How do you work on yourself? What steps do I take?

snowbunny12345 · 2020-06-13T18:11:04+00:00

Workout. Get better style. Develop your social circle. Go out.

2020-06-13T22:06:53+00:00

Like others have said, start with working out. Being fit is beneficial on so many levels. It makes you more attractive, it improves your mental health, it improves your confidence. Having a good physique is a status symbol, it signals you have discipline and can achieve things. It helps you realize how much you can accomplish with hard work and that spreads to other parts of your life. While you are doing this, think about ways to improve yourself financially. You don't need to be a high powered career guy, but women find some degree of passion and ambition attractive and don't want somebody's financial baggage if they have it.

You don't need to be too hard on yourself either, you just need to genuinely try your best and it will change your attitude. You won't feel guilty or inadequate if you know you are at least trying hard and chasing something. Learn to enjoy the pursuit of happiness.

trouble-kinda · 2020-06-14T01:33:51+00:00

I would like to offer an alternative.

Flow Arts.

Standard doctrine says, workout. I'm willing to bet you can't even do a single proper push-up. If you have not previously engaged in a structured exercise program starting a new one from scratch, alone, is very hard. Particularly for a person who has no established discipline.

Flow Arts. Just finding a way to move, that you enjoy is the actual goal.

I see the problem as a failure of problem identification. Can't get laid, low confidence, weak body, weak mind, all tied back to getting started. All symptoms.

Find something that you can put your energy into with your body. Hence, flow Arts. Pick up a stick and spin it. Then, just spin it. Eventually you will want to flip it. Eventually you will see yourself do something really cool. You learn to trust your body. You may just be brave enough to make yourself really do a push-up.

I personally love Mace Flow.(feel free to DM me)

Check out: Onnit and Michelle C. Smith. Both have simple flows to start with.

I would encourage you to focus on moving, rather than exercising. If you stay at it, next year you could be the man doing tricks in the park, with a 20# Mace. (It works...)

Just an alternative.

hamadahuncho · 2020-06-13T19:34:31+00:00

Why do you need a girlfriend to feel happy tho? Forget about that’s the first step ,go to the gym that will build your confidence and when u ready sling dick at the bars mate

she-diddle · 2020-06-14T14:55:43+00:00

Start hanging out with high quality men. They will sharpen you

yeeeewhawwwww91 · 2020-06-18T23:14:34+00:00

Don’t work out unless you want to. Other then that just look at things you want to change and do that. Do it for you and you alone. Going to the gym like a monkey isn’t going to do anything except make you yell “I did 135 on bench oooooooh.

Title	How do you work on yourself? What steps do I take?
Author	Passuponme
Upvotes	8
Comments	13
Date	June 13, 2020 5:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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