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so before I get down to business, I'll talk slightly about myself to set some impressions about my potential

so I have just jumped quite a significant hurdle: I've just cut my hair and I've grown a bit of a beard, and I feel a huge deal more attractive now to most members of the opposite sex. therefore, I am thinking "I might actually have some potential to become successful with women"; I have had very minor and occasional "success", meaning one night stands (x3) and basically nothing else. in terms of my personality, I think I'm very approachable and very smiley/jolly and I'm thinking, potentially, this might also work to my advantage - I'm not necessarily "shy", but I think I have the reasonable amount of social anxiety that most people have in that to approach a woman on the streets or at a club is kind of intimidating and against the grain when you feel like either she's going to reject you or that your friends are going to think "wtf are you doing talking to that girl? that's weird". I am funny to some basic degree too - I like joking around and bantering, although I admit I'm not a natural comedian (some of my friend are, I'd say, but not myself) and I don't find a huge deal of things funny (whereas, again, my friend burst out laughing, loudly, at minor things, which makes a lot of things that they laugh about, in association, funnier). I think my biggest weaknesses are that I am quite a short guy at 5'6 (although I'm always sure to wear shoes that boost me a little bit) and I don't have muscles (I work out but it's not really working - maybe it's just my genes, who knows). my strengths would include my average face (I've had girls saying I'm a 2, to girls saying I'm a 7, to girls saying I have the most attractive face they've ever seen in a very serious context - a lot of analogue...overall you might say I'm at the very least an average) and my pretty good (whitened teeth) smile.

anyway, enough about my personal profile- I want to start being able to seduce and pick up women. I do not really have any past resume/history of chatting up girls. I tend to talk to them innocently at clubs/bars (etc) but I'm not great at transitioning from small talk to hitting on them. I mean, in 2 out of 3 times I've had sex, it just kind of happened out of nowhere without really any sexual tension - sort of like where you're sitting on a bed next to a girl and suddenly you look at her and then you start to kiss, and then your hands reach certain areas (you get the idea - but on another note - to my credit - the girls I've pulled have all been absolutely stunning and I have considered myself very lucky - they were all blonde, thin, usually big breasted, etc). I want to know if you guys whom happen to actually be successful with girls followed any kind of plan. did you train with specific exercises e.g. approaching a certain amount of girls per day in the streets (like some youtube pickup artists do) or did you just swallow your pride and simply ignore your anxiety (jumping into the deepend, so to speak)? or did you have absolutely no transition at all and you've always been a natural?

TL;DR - I'm average and I want to be successful at picking up girls, and I don't know whether I should start small and progress gradually (the easier but longer option) or just start big (the harder opinion)