How do I approach and get a girlfriend fast?

razullinky · 2019-04-08T14:44:32+00:00

What's the need for losing your virginity and getting a girlfriend in a month? I recommend you spend that precious time focusing on building yourself up in different facets of life and keep a steady approach game.

Putting that pressure on yourself to achieve those outcomes in your interactions will likely come off desperate af. Seduction comes from within!

Get happy with you're at and take measures if you're not where you'd like to be, and keep approaching. Losing the V and getting a GF should be sidequests to your goals and life.

2019-04-08T15:00:37+00:00

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recyclablebanthas · 2019-04-09T06:35:05+00:00

Lots of ground to cover here.

1: You have left a shit ton of information out

One sentence in the body and one in the title..... and you want an answer to a question like this that requires a lot more information as to how much progress you've made so far, what assets you might have, etc. You've done the equivalent of asking Google Maps how to get to New York City, without telling where you are NOW.

So with that in mind, some questions:

What year are you in school?
Why won't you live on campus next year?
Where will you live next year? Do you have privacy there?
How far from campus will you be next year?
What does your social life look like right now?
- How many social circles are you involved in?
- What do you do with them?
- Where do you go when you hang with them?
How far have you gotten with girls before this?
- Any kissing? Sex? Past GFs? Groping at a party? Any dates?
- How does it usually go when you meet girls now?

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How do I approach and get a girlfriend fast?

Look, if you're not ALREADY reliably getting results you like with girls, then setting this sort of goal for yourself to meet within a MONTH, is a little like deciding out of nowhere that you want to speed solo climb The Sorcerer when you haven't gotten climbing down with ropes yet.

Do you realize the damage you're doing to yourself by putting this kind of pressure on yourself to do something when you haven't yet built the foundation for it? Ease up and stop placing this kind of pressure on yourself.

Trying to find a healthy relationship inside of a month, especially when other people on campus are going to be casual fling minded with one month to go, is going to be a good recipe for pain. Or if you're really unlucky, you might end up with a really unhealthy relationship that would be worse off than being single.

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I have a month until the semester ends. How do I approach, quickly build attraction and get a girlfriend/lose my virginity in a month?

Ironically, before you can be relaxed enough to get these things you want, you have to let go of these expectations and take it one thing at a time. You do this by focusing on the process of it all, which is social interactions and getting more comfortable with them. If you focus on the results so much, you're guaranteed to fail.

As difficult as it might be to consider, it's better for you in the long run, to focus on building up your social skills and just going down that path, taking little victories along the way.

Ways to get the most out of your remaining time include:

Working NOW to correct your mindset:
- Realize that you're already interacting with everyone around you EVERY time you go to school. Non-verbal communication is the lion's share of much of our communication,and you're doing that NOW, even if you choose not to add the verbal.
- Focus on observation skills. You have the ability now to observe and connect with people really quickly. It may seem as if "seduction" is complicated. It isn't. So much of it can be done by opening people with Captain Obvious bullshit that anyone notices but few people talk about.
- Now that you're focusing on what you see/hear, instead of trying to think about what to say or do, then you're in a position to just open your mouth and state the obvious or ask a question about it.
  - Example: In class and curious about something? Ask someone about it. Interested parties will join the conversation if they're nearby.
  - Example: See someone eating and they're happy about it? State that they look really happy about the food they have.
- If you have a nagging voice in your head that tells you the obvious and easy things to say aren't special enough? Tell that voice to FUCK OFF. Some of the most memorable conversations you're ever going to have, will relate to someone sharing an observation or being observant. It's plenty special enough because most people say nothing at all.
- So start offering observations and asking questions of classmates in class. Or just before class. Or just after class. You are sharing an experience with anyone on campus, especially someone in your class. You have a built in opener in so many occasions on campus, it's truly ridiculous.

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I won't live on campus next year, so it won't be too easy then. I do want to end the year with positive memories

It's as easy as you want it to be, whether or not you live on campus or not. And this overall attitude is guaranteed to make you miserable unless you start dismantling and challenging it! Look, the most important advice overall here is this. You have a negative voice in your head right now. And if you don't start taking the fight to it, NOTHING we advise will help you because you'll sabotage yourself. Thoughts like these, are part of that negative voice:

"It won't be easy if you don't live on campus."
"You need to have sex or get a GF in one month or you'll have no positive memories of this whole year."

You get the idea. The fact is, most of what I've had to do here is debate and argue with these irrational arguments put forward by your own negative self-talk. This sort of negative self-talk is something we all have to deal with at some point, and has been studied a LOT in the field of psychology.

And this voice is often inaccurate. But the beliefs that arise from these irrational, negative thoughts, can hold you back unless you start debating with that voice.

5

/ / "....approach a girl in between classes....."

What should I talk to her about?

The negative voice in your head might tell you that you need something special to talk to someone about. This is BULLSHIT.

You don't, and worrying about it at all, leads to you going in your head, which cripples you, because you need your focus outside of yourself if you hope to connect with anyone outside of you.

The timing of when to approach, is something you can figure out by observing, as mentioned in the link I dropped already. Look around. Pay attention. Most of the problems in social interactions boil down to:

Guys not paying attention, which robs them of information they need....
Followed by those guys trying to compensate by planning ahead, which is like trying to make up all the answers in your own head for what's going to happen in the future.

zincSF · 2019-04-09T18:34:29+00:00

Start studying day game and practicing day game. Maybe you succeed in a month, maybe you don't. Without trying...it's a certainty you fail. There are no secrets, and it's hard work. On yourself mostly. Don't be a choad, and don't think there's some cheap/easy path to pussy. There isn't.

mothertrucker8 · 2019-04-08T16:04:44+00:00

So here's what you do. First, go to the girl you think is smoking hot and say "What up girl want some of this good stuff." Then get em drunk and lose it. Just grow a pair of balls and ask someone out. #pussy

Title	How do I approach and get a girlfriend fast?
Author	Zeroluckwiththegirls
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Date	April 8, 2019 2:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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