How do I start conditioning myself to talk to women? Starting small

Liu_Wang · 2018-01-16T11:08:54+00:00

starting small always ends in the guy giving up and trying again weeks or months later. and the cycle continues for years. i've seen it time and time again lol

don't dip ur toe in. dive head first.

actually, do what you want, then when that doesn't work, try my advice.

chriswolfcaesar · 2018-01-16T09:30:20+00:00

Start talking to cashiers. I started by asking "Have you been busy today?" and they start talking about a bunch of boring stuff you won't remember. From there you get the confidence to make a statement or ask another quest, and voila, you have a conversation. Then start approaching girls and starting a conversation. Don't worry. My first approaches by myself lasted a minute or two then I ejected because I had no clue what to do. Keep reading pick-up, keep approaching, you'll get better.

gurb-it · 2018-01-16T15:46:27+00:00

hit the club/bar, i think cold approaches on the street is too forced/awkward. but thats just me.

Benderbluss · 2018-01-16T14:13:32+00:00

Practice in situations where you aren't putting so much pressure on yourself. Not every conversation is a seduction.

Start with common interests. Find a thing you like to do, find groups of people who also like it, hang out in the groups, talk to women naturally as the opportunities arise, and don't make every conversation a seduction attempt, or you're going to build talking to women up in your mind as a pass/fail attempt, and you're going to beat yourself up for failing.

sorry_mommy · 2018-01-16T22:43:50+00:00

They say that action begets motivation, meaning if you are searching for motivation to do this thing you're struggling to do, you're never going to find it. But if you make one approach, it's going to absolutely make you want to do more and more based on that feeling of success.

It's like when you have a big project you really don't want to start. You put it off and put it off, but eventually you start it and suddenly you feel like you don't want to stop working for 1 second until it's done.

RoiOstrovsky · 2018-01-16T10:37:56+00:00

I would suggest brutal honesty man. It works like a charm every time. Go up to a girl you find attractive (...search ones that are alone, it's easier at the beginning) and say exactly what you feel. "Listen, I've never done this before. My heart races. But I want your number".

You'll see that eventually the anxiety fades until you start saying this "line" out of habit when in reality you're calm like a zen master.

Title	How do I start conditioning myself to talk to women? Starting small
Author	jester070993
Upvotes	4
Comments	26
Date	January 16, 2018 7:33 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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