How do I start dating.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-02-20T21:23:20+00:00

Your working on every part of your life except your social skills.

I think you should focus on how to talk to strangers in general. Man or woman because i have found dudes who struggle in approaching women, are guys who also are not very social with men thye just met.

The idea is putting your most genuine self out there and getting used to the idea of talking to someone and expceting nothingin return. Once you expect a number or to get laid you start acting desperate and trying to get this girl to like you.

I have found if you treat women like bros they like that. Be result independent. Go out for you own enjoymnet.

If youre in college id say this, start talking to people in your classa bout random shit. Try to get 5-10 minute conversation out of it. Then if you enjoy the convo, get a few numbers (man or woman). Around thrusday start texting people like "im trying to pre-game before the game let's get a group together" or something like that. Or "let's go out to the bars". See what clicks even if jhust men go, that'sstill good. You have to create opportunities to meet new women and soemtimes even that guy you just met could lead you to a new woman to meet.

Also friendships are transactional by you doing that, in turn those people might invite you to parties that they get invited too as a thank you.

Then in parties try to be social with strangers. DOnt lean on friends for enjoyment, bounce between groups. I once got with a girl because she literally said she loved how i was frinedly with everyone adn everyone loved me. Women go to parties for fun so they will only put their walls down if they feel they can have a fun time around you.

Treat women like bros. Women love when you shoot the shit with them. I once called a woman a nepo baby and we had a cute back and forth. GOt her number afterwards. During the whole drake-kendrick beef i called a woman a drake fan in fron tof her friends. At the end of the aprty she walked past every guy and made sure to say bye to me.

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-02-20T10:26:35+00:00

ask mid-grade girls out, learn to deal with women. Get some confidence and get rid of that "what should i do?" mentality. Don't worry about getting lookers right away. When you start to learn how to finish drywall the boss puts the worker in the closet to learn the skill. So don't discriminate, know your value, have fun, be aware of strengths and weaknesses, learn to listen to them, to set boundaries, and all the other small things. Just go learn, if you're a rookie then go be one and fail and then learn from it. Plus, if you can get out of that primal state of just trying to hit something and use your higher states on consciousness you will be able to date outside of their league easily. So get that post nut clarity with woman that are DTF and practice casual relationships first, this will put you lightyears ahead of someone falling in love with the first baddie he gets.

DO NOT RUIN REPUTATION, try to be as solid as possible and continue to grow so fast that Mandy the 200 pounder is surprised you couldn't make her cum but Susie, wife potential, is telling her friends totally different. (this is an extreme but trying to prove my point)

SOCIAL DYNAMICS ALWAYS CHANGE, don't be entitled, but be confident. Very thin line and that's you're sweet spot. So i would advise you to go look for that by dealing with clean, sexually attractive females, but not wifey material ones or anything to big of a challenge at first. You can go for it but watch your insecurities blow the fuck up and you'll have to deal with that shit quickly

Practice seduction, you need to know how to play chess when there is competition.

Available-Note-9652 · 2026-02-20T05:48:46+00:00

I would focus doing cold approach and use the dating apps to supplement. In my opinion you should have at least a few fuck buddies before you consider dating anybody which sounds like that’s what you’re looking for. You’re probably in the upper echelon of most guys based on what you said so all you really need to do is put yourself out there and talk to women. Good luck brother.

Title	How do I start dating.
Author	Automatic_Pepper_157
Upvotes	8
Comments	3
Date	February 20, 2026 2:13 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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