to her more. Spread positive vibes, make her feel a variety of different emotions. Get her turned on before you ask her out.
/r/seduction25/12/20 09:30 PM
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Are you living with purpose? Do you love your life? Do you wake up each day and do exactly what you want to do? When you actually love your life you will no longer need to seek validation or get confidence from external things. Your confidence will come from living your best life, not from women.
/r/seduction25/12/20 09:26 PM
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Who cares. If you are attracted to her go and approach her. A man should be strong enough to handle rejection period.
/r/seduction25/12/20 09:24 PM
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Agree with her objection and then keep bringing up the sexual tension until she can’t resist.
/r/seduction25/12/20 02:57 AM
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Look at celebrities or stylish men that you admire but who also get a lot of attention from women. Model your style after those men. Your style needs to be sexy but it needs to be congruent with what you like.
/r/seduction25/12/20 02:54 AM
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You’ll definitely get a deeper understanding of how to use seduction to create a desired effect or outcome. It’s a long read and you should take your time with it. The more you grasp the info inside of the book, the better you’ll be able to apply it in life.
/r/seduction23/12/20 07:44 PM
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You should be scanning the environment because you need to be aware of what’s going on in your environment. If you focus on scanning for ioi’s, you’re giving too much value to women in your head, instead you should be observant of everyone in your environment. If you catch ioi’s that’s great but scanning for ioi’s shouldn’t be your main goal.
/r/seduction23/12/20 07:39 PM
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Text her when you’re inspired to text her. Don’t force anything. If she likes you it won’t really matter how much you text her, because if she really wants to text she will initiate it.
/r/seduction23/12/20 07:34 PM
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Why would you do that?
/r/seduction23/12/20 07:32 PM
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Find a sexy archetype and model it. Find a guy who women think is hot and who you think looks cool. Model yourself after him but in your own way. You will have to experiment for awhile to figure out what works for you. Also, try going to a mall and talking to hired guns and ask them for their opinion on how you can make yourself more physically attractive.
/r/seduction23/12/20 07:32 PM
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She did it because she wants to ghost you. You have to remember it takes effort for someone to unmatch or block you. If someone is willing to make that effort then clearly they’re no longer interested. Don’t take it personal, because it could’ve been for any little reason because women have a ton of options on dating apps.
/r/seduction22/12/20 07:52 PM
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The answer is to do what you want to do. Don’t do it to please the girl, do it because you genuinely want to do it. If you don’t want to do it then don’t. I personally don’t do it for the most part, however i will spontaneously send a good morning or good night text if I’m inspired to do so.
/r/seduction22/12/20 07:48 PM
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The mystery method talks about this and is designed with this idea at the base. Every romantic relationship has a romantic storyline and being aware of this allows you to communicate more effectively to women.
/r/seduction22/12/20 07:46 PM
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It sounds like you leveled up in life and you’re carrying a new vibration of energy (which is great). It’s tough to build a social circle right now because of covid-19 so, just keep on leveling up. When the time comes you’ll have no problem attracting new people into your life because you’ll have a ton of value to share. Not sure where you’re located but I’m located in Orlando “, Florida and despite covid-19 I’m still meeting women through cold approach. It still works and you should maybe try d…
/r/seduction22/12/20 07:41 PM
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From my experience it’s better than night game when it comes to creating genuine connections with women because women are not under the influence. I say it’s good to be competent in both night and day game.
/r/seduction21/12/20 09:15 PM
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It’s seductive, but if you’re not his type physically it probably won’t work, especially if he has a lot of options. It’s still worth a try though.
/r/seduction21/12/20 09:10 PM
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A natural is a man who behaves in a manner that is “naturally” attractive to women. A natural relates to a woman in the way that nature intended it to be vs. how society tries to program a man to be. It mostly comes down to confidence, social calibration, masculine sexual energy, and leadership.
/r/seduction21/12/20 09:08 PM
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Grocery stores are perfect. You can literally walk up and say, “hey I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi real quick”. Or if you want to be indirect you can ask for directions or an opinion on an item in the store and then transition into other topics. If it’s a good vibe then let her know you enjoyed the convo and would love to stay in touch.
/r/seduction21/12/20 12:14 AM
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Every time you meet with her blow her mind so that she keeps coming back for more. How you do this is the art...
/r/seduction21/12/20 12:12 AM
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You need to expose yourself to beauty on a consistent basis. Maybe get a job in the strip club or a woman’s clothing department. The more you get around beauty the more desensitized you will be to it and you’ll naturally let go of the illusion beauty creates.
/r/seduction21/12/20 12:11 AM
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You will more than likely feel nervous when you’re inexperienced no matter what it is (not just with women). That’s normal. When you do something you’re not familiar with it should make you nervous or scared, but if you look at it in a positive light it’s actually excitement that you’re feeling. Anyway, the more experience you get the less nerve-racking it will be. You get experience through consistent exposure to that stimuli.
/r/seduction21/12/20 12:08 AM
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Women can get a chad to bang them but it’s much more difficult to get a chad to commit to a monogamous relationship. Women are making the mistake of thinking that just because a chad will sleep with them, they are automatically worthy of a monogamous relationship with a Chad. That’s not the case. Men were naturally designed to mate with as many women as possible not necessarily to find one woman and settle with her for his entire life. So, if a woman wants a Chad to settle with her, she better b…
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:11 PM
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After a rejection ask yourself what you could’ve done better. You will know what to improve on by studying successful pickup artist and men who are good with women.
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:05 PM
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You have her on a pedestal. You want her so badly that you can’t even think straight. Instead of focusing on how hot she is, focus on giving her value so that she will be motivated to reciprocate. How can you approach her and make her day? Start there.
