How do I get over rejections?

alpha-007 · 2016-01-29T16:17:26+00:00

try not to care too much, i sometimes get rejections after first dates even if i did my best and even if i dont really like the girl, and it do get inside of me for a day and than i forget it. the most important thing is to keep on going, jump to the next set or date and start fresh every time.

letsgetrandy · 2016-01-29T16:56:45+00:00

A number isn't proof that they like you, it's just a hint that they're giving you a chance to make them like you.

Just keep improving. Rejection is like failure, and the great thing about failure is that it scares off the ones who aren't committed but it encourages the ones who are. Each failure is new data, and when you get comfortable with failure and welcome the data, you can improve toward success.

Also, ironically, when you get comfortable with the failure, you'll stop trying so hard, and that's the inner game you need for success. So get out there and fail some more!

just_another_primate · 2016-01-30T14:28:43+00:00

Here's the philosophical perspective. I think you'll find it's incredibly useful not only in Game, but in life.

"What happens to you is far less important than the meaning you give it"

Owen Cook's take on that maxim is to re-frame every attempt as a success. After all, "Who the fuck does that? Who sees a beautiful woman, goes up and hits on her? That was amazing!"

Another way to look at it that I've found helpful: "One girl, One vote".

You wouldn't expect to pick up a musical instrument and just start playing flawlessly, would you? There's a learning curve and you're going to hit a lot of sour notes. After you've gathered enough data points, you can start to evaluate the mechanics of what you're doing.

critix24 · 2016-01-29T14:30:32+00:00

Do you know RSD? They have clear incentives on how to deal with rejection, how to work on your mindset, and even concrete tips. Being independent of the outcome is a process. Just strive to improve a little day by day.

mrdatecoachdotcom · 2016-01-29T21:01:20+00:00

One thing I tell my guys, is to use the approach as a learning tool only and know failure is the name of the game. What does that mean you ask? After every approach write down as much information about the interaction as you can in your phones note pad. Start to compile what was said, body language, were you nervous, did you build report, how was the close and any other tell tell signs of what went down during the encounter. Areas you feel like may have went well and areas that need massive improvement.

So for instances... If you notice in all of your interactions eye contact is where you struggle and you feel it has to do with your confidence appearance. Practice eye your contact with the next set of girls you meet... I mean really only focus on eye contact. Don't be a creep, but get a grip on controlling eye contact. If you get results after making better eye contact, Check it of your list but never forget the skill. Then move on to the next think you may feel needs improvement, practice like TIGER WOODS USE TO and so on and so forth.

Lastly! PLEASE STOP approaching WOMEN to swing for the fences EVERYTIME. Approach women to learn what works for YOU and what does not work for YOU. Most of the time my clients like to hit home runs yet be on a soccer field with tennis shoes and crickets club thingy. They get disappointed like you when they don't get the results they want because they are trying to build a building with no foundation. Focus on the failure and fix that. Then try to get more approaches to flush out why the failure is occurring.

Play small ball at first and build up as you go. The best athletes learn to focus on areas where they have learned what does not work for them and improve from there. SMALL BALL!

CrushHazard · 2016-01-29T23:20:31+00:00

The problem is that you are going for numbers. Go for the insta-date and use numbers as a backup plan. Then you get a few insta-dates going, and you forget about the women whose numbers you got. They are on the back burner, which is where they should be. So when you text them, you are less desperate and everything works out.

TLDR: Push the envelope, go for it, be bolder.

Title	How do I get over rejections?
Author	JustDoIt9696
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	January 29, 2016 1:56 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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