I have been trying to do some self reflecting and am starting to realize that I make everything my fault regardless of how much control I had over the situation. I have always held the belief that you should own your mistakes/faults and acknowledge them instead of making excuses. However, I think this has carried over in a really negative way in regards to picking up women because I just beat myself over the head whenever I fail. I've come to the realization that I don't approach not neccessarily because I am afraid of rejection but because I know I am just going to spend the next hour kicking myself about how I don't dress well enough, or I'm not good looking enough, said/did the wrong thing, etc.

I logically know that there are a million reasons I could have gotten rejected that have nothing to do with me but when I try to tell myself that I just feel like I am making excuses and need to figure out what the "real" problem was and how I can fix it.