/r/seduction19/12/20 10:00 PM
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At my peak I was getting up to 3 dates a week during the pandemic. All from day game. Once I got a rotation going I stopped going on dates as often. You can get women during the pandemic you just have to make it a priority and accept no excuses from yourself.
/r/seduction19/12/20 09:58 PM
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It’s one thing to get her but can you keep her? Yes I recommend approaching beautiful women daily, but the key to success with women is to always be growing and evolving as a man. If you want a 10/10 you just become a 10/10 and you must believe it. Knowing that your version of a 10/10 doesn’t have to be what society say it is. You are a 10/10 the instant you decide you are and live as if you are. It starts metaphysically and if you hold onto the belief and act from that place it will manifest ph…
/r/seduction19/12/20 09:55 PM
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A woman’s behavior will tell you everything. If you went on a date with her and there were no romantic moments, she is probably not going to be interested in another date. You said it yourself that the date was mediocre. If you though it was mediocre then she probably thought it was horrible. Women are more in tune with their emotions than men, so whatever you felt on the date she felt it even more.
/r/seduction18/12/20 10:56 PM
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Nice bro. Trust me, it gets easier the more you do it. The next time you approach a girl try this. Instead of focusing on picking her up or not getting rejected, focus on making her day. Ask yourself, “how can I approach this girl and make her day?”. If you focus more on what you can give instead of what you can get, you won’t be as scared to do it.
/r/seduction18/12/20 10:52 PM
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Approach and tell him he’s attractive and get his number.
/r/seduction18/12/20 10:48 PM
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You said it “never took a flirty turn”. It never took a flirty turn because you never made a flirty move. You are the man. You have to lead the interaction in the direction you want it to go, don’t expect her to do it.
/r/seduction18/12/20 10:46 PM
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Ask her out. No man should be in the friend zone if he doesn’t want to.
/r/seduction18/12/20 10:43 PM
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If you focus on being as attractive as possible, women will want to be in a relationship with you. Then from there you can decide the kind of relationships you want to create.
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:47 PM
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You have to be able to feel out the vibe of the moment. Sometimes it’s right to be a super dirty animal sexually, other times it’s right to be more relaxed and romantic. It’s not a one size fits all kind of thing. So yes it does depend person to person and moment to moment.
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:45 PM
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So what are you going to do about it?
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:43 PM
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If she has problems, your job is to make her forget about those problems. If you talk about it she’s going to associate you with the negative feelings that come up.
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:41 PM
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Bro you have a gift. So many guys can’t even approach and your problem is you can’t stop yourself from approaching. Be grateful that you have a “quality” problem. Stop looking at it as a bad thing and be thankful that you’re on the opposite side of the spectrum.
/r/seduction17/12/20 09:39 PM
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Good job. Stay consistent.
/r/seduction17/12/20 01:40 AM
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Don’t express love or interest unless she is really into you. If she is giving you exclusive compliance romantically and sexually for a consistent period of time (at least a month), then you can express your feelings and it will more than likely be received well. Ideally, it’s better for you to get her to express her feelings before you do, if you want to be on the safe side.
/r/seduction17/12/20 01:39 AM
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When you see a girl checking you out approach her and say, “hey I though you were cute and I wanted to say hi real quick” Then introduce yourself, have a quick convo, suggest hanging out in the future and exchange numbers. Do this to 30 women a month (which equals 1 woman a day) and you’ll be glad you did.
/r/seduction17/12/20 01:34 AM
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How about you put all that energy into a purpose that will attract women. Women are attracted to men who can give them desired experiences in life. Women are attracted to men who have high perceived value. Put your energy into developing yourself into the best version of yourself and women will want to be with you. It starts by finding a purpose that you can pour your energy into....something that is greater than women. The universe will provide you with women if you exert energy in the directio…
/r/seduction17/12/20 01:31 AM
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If you have a big purpose in life and pour your energy into it, you naturally won’t have much time for women. You’ll literally have to go out of your way to make time for them. Once you realize how valuable you time is you’ll see women differently. If a woman doesn’t comply or show much interest you won’t have time to sit around and figure out how to get her to reply, you’ll just put your energy into the women who can clearly see your value and appreciate it.
/r/seduction17/12/20 01:24 AM
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I’m 100% sure there are some guys who wouldn’t lose interest in you and would treat you like a queen, but you don’t want those guys. The kind of guy you want is probably a guy who is in abundance and has options. If you want a guy like that, you have to treat him like a king. Be very submissive and contribute to his purpose in life. A girl can be as boring as she wants, but if she is submissive, compliant, and supports my purpose in life I will not lose interest in her. Also, I recommend putting…
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:51 PM
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It was a great reference. Now you will be prepared the next time you’re in a similar situation. Think abundantly. She is not the only woman in the world. You will meet many more women and you will not make the same mistake again. Cheers!
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:45 PM
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You need to think abundantly and understand female psychology. If a woman is pulling away and you chase her you will turn her off even more. You can’t logically convince a woman to like you. The key is to focus on abundance. Put your energy into meeting new women, and becoming a better version of yourself (or if you’re into metaphysics, focus on raising your vibration). She may even come back to you if she sees you enjoying life without her. Getting her to come back shouldn’t be your goal. It sh…
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:39 PM
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What approach anxiety program is this? And what is your goal(s)? Good job so far. Stay consistent. Doing little drills like this will help build confidence socially, but the key is consistency. Don’t allow yourself to make any excuses throughout the duration of the program.
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:29 PM
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Try setting the date before you get the number. In other words don’t even take down her number if she won’t agree to a date with you. Your number to date percentage will increase guaranteed.
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:25 PM
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Exactly.
/r/seduction18/11/18 05:16 PM
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It depends on the guy saying it. If it's an awkward guy with no social skills, then yes I'm sure you would be turned off by this. However, if it was a confident guy, with high social freedom and social intelligence, at the very least you may find him intriguing.
