Live by this rule. Text for logistics, call for attraction.

I hear too often people complaining about a lack of 'text game', or wanting to know how to build attraction over text. The simple answer is you don't. There are two ways to build attraction, in person (obviously the most effective way) and over the phone.

I don't see girls I date more than once every couple of weeks. I almost always go out for drinks and being hungover for work 5 days a week isn't great.

This provides a problem, as ensuring attraction is held over a 2 week period can be difficult. The best way I've found to combat this is through phone calls. A quick 10-15 min call where you make the girl laugh works a treat.

Over the phone

  • Call in a private place. It allows you to speak freely without fear of being unable to say something due to people overhearing.
  • Walk while you're talking. You come across as more confident and you breathe more while walking. A slow pace will do, but walk. You'll notice a significant improvement.
  • Link the conversation to when you last saw her. Ensure you keep the same level of energy as if you were with her.
  • Tease her about things she did when you last saw her or about the conversation you're having.
  • If you feel confident, sexualise the conversation. It's a great way of ensuring they remember how amazing the last time they saw you was.

Try it next time you feel a conversation slipping away over text. It's worked for me incredibly effectively over the last few months.