How do you overcome height?

lipchuck · 2013-11-07T00:56:51+00:00

Short guy here (5'4"). The best way I've found to deal with this, is to simply accept it (easier said than done, obviously). I'll describe some things that help me get over this.

Would you date a girl who is absolutely the best girl in every way, except she is taller than you? I'd bet you'd be willing to at least give her a chance. The same goes for us short guys. No girl is going to write you off solely because you're short. No girl worth having anyway.

But because you're short, your height will be an easy target for shit-testing (I always get asked about my height). Girls will often say to me out of the blue "you're short", completely out of context! It's good to have a few canned responses to this, just in case it catches you off guard. My favourite is "Yea. I got my shins blown out in Nam", usually followed by some stupid story about getting smaller legs built for stealth purposes. Usually gets a laugh. It's important to not give a shit when you're using a response like this however; it could come off as insecure if you sound nervous.

Another thing girls do is they come and rest their arm on my shoulder. I work out a lot, and can pick up and/or carry most women (as long as she isn't a ham planet). If it feels like her arm is resting on me to emphasize that they're taller than me, I make them pay. I pick them up and hold them in my arms and ask "are you tired, baby?". Every time I've done this, it's either surprised them (and made them laugh), or they've said something like "wow, you're strong". Either way, it shows her who's boss, and you don't allow yourself to be made into a mockery (but in a casual, fun way). If it feels like she's resting her arm on you because she's comfortable around you, fuck it. Put your arm around her waist and relax!

Also, have good posture, and wear clothes with vertical lines if you want, but don't go over the top and buy platform shoes, and don't worry about this very much. Trying too hard to look taller will make you come off as insecure. It is far more important to understand that at 5'2", you are completely capable of seducing women.

Own your height. Learn little tricks like I have that keep you in the zone. It will take time, but learn what makes you insecure, and find ways around it. It starts by knowing that your height isn't what is limiting you with women.

TheBegotten · 2013-11-07T00:50:13+00:00

I feel you bro. Provided you don't look young you should be fine. However:

avoid baggy clothing. Well fitting clothes keep your body in proportion.

bring it up in a joke. Unfortunately, when talking to your average girl, she will be trying at all costs not to mention your height. Break the taboo yourself and put her at ease.

everyone's the same height sitting down. Some brilliant advice I saw a while back.

Finally, it's not important how tall you are, it's how tall you feel yourself. My father is 2" taller than me, but until I was 16/17 he was always a giant, simply because I so respected and admired him.

WintergreenElf · 2013-11-06T22:52:15+00:00

Try to focus on things that you can do, and not focus on your height because you can not change that. I would say go to the gym and get toned, wear clothes that won’t make you look shorter and ALWAYS have proper posture.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-11-07T03:46:12+00:00

Your "solution" to your body dysmorphic disorder, intense exercise and diet, has only made it worse. You have joined a subculture of people obsessed with "correcting" their perceived defects in their appearance. This can't possibly be good for you.

You need to work on your attitudes, not your physique. In every case, for every man, from the ugliest to the most attractive, their attitude is always more important than their looks. Always.

Stop obsessing about the reasons why you can't get women. There are plenty of guys who are shorter, fatter, and uglier than you who are getting women.

2013-11-07T03:25:49+00:00

Stop looking at it as something that needs to be overcome.

swth · 2013-11-07T07:28:53+00:00

You basically have to not give a fuck.

joshsway · 2013-11-07T16:10:45+00:00

I wrote about height a couple times. I am not as short as you, but I am on the shorter end. Here are two articles I wrote that might help you. One is about whether or not height matters, and the other is about how to game taller women:

http://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/does-height-matter

http://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/dating-taller-women

The gist of it is that while height matters, there are girls who do not care about height. From the second article, to succeed with taller women, the key point is to NOT bring up height EVER and simply act like it doesn't matter and behave the same around taller women as you would shorter women. I met a promoter in NYC who is around your height and he is surrounded by hot women all the time, and surely hooks up with at least some of them.

TheMongooseTheSnake · 2013-11-06T23:06:41+00:00

Make short puns.

tmthykrgr · 2013-11-07T06:13:51+00:00

You can't really over-anything at that height.

Sevion · 2013-11-07T15:17:14+00:00

I feel bad for you. I know some girls who say things like "I won't even consider a man who's shorter than 5'10. That's like so short." I'm sitting here thinking "What the hell. Average height of all men in America according to the National Health Statistics Reports is 5'9.5". Some parts of the world, it's as low as 5'3.5" (Food and Nutrition Research Institute in the Philippines).

2013-11-07T13:20:04+00:00

I'm sorry dude. Jeez 5'2.

Title	How do you overcome height?
Author	nismo99
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Date	November 6, 2013 10:48 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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