/r/seduction18/11/18 04:05 PM
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They see right through it if you're a low value man with no self-esteem. You can get away with anything if you have a strong frame.
/r/seduction18/11/18 04:03 PM
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So, then enlighten us with the proper way to flirt.
/r/seduction18/11/18 04:01 PM
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Well, nothing is going to work if you have low value. This stuff works for men who go out and develop social skills and self-confidence. When I just started approaching women, it didn't matter what I said because I had low self-esteem and zero confidence. Now, the tips above work because I applied myself and women can tell that I'm a confident and high value guy with care-free and fun vibe.
/r/seduction18/11/18 04:01 PM
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I've done thousands of approaches. This stuff works, but you obviously have to try it and you need to develop the confidence to pull it off.
/r/seduction18/11/18 03:56 PM
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Have you tried them.
/r/seduction18/11/18 03:55 PM
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Who cares if it's gamey. Try it out and see if it works. If it does then great, if it doesn't then move on.
/r/seduction18/11/18 03:49 PM
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Communicate attractive qualities to women. The core qualities women are attracted to are looks, money, status, dominance, and personality, leadership, preselection, safety, risk-takers, and emotional strength. So focus on communicating and developing those traits.
/r/seduction05/11/18 09:25 PM
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The core qualities women are attracted to are looks, money, status, dominance, and personality, leadership, preselection, safety, risk-takers, and emotional strength. So focus on developing those traits. Make your strengths stronger and make an effort to turn your weaknesses into strengths.
/r/seduction05/11/18 09:01 PM
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Message me and tell me your story. What specific values have you been developing and what is your value currently?
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:34 AM
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You communicate your value through your body language, mannerisms, language, decisions, and your overall vibe throughout the interaction. It really depends upon what value you want to communicate. For example, if I wanted to communicate that I'm a high status man, I would demonstrate this value through story-telling, leading the conversation, smiling, being care-free, and making the woman I'm speaking to qualify herself to me. There is more that you could do to communicate high status, but those…
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:31 AM
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Keep putting yourself out there and stepping outside of your comfort zone. Your personality and character will gradually become more attractive over time. Just don't give up.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:27 AM
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No. Just my personal observations from experience.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:26 AM
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Valid point here.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:25 AM
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If you're always improving yourself daily, you will naturally pass the shit tests. You can choose to see women's shit tests in a negative way or in a positive way. I see it as motivation to keep becoming mentally, emotionally, and physically stronger each day.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:25 AM
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Ask a specific question.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:23 AM
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Leveraging social media isn't something you have to do, but it's like leaving money on the table. I get the points you made though.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:22 AM
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That's one way to put it.
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:20 AM
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If your goal is to attract women then you need to ask yourself, "What do women value in a man?". The men who attract the most women are simply the men who communicate the most value to women. Women value qualities such as: - Looks - Money - Status - Social Freedom - Social Intelligence - Dominance - Personality - Influence - Leadership - Confidence And those are just a few of the core qualities that women are attracted to. If you have a specific type of woman you want to attract, you may have to…
/r/seduction31/10/18 03:19 AM
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Wasn't sure if it's allowed on this site, but apparently it is.
/r/seduction22/10/18 04:30 AM
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What I was implying in option 1 is that if you're able to convince her to leave her boyfriend for you, then she might be lacking integrity. So, she may not be someone you want to date for that reason. Now, if you don't care about morals,ethics, and integrity, then option 2 might interest you more.
/r/seduction26/09/18 08:29 AM
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Ask her out on a date.
/r/seduction10/09/18 06:20 AM
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I would need to know more about you to really give you solid feedback on this, but it sounds like your thoughts, actions, and beliefs are not congruent.
/r/seduction01/09/18 07:20 PM
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Go on my profile and check out some of my other posts for more insight on attraction.
/r/seduction01/09/18 07:18 PM
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Do you apply what you've learned consistently?
/r/seduction01/09/18 12:50 AM
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I agree and for me it depends on the situation. For example, if you're texting a girl and she doesn't text you back until a day later, if you don't react to it, there is no way for her to know that it's unacceptable. However, if you call her out playfully, you can get her to see that you're not a guy who puts up with bad texting, but at the same time you don't take it too seriously.
/r/seduction01/09/18 12:12 AM
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aying this because I fit these traits (don't agree to women all the time, have no problem calling them out, don't care about validation, etc) and yet I have horrible luck with women, I can barely score a date. I get ZERO matches on tinder, and whenever I have something going on with a woman she does a complete 180 on her thoughts What am I doing wrong? Is there an area in your life that you're neglecting to take care of that you should be? It could be affecting your self-esteem and self-worth an…
/r/seduction30/08/18 12:57 AM
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Just because women don't chase you doesn't mean they're not chasing other men who know how to communicate high value.
/r/seduction23/08/18 12:02 AM
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So, for example if I was in a club and I saw a sexy ass brunette in a group with her friends. I wouldn't just walk up to her and approach her. Who knows she might be receptive, but chances are she will just see me as some random guy who just wants to have sex with her and she won't be very receptive. Instead what I will do is create the perception of high value in her eyes first, and then approach. I will focus on having a good time with my friends and the other people in the club and do it in a…
/r/seduction20/08/18 09:54 PM
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It's pretty simple. Look at the woman that you've chased in the past. Why did you chase them? Because they had high perceived value in your eyes (looks, great personality, etc...). So, in order to get woman to chase you, then you would have to create the perception of high perceived value in their eyes. What traits do high value men have? They tend to be in good shape, high status, financially stable, great social skills, high self-esteem, leadership skills, etc... Guys think that you can be per…
/r/seduction20/08/18 09:49 PM
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If you read the post properly you will see that I didn't advise anyone to become a bad boy, I simply explained why bad boys tend to attract more women then nice guys. I believe most guys should aim to be a nice guy with an edge.
/r/seduction17/08/18 12:01 AM
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Opinions might differ but based on what i typically observe, people who deem themselves as "nice guys" are often pushovers and submissive individuals. They lack genuineness and also the ability to be assertive, most people wouldn't find this attractive at all; not strangers, friends and definitely not potential love interests. I'd say be interesting, have your own opinions and be open to having fun and letting loose abit. Holding back too much of yourself makes you a fucking bore lol. Nicely sai…
/r/seduction17/08/18 12:00 AM
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I used to be a mr. nice guy and what you said here is true.
/r/seduction16/08/18 11:58 PM
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I don't think that the problem lies in being too nice or to much of an asshole, the main thing is that women or people in general don't respect people who are too agreeable. You can be the nicest person in the world but if you are aware of investment levels and give your time, attention, resources to people who genuinely deserve it then you are golden. There's a difference between being nice because you want to versus being nice because you're trying to manipulate someone into liking you. Nice g…
/r/seduction16/08/18 11:53 PM
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Definition of manliness: having or denoting those good qualities traditionally associated with men, such as courage and strength. Having the courage and strength to go after what you want and get shit done is what develops confidence. If you're "manning up" in all areas of your life, you will naturally become attractive to women. That's my point.
/r/seduction08/08/18 08:17 PM
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You're not being a man when it comes to women, if you were you would be handling that nervousness by talking to women consistently until you develop that confidence. The point of the post is to display manliness in all areas of your life. Take full responsibility. If you don't have confidence with women, then the "manly" thing to do would be to go and develop that confidence by approaching women often.
/r/seduction08/08/18 02:23 AM
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Limiting belief
/r/seduction04/08/18 01:05 AM
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The fact that you still approach despite the emotional pain that comes with rejection is what makes you a man my brother.
/r/seduction20/07/18 12:17 AM
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How can you properly apply any structure if you're crippled by fear? You have to learn how to deal with the fear and anxiety before you worry about structure.
/r/seduction19/07/18 10:59 PM
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It is a painful thing, but if you can't deal with it, your success with women will be limited significantly. Also, women are attracted to men who can deal with rejection. It's an indicator of survival value.
/r/seduction19/07/18 10:57 PM
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Sometimes it is. If you ask for it too soon, or your interaction was weak.
/r/seduction17/07/18 06:29 AM
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If my professional background wasn't compatible with hers, then I could've connected on her hobbies, her talents, or her philosophy on life. I could even connect with her on something that she hates lol. It just so happens that this woman was interested in business marketing. I've had other women ask for my numbers who hate business. It's not about what you think is a woman's true value, it's about what the reality is. Look at the women who get the most attention. Look at the women who are pursu…
/r/seduction29/06/18 01:48 AM
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I agree here. Authenticity plays a big part. I'm not faking anything or trying to force a connection with the woman. However, as you mentioned there are some guys out there who are good actors and will fake there way to a connection, and that's why a lot of women put up shields and resistance because a lot of guys talk a good game but can't back it up when the time comes.
/r/seduction28/06/18 09:29 PM
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I agree it depends on the girl, and it also depends on the guy who is approaching the girl. I got rejected twice before I found a girl who was cool with talking to me. When I interact with people in general my goal is to leave them feeling better than they did before they met me. So, essentially that's what I'm doing when I approach a woman. I focus on having a fun and playful conversation and I focus on getting to know the woman. Then I connect on her passions and goals. There are some women wh…
/r/seduction28/06/18 09:26 PM
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Well this is certainly a very perverted and twisted way to look at it.
/r/seduction28/06/18 09:14 PM
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The whole "I'm ugly and women will reject me thing" is a limiting belief and it is holding you back. If you believe that your looks will make a woman reject you then that is what will happen. You have to realize that most women will respond positively to confident behavior despite the man's looks. I know a guy who has everything against him. He is short, balding, and not good-looking, but I've seen him steal girls from guys who are very good-looking. Skill and confidence trumps looks when it com…
/r/seduction28/06/18 09:12 PM
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If you set the right frame from the beginning it's very rare that would happen. But if it does happen, you did the right thing. Simply cut them off and move on. I also don't recommend dinner dates unless you've slept with the woman.
/r/seduction28/06/18 09:03 PM
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I walked up to her. Said my opener and then sat down next to her once she showed that she was interested.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:58 PM
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I assure you this had nothing to do with luck (maybe a little bit haha). A few years ago I would've been shaking and sweating in that interaction and probably would've creeped the girl out. To touch on your other point, I find it funny how guys want women mostly because of the women's looks/beauty (which is their value) but then those same guys don't want to offer some form of value in exchange. That's basically the definition of a scam.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:57 PM
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I agree with ImJUstSo. Holding strong eye contact when speaking with women will create sexual tension especially when the conversation is going good. You can also create sexual tension by teasing and playful touching. You have to practice this stuff and learn how to calibrate because if done incorrectly or in a weird way you will blow out the set and creep the girl out.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:53 PM
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Make your conversations fun and playful. You can make a typical "boring" conversation fun by using enthusiasm, making jokes, and just expressing your personality freely. If you find out what she likes and you can't really connect on the point you can get her to speak about it and hopefully at some point you will figure out how you can be of value to her. If you can't connect or express your value on any of her interests then either it just wasn't meant to be, or you need to get out and experienc…
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:50 PM
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Find people who have achieved the goals you are looking to achieve and learn directly from them. Also, take a lot of action fast and fail fast. There are many business lessons that you won't really learn or appreciate until you go through it yourself.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:46 PM
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I inject sexual tension and flirty remarks in the interaction. The goal is to show her that you're interested in her sexually and romantically, but at the same time you also have value to offer in others areas that are important to her.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:44 PM
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Not if you don't communicate enough value within the interaction, but if you did then yes that works too.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:41 PM
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The sexual tension is not necessary to get a woman to ask you for her number, but if you want her to "clearly" understand that you have romantic interest then yes it is necessary.
