How do I talk about the topics that she is interested in that are also meaningful

dpr42 · 2020-09-16T00:54:22+00:00

I think you have the wrong mindset friend.

My advice, talk about what you are interested in and find meaningful. If she’s interested in talking about that then great! You guys are probably good match. If not? Oh well, don’t think about it too much. Find a girl who is!

It sounds like you are focused on one girl in this post. I hope I’m wrong but I’ve been there. It’s tough but you shouldn’t need to “start making her feel good” for her to start initiating conversation. If you do, then she probably isn’t interested anyway. Move on!

I’m not advocating for you to just talk about yourself the whole time either. But you should ask her things about her that are important to you. Girls actually really love when guys are passionate about something so don’t be afraid to talk about what you are passionate in. If you’re not passionate in anything, find stuff!

Example: I love dogs. I’ll ask a girl if she has any pets or if she wants any. If she’s not a dog person, well honestly that’s a red flag for me: shes dropped. If she responds enthusiastically, great we have a shared interest and I can talk at length about my dog and ask her a lot of questions about her dog or dogs in general. I hope this example really illustrates what I mean.

excentrik-art · 2020-09-16T06:51:03+00:00

Yes you can talk about meaningful things. Why though? Deep discussions have their place, but it is usually not in early dating, when you should - as you correctly said - go for emotions. What kind of emotions are felt during deep and meaningful discussions? Not many are positive, especially if you dont agree 100%. Then one of you will feel quite bad. Not a good start.

Talk about nonsense goofy stuff that makes both of you laugh. One good laugh will make her like you more than atempt to dive deep into argumentation.

One thing to emphasise. Not all girls like deep discussions. When you start to express complex thoughts, some will just get lost from being shallow or unexperienced in this topic. I know, you want one to make meaningful talks with, no problem.

But keep in mind - meaningful talking equals different opinions, meaning arguing about your internal values, meaning negative emotions.

Title	How do I talk about the topics that she is interested in that are also meaningful
Author	littboi699
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	September 16, 2020 12:37 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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