How do you guys deal with regret?

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-08-27T03:38:57+00:00

I accept the consequences of decisions that I made at that time, with the best knowledge and the best abilities I had. Then I decide that I will do better now, and in the future.

19yomed · 2015-08-27T01:15:18+00:00

Maybe it helps : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUdHX1Bent0&

pacg · 2015-08-27T03:43:52+00:00

Don't fight the feeling of regret. At the same time, don't feed it. Let it burn itself out. Do this often enough and you'll get tired of feeling regret and stop giving a shit.

Besides, it doesn't matter. There weren't even any opportunities to miss because you weren't equipped to handle whatever opportunities were presented. If you give an apprentice sculptor a block of marble to carve he won't know what the fuck to do with it. Give it to a master sculptor and he can reveal its hidden character.

The past is an echo. It's in constant decay. It can only hurt you to the extent at you allow it. These are just words of course. It can take time to really feel this to be true.

But... If you want an exercise, then do this. Make a fist with your right hand. Go ahead. Then imagine you're gripping a plastic bag weighed down by groceries. Now grip the handle of the plastic bag as hard as you can. Feel the weight. Feel the ache in your joints, in your knuckles, your forearm and bicep, even your shoulder. Hold it for as long as you can bear it. Then open your fist. Feel the strain melt away. Then flick your hand as if you're casting a coating of water away from you. Just flick it off a couple times until your hand feels sufficiently dry. Flick away the past. Just flick it away. Do this whenever you feel the past is getting to you.

CrushHazard · 2015-08-27T04:12:27+00:00

The problem is not regret, it's that you are dwelling on the past instead of focusing on the present. I used to regret a lot of shit, but then I accepted it. That didn't make the feeling go away, but focusing on changing my path....well, that didn't make it go away either, but it did lead me to the point where I was able to change my path, and then when I got to where I needed to be, no more regrets. The secret is to get out of that first stage of regret where you just sit around feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there and change your life.

Jacob_961 · 2015-08-27T10:04:45+00:00

As long as you see your future brighter than your past, your regrets will not bother you. My regrets motivate me to try harder. The solution is to really have one important goal, know you can achieve it and see yourself progress. My guess is that you think your missed opportunities have wounded you in a way that you cannot recover anymore which is rarely true.

DW_Francis · 2015-08-28T06:02:20+00:00

If you like the person that you are now then why would you regret anything that happened before? And if you don't like that person why not? Maybe that would be a good place to start. And when is it okay to like that person now?

Title	How do you guys deal with regret?
Author	ecdw
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	August 27, 2015 1:11 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3ijgw5/how_do_you_guys_deal_with_regret/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/how-do-you-guys-deal-with-regret.1300459 https://theredarchive.com/post/1300459

Comments