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:40 PM
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If you feel like what you're doing is not genuine then she will feel that too. So, you have to check your own beliefs before you worry about what the girl thinks. When I approached those women I had no outcome dependence. Meaning, I was okay with and willing to deal with any response they gave me. The women can sense that I'm confident and secure in my intentions and for that reason none of the women questioned me on why I was approaching multiple women in the same vicinity. If one of them would…
/r/seduction28/06/18 08:38 PM
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I developed most of those traits from cold approach and going after my goals and dreams relentlessly.
/r/seduction23/06/18 03:00 AM
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Correct.
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:51 PM
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If you are friendly, combine it with sexual intent, and you display the character traits below you won't have to worry about the friend zone: 1) Willingness to lead and make decisions 2) Strong sense of self-confidence 3) Ability to survive and acquire resources 4)Successful risk-taker 5)Ability to influence others 6) Social intelligence 7) Strong physical presence 8) Calmness under high pressure situations
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:50 PM
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Lol. Women reject men for many reasons. She could be in a bad mood. Maybe your just not her type physically. Maybe you just approached her too weak. Maybe she has a headache lol. She can't really reject you if she doesn't know you.
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:45 PM
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When I say a woman want a challenge I mean that you shouldn't be bending over backwords to please women. You shouldn't be going above and beyond to impress women. Think about how you are with your friends. Are you being super nice, and filtering your words, and trying to be cool to impress them? No. But they still love you for who you are right? So, that's how it should be when you approach women. If you ever seen somebody who is naturally good with women they basically treat women the same way …
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:38 PM
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Willingness to lead and make decisions - Strong sense of self-confidence - Ability to survive and acquire resources - Successful risk-taker - Ability to influence others - Social intelligence - Strong physical presence - Calmness under high pressure situations
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:30 PM
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8) If you chase a woman (go overboard in your efforts to pursue her), you're more than likely going to chase her right out of your life. Why? Because this is low value behavior. High value men don't need to chase women because they have an abundance of women in their lives. Woman look at your behavior to determine whether or not you're a high value man, so if you behave as if you have no options with women and you put her on a pedestal, she will lose attraction for you. 9) When you approach a wo…
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:27 PM
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Well, when I say alpha traits I'm referring to: - Willingness to lead and make decisions - Strong sense of self-confidence - Ability to survive and acquire resources - Successful risk-taker - Ability to influence others - Social intelligence - Strong physical presence - Calmness under high pressure situations
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:08 PM
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When it comes to attracting women, most guys let their emotions and feelings get in the way of making intelligent choices. For example, when you see a beautiful women at the mall or a grocery store that you find attractive (and you want to have a chance with her), the intelligent decision is to approach. However, if you let your emotions take over you will probably not approach because you will be experiencing anxiety and fear which pretty much blocks your ability to think logically. So, what I'…
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:05 PM
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I failed countless times. I've sacrificed a lot of time, money, and resources to achieve success. And I'm almost gave up on multiple occasions. I just refused to give up, and was willing do whatever it takes. I've observed a lot of people who have failed at their attempts to achieve their goals and dreams. Most of those people who failed were very close-minded, and not willing to do whatever it takes. They were not willing to get outside their comfort zone. They weren't really willing to die for…
/r/seduction22/06/18 08:04 PM
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You definitely have to show interest in a woman, that is a given, but if you chase a woman (go overboard in your efforts to pursue her), you're more than likely going to chase her right out of your life. However, I believe it was Mystery who said, "You can get away with anything if your frame is strong enough."
/r/seduction22/06/18 07:59 PM
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Girls dont want to teach a guy how to be a man. Girls want a guy whos fully in his masculine, who makes her feel comfortable and safe. So she can indulge in her femininity Exactly.
/r/seduction22/06/18 07:47 PM
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If you're not willing to die for your goals and dreams then you're probably not going to achieve them. For example, when I wanted to start my own business I had to sacrifice a lot of my social life, my money, and my relationships to build my business. Essentially I was sacrificing my life for my goal of building a successful online business. I took a lot of risks. I went into failed business partnerships. I spent a lot of money with nothing to show for it for a long time. I had people laugh at m…
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:59 AM
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13.) If you're at a bar/club/etc. are you part of a group that everyone else in the venue is watching and thinking "Man they're having so much fun over there!" (the observed), or are you one of the people sitting in the corner doing all the looking and pointing? (the observers) 21.) Focus on becoming the person that people and women naturally gravitate towards by improving yourself mentally, physically, intellectualize, socially, etc. instead of making girl-chasing your main goal. I second this.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:52 AM
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I learned these lessons from doing cold approach.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:50 AM
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If you're not willing to die for your goals and dreams then you're probably not going to achieve them. For example, when I wanted to start my own business I had to sacrifice a lot of my social life, my money, and my relationships to build my business. Essentially I was sacrificing my life for my goal of building a successful online business. I took a lot of risks. I went into failed business partnerships. I spent a lot of money with nothing to show for it for a long time. I had people laugh at m…
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:49 AM
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How is sharing lessons that I've learned from putting myself in the fire of approaching thousands of women and going through tons of ups and downs stupid? I agree that "loving oneself honestly and wholly" is an attractive trait, but you have to go through a lot of shit to get to that point. It's much easier said than done. Also, if you look at the list you should be able to tell that someone who "loves himself honestly and wholly" would be applying most if not all 21 tips as a result.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:39 AM
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Just by walking around with a pleasant smile on your face, you will feel better, people will smile back at you, and you will become more approachable. For me it was night and day because I used to always walk around with a serious face and I wondered why chicks would never give me eye contact or smile at me lol. Because I was scaring the shit out of them. I looked like I wanted to kill them lol.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:33 AM
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This is basically what it comes down to.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:29 AM
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We as men love physically attractive women because in our eyes they have high perceived value. The same goes for women. A woman will feel attraction for a man who she perceives to have high value. So, work on yourself in such a way that you're becoming more valuable every day. What traits can you develop that women find valuable in a man? Here are a few: Women are attracted to men who get other women Women are attracted to leaders of men Women are attracted to men who are capable of acquiring re…
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:29 AM
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I clearly state at the end, "If you need me to go into detail on any of the lessons above let me know and I’ll be happy to do that for you". You are obviously making the choice to look at the list in a negative light, and if that's what you want to do then good for you, but I'm sure there are people who benefit from applying the tips in the list. Those who are unsure what I meant by a specific tip can ask me to elaborate here and I will do so gladly.
