How do I respond

imawhorewhenimdrunk · 2019-10-10T02:18:46+00:00

just be normal. ur overthinking it WAY too much. just say “hey!!” and see where it goes. dont be weird about it.

serpx · 2019-10-10T03:15:01+00:00

There is no right or wrong answer. It’s always a gamble. Some women don’t mind normal, and some hate it — and you’ll never know. Personally I just play it safe, and I still get dates. Not a lot of dates but hey, they happen.

SFNovember · 2019-10-10T03:46:17+00:00

It doesnt even matter. Some girls will ignore you either way lol

Workamaholic · 2019-10-10T06:03:13+00:00

I’m going to proceed by saying. I’m still getting the hang of it. But I’ve noticed a few things on dating sites that have worked for me. You should keep them in mind maybe.

Have fun. Be congruent with who you are. The goal of texting is to make the person you’re texting feel safe enough and interested enough to agree to a date you set up. Make no mistake. That’s it. Don’t use it for anything beyond that, it’s the crappiest cheapest form of communication and it devalues you over time the more you use it.

2.. You want to try to generate an emotional response through text while still staying respected/respectful

This is kind of a fine line. You can definitely overdo your responses and come off as arrogant or too weird which is not good but....

You want to say something that sparks interest. Something different. Keeps her guessing. A little bit of risk and playfulness can go a long way.

Here are a few of mine that have worked well to the generic bumble (hey, or whatever)

The Conspirator:

Her: “Hey how’s it going?”

Me: “Pretty awesome. This beautiful woman just texted me on bumble and I’m trying to figure out what to say next. Can you help me out?”

(Then you kind of have HER work on hitting on herself. It can be really fun playing Both sides. You can separate responses with quotation marks to show whether you’re speaking to her or the “beautiful woman” )

The Unreliable Narrator:

Her: Hey!!

Me: She typed “Hey” into the messenger and hit return. what did she want he wondered? There was only one “y” in the hey. Things didn’t look good for him.

Heyyyy he replied.

You can keep it going from here and kind of narrate your interaction. It’s a tough one to master but it can be fun.

Really. These are two dumb examples but it’s mostly about keeping a level of playfulness and unpredictability to the communication. I want the person I’m talking to to be unsure of what I will say or do next.

Don’t let her disrespect you over text. Women test, and so do men. Know this. The tests are subtle but if you’re aware of them and pass them it helps. Most of the tests are their to determine your strength, how safe you are, how needy you are, and whether you deserve respect or not.
A good formula to keep your mind working is “if everyone would usually respond this way I’m going to respond knowing that and adding to it.”

Keep thinking about how to appear a little different without breaking the cardinal rules:

-Have fun

-Don’t be boring but also don’t be weird.

-Be Respected and Respectful

-Be Risky

-Be detached from outcomes

Good luck

Title	How do I respond
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Date	October 10, 2019 2:15 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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