How does push-pull work when you're on a date with someone?

mightymite88 · 2022-01-20T07:33:25+00:00

Dates aren't the time for silly games. They're times to build attraction so when you escalate later you can score

AloofusMaximus · 2022-01-20T15:26:16+00:00

Push pull is just a verbal technique (I guess is the right way to say it). It's just being fun/flirty, it shouldn't be forced.

She says something, you respond with "you're terrible, I love it!". See push/pull, it's really that simple.

Being a good conversationalist has a lot more to it. You want to have that in your repertoire, but it can't be the only thing.

My ONLY aim when I have a first date, is to enjoy myself. Most people have something interesting about them, your job is to discover what that is (or at least that's my mindset)

As for going for it at the end of the date... Well that depends on how everything went, and if you feel like it. I've met women I didn't want to sleep with so didn't ask.

I'd used a 2 date model for a while (I wouldn't even try to have sex after the first date), but started taking chances. Doesn't seem to make much of a difference. Just go for it if you're feeling it.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-20T05:57:06+00:00

Don't focus on stupid techniques developed by magician nerds.

If anything the best thing is to be playfully confident and naughty. For example if she asks you "so what do you do for work", say "you know, no offense but these type of questions are so boring, let's save them for like the 10th date. I have a better idea. Let's play 2 truths and a lie. Let me start" and then say something ridiculous and playful.

This is a much better way of engaging and being interesting.

As for when you take her to bed, if you haven't established early on that sex is a foregone conclusion, you may want to hold off for another time. The reason is many