/r/seduction22/06/18 01:09 AM
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Check this out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4SW_xMueXU
/r/seduction21/06/18 12:17 AM
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I get a couple sentences out it seems the conversation just fizzles back into nothing. Transition into a comment about her. Ask her about her accent and where she is from. Or comment on what she is wearing and how she came up with her style. Or get her opinion on an interesting topic that is not too serious (stay away from political or religious topics).
/r/seduction06/06/18 04:00 PM
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It would look needy if you think it looks needy. If you don't think it's needy, then it won't be needy. It's all about your frame and what you believe. Whatever you feel the girl will feel. Personally, I doubt I would've pulled over because it's super unnecessary. There are so many women around I rarely go out of my way to meet them. However, if I felt like doing it I would do it. It's better to go for it and get rejected than to have the regret wondering "what if". You never know until you try.
/r/seduction05/06/18 01:19 AM
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Go to parties and clubs and befriend the party animals and the guys who are actually getting chicks. The guys who are at every party and every club almost every night. Those guys are usually well-connected and know where the parties are so you will know where the parties are too if you befriend them. You will also learn how to throw parties if you choose to do so.
/r/seduction05/06/18 01:14 AM
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You are over-thinking. There is no right or wrong thing to do. Do what you feel like doing. In this situation you offered to give up your seat and she declined your offer. That's that.
/r/seduction05/06/18 01:07 AM
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However, once you know what women are attracted to, and you learn how to communicate those attractive qualities, you will be able to attract beautiful women into your life at will. Women are attracted to alpha behavior and men with survival value. Some attractive qualities include: leadership strong sense of self belief strong and confident physical presence social intelligence successful risk taker cool under pressure ambition and purpose charisma positive energy If you can consistently display…
/r/seduction05/06/18 01:04 AM
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Good advice. This is how I started. You have to build a foundation. I used to go out and do "drills". Say hello to 5 people. Tomorrow ask 5 people for the time. Next day ask 10 people for directions. This is a great way to get the ball rolling without the intense fears that you would feel if you focused on actually picking up chicks. If you're not comfortable with the basics it's extremely unlikely that you're going to pick up any chick. You have to work your way up step-by-step.
/r/seduction05/06/18 12:55 AM
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Sounds like a form of oneitis. It happens, but the only way to get over it is to just focus on other girls, and create an awesome life. Lastly, you could try hitting her up now, and just getting some closure or possibly reigniting the relationship.
/r/seduction05/06/18 12:50 AM
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Nice bro! You went for the shotgun approach. Straight to the point. To be honest with you it's not the most effective approach but it's definitely respectable. But it's interesting how no matter how bad an approach goes, you will always feel better for doing it than you would if you made an excuse (which you could've easily done).
/r/seduction04/06/18 11:45 PM
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Romance is more valuable to women then sex. Women can get sex whenever they want. Romance is a different story.
/r/seduction04/06/18 11:33 PM
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Yeah it's definitely a fun opener. Shows that you don't take yourself too seriously.
/r/seduction04/06/18 11:32 PM
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Everyone deals with rejection differently. Personally, I find it humorous and usually laugh it off, or at the very least just smile and say "have a magical day" :)
/r/seduction04/06/18 11:31 PM
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Nothing wrong with a little external accountability. I'm a member of a couple different forums and I see people going on challenges whether it's with picking up women, or starting a business. However, most guys never follow through, so it definitely helps to encourage and root those on who take on challenges and let it be known to the public.
/r/seduction04/06/18 11:27 PM
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This is an awesome challenge. I've basically disciplined myself to the point where I do at least 3 approaches a day. I'm always testing out different openers and styles of game and I just enjoy the thrill of it all to be honest. I'm sure you will benefit tremendously from doing 2 approaches a day for 50 days. It's also great that you're breaking down the interactions, because it really helps you to see what you can improve upon next time, and this also benefits the viewers on here who are on the…
/r/seduction04/06/18 11:24 PM
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You have to sit down and think about what you want in life. The kind of guy you want to be. Then write down what you need to do to create your ideal lifestyle and become the man you want to be. Then go out and do it. You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable because that is what builds confidence. Step out your comfort zone. Take on a new challenge(s). Women are attracted to ambitious men who go after what they want and make shit happen. No apologies.
/r/seduction04/06/18 07:57 PM
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If you approach women you're attracted to on a consistent basis you will develop confidence from the references and experience you will acquire. I started off being extremely insecure and awkward around women. However, I always had an optimistic and positive attitude that if I take action and refuse to give up that I would gradually become more confident around women. That is exactly what happened and continues to happen.
/r/seduction03/06/18 06:14 PM
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In the case of a one night stand you would typically be a lot more physical and sexual. You might not even talk much in some cases. It's just about the sexual connection. When you meet a woman that seems to be "girlfriend material" you would focus more on getting to know her. You would have deep conversations, and sex wouldn't be the main focus.
/r/seduction03/06/18 12:08 AM
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Most guys know a lot of theory but take little to no action. The problem is that information usually doesn't sink in until you go out and get real references, experiences, and evidence that supports the information you have. So, for example, I knew that it was possible to meet women in the day, but I didn't take action on it, which led to zero results. Then I started taking action here and there and still wasn't seeing any results. It wasn't until I started taking massive action that I began to …
/r/seduction03/06/18 12:03 AM
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Yeah I'm not saying you need to cry, the point is lead by example. If you want a woman to open up and really connect then you should do the same.
/r/seduction01/06/18 06:29 PM
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It's not obvious when you're inexperienced or you've been taught to do the opposite.
/r/seduction01/06/18 04:44 PM
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Scroll up to where rodrigoeg said that he teared up on his first date with one of his exes. That is a great example of being vulnerable. You would think that being vulnerable and emotional would make you look weak, but it actually shows mental and emotional strength when you're willing to open up. And when you open up, the girl will be more willing to open up.
/r/seduction01/06/18 04:41 PM
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Set the frame right from the beginning. Tell them that you believe in having multiple women, and if they don't like it they can leave. What you will find is some of them will be okay with it, but if you wait too long to bring it up it's a lot tougher.
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:30 PM
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It's normal bro, when you like a girl you're going to have feelings for her. It's up to you to decide what you want to do about it.
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:28 PM
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Keep leveling up bro. Go after your goals and dreams and be grateful for life. If you want to get married then get married. If you want to have a harem then have a harem. Do whatever you want.
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:24 PM
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If you're not confident and/or good looking, the secret to having success with night game is to be the most fun guy in the venue. This means being friendly with everyone, playful, and just focusing on having the best night of your life. You "will" attract women if you do this. But, at the same time you have to calibrate to the environment. If you've never been to a club before, just go out one day and just get used to the environment. Have no expectations. Look at the guys who are getting chicks…
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:19 PM
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Another tip I would add is to dismiss outcome dependence and focus on taking action. Most guys starting out are so focused on results and getting chicks that they caught up in their feelings and emotions which holds them back from taking action. Figure out what your goal is. Figure out what actions you need to take to reach your goal, and then take those actions consistently while dismissing your care about the outcome. Focus on skill development and taking action as opposed to results. The resu…
/r/seduction28/05/18 08:11 PM
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Keep putting yourself in those interactions and you will learn how to calibrate your comments a lot better. I used to have a similar problem. I say crazy shit sometimes, but because of my strong frame I can pull it off, but at the same time I have to adapt to the crowd and know what will work and what won't (which comes from experience). Being able to calibrate is a big part of game.
/r/seduction28/05/18 02:17 AM
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Did you let your intent be known? Does she know that you thought she was cute? Did you even try to close her?
/r/seduction28/05/18 02:05 AM
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A lot of guys who get into the pickup and seduction community started off as very unattractive and awkward guys. I personally, started out as a really socially awkard and shy guy and had to improve my game by facing my demons. You can overcome bad looks, by developing your own style of game that works for you. The only way to develop game is to go out and see what works and what doesn't. You have to face your fears and make changes daily until you get to a point where you're no longer creepy. An…
/r/seduction28/05/18 01:43 AM
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It's an interesting opener. I could see it working as long as the person using it doesn't feel insecure about it. I used to approach chicks and ask them if they know where the nearest gay club is, and it used to work well. Some of them play along because they can tell I'm not gay and just being playful, but those who don't realize it's a joke I would just say I'm just kidding, and ask them if I look gay. Then I just transition into regular convo.
/r/seduction28/05/18 01:36 AM
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It's important if you want to achieve the most solid close possible. It's great for gauging how interested a woman is, and it also sets the right frame for the second meetup. She will already be comfortable with your touch, so escalating on the 2nd meetup will be a lot smoother, with less objections if any.
/r/seduction10/05/18 04:55 AM
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In my case I see it all the time. When I say "too many", I mean that there is enough of it going on that being ugly should not be an accepted excuse for not getting women.
/r/seduction04/05/18 06:14 PM
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Is all that you're saying based on experience?
/r/seduction04/05/18 02:21 AM
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Most men value women based on their looks primarily, so it only makes sense that women will also choose us based on our value. Primarily a woman is looking for a "high value" man. You develop "high value" by giving value to others, being a risk-taker (going after what you want), and becoming self-sufficient.
/r/seduction04/05/18 02:19 AM
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If you believe you have no value, then you won't have confidence. Having good looks is great to get a woman's attention but if you want to keep her attention you must have value to her that makes you hard to replace.
/r/seduction04/05/18 02:09 AM
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Well, if I were in your shoes and I was looking to attract beautiful women, I would make videos or perform at events. Entertain people, make them feel good and soon your value will be known to the public because of your guitar playing skills, and I guarantee you will attract women as a result.
/r/seduction02/05/18 11:37 PM
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I get your point. If the post was called "How To Increase Your Value" then I can see how someone could say the post is problematic if I don't give steps on how to increase your value. But, in this case the post is called "If Dating Gurus Were Honest". Then I go on to say how dating gurus will tell you to do this technique and act this way, instead of telling you that your success with women will rely heavily on how valuable you are. If you look at the most successful people in any area of life, …
/r/seduction02/05/18 11:32 PM
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Becoming more valuable will make you more attractive to women much more than trying to find some magic words to say, or trying to be something you're not. So, if you want to become more attractive to women, focus on becoming more valuable. You mentioned getting rich and learning the guitar. Those are two ways to increase your value and will make you more attractive to women. Increasing your social skills, developing a strong character, and becoming a risk-taker are some other ways to increase yo…
/r/seduction02/05/18 11:12 PM
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Thank you
/r/seduction02/05/18 01:13 AM
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What about it? Do what makes you happy.
/r/seduction02/05/18 01:12 AM
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Is it approach anxiety or social anxiety?
/r/seduction02/05/18 01:11 AM
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The answer is still the same. You overcome fear by exposing yourself to the fear whether in small dosages, or entirely until you get to a point where you can deal with it. Also, get around guys who are good at escalating with women so you can see how it's done.
/r/seduction02/05/18 01:07 AM
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I appreciate the feedback.
/r/seduction01/05/18 04:21 AM
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This is actually normal and I still feel it slightly at times. From my experience exposure therapy is the best way to deal with it. Use the baby stepping method I mentioned above if the fear is very strong. If the fear is there but it isn't crippling, then try method 2. When you feel the fear of success, you need to embrace it, and approach anyway. Build up references that approaching women is not scary, and you will gradually overcome your fears.
/r/seduction01/05/18 03:12 AM
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Cheap and frugal are two different things. 666shanx broke it down nicely. I'd say being cheap and being frugal are two different things. Being cheap would be getting ramen for dinner. Being frugal would be cooking a healthy meal at home. Being cheap would be taken your date to a shady fast food restaurant, being frugal would be taking her to a nice place, where one could avail a discount coupon or something. Basically there is a difference in mentality. A cheap person would spend as less as poss…
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:27 PM
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You don't have to spend money on her, but at the very least create the perception that if she chooses to be with you (and give you compliance) she will benefit from your money and resources. In other words, women will feel attraction for a man who she knows can take care of her financially. Whether you want to actually spend money on her is up to you. If you choose not to spend money on her, she needs to know that it is simply because she hasn't given you compliance in a specific way, not becaus…
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:23 PM
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I agree. There is a difference between being cheap and frugal. Being frugal is wise while being cheap typically comes from an outlook of scarcity (which is unattractive to women).
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:08 PM
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A man who is not approaching enough is committing the first of the 7 deadly sins which is being submissive (by submitting to his fears or excuses for not approaching). Secondly, I didn't say that spending money will get you laid. I said that women are attracted to men who have money because it signifies high survival value and ability to acquire resources which creates attraction at a dna level. So acting "cheap" around women is a turn-off and will make the game more difficult than it needs to b…
/r/seduction30/04/18 08:04 PM
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You make decent points, but I'm basing the "7 deadly sins of picking up women" on what "most" women are attracted to and what's "most" effective when you're picking up a woman. So, yes some women may like men who are always serious. Some women may like men who are impatient and always in a hurry. However, if we're talking about "picking up and attracting women at optimal levels", the reality is, if a man approaches 10 women while giving off a serious vibe and approaches 10 women while giving off…
/r/seduction30/04/18 07:38 PM
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Observe serious people, and practice being serious. When I realized that I was being too serious and logical around women, I started to observe men who were fun and playful with women. Then I began acting that way until it became a part of me that I can tap into when necessary. So, do the same thing except in your case the goal is to become more serious.
/r/seduction30/04/18 07:01 PM
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Very well said.
/r/seduction30/04/18 06:49 PM
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Thanks for your input. I'm curious to get your perspective on a specific scenario. If a man was to approach you at a mall, would you be more comfortable and likely to respond positively if he approached you with a playful and care-free vibe, or would you be more comfortable and likely to respond positively if he approached you with a quiet and serious vibe? And of those two approaches which one would you say most women would feel most comfortable with and would be most likely to respond positive…
/r/seduction30/04/18 06:48 PM
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Get the woman to meet a challenge or give you compliance before you reward her. Spending money on a woman doesn't make you beta. It's not what you do, it's how you do it. It's not what you say, it's how you say it.
/r/seduction30/04/18 05:58 PM
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I said in the original post, when you have tight game and a strong frame you can get away with being cheap around women. However, if you want to create the highest level of attraction with the highest percentage of women you must create the perception that you have money/resources of which a woman will benefit from if she chooses you. Also, I want to make it clear that being cheap and being frugal are two different things. Being frugal is about prioritizing your spending, whereas being cheap is …
/r/seduction30/04/18 05:50 PM
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I agree. I missed out on a lot of opportunities in High School simply because I was too serious and logical around women.
/r/seduction29/04/18 11:27 PM
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Overcoming Submissiveness - Submissive behavior is similar to being a pushover or a doormat. It's like being a yes man. You have no boundaries, and you let people walk all over you. You can fix this problem by deciding to respect yourself before you respect anybody else. Love yourself before you love anybody else. Make yourself happy before you try to make somebody else happy. The opposite of submissive is dominant, and in order to be dominant you have to know what you want, go for it, and don't…
/r/seduction29/04/18 11:24 PM
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Overcoming Submissiveness - Submissive behavior is similar to being a pushover or a doormat. It's like being a yes man. You have no boundaries, and you let people walk all over you. You can fix this problem by deciding to respect yourself before you respect anybody else. Love yourself before you love anybody else. Make yourself happy before you try to make somebody else happy. The opposite of submissive is dominant, and in order to be dominant you have to know what you want, go for it, and don't…
/r/seduction29/04/18 11:22 PM
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Overcoming Insecurities - First you must start with the understanding that being insecure is unattractive. With that being said, if you're currently insecure about your looks, personality, or anything else about yourself, you must not show it. You must either learn how to live with it and ignore it, or you must overcome that insecurity by getting rid of it. So, for example, I used to be insecure about saying the wrong thing (lack of social intelligence). This would hold me back from approaching …
/r/seduction29/04/18 11:00 PM
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Which ones are you struggling with? List them and I will tell you how to overcome each one.
/r/seduction29/04/18 08:33 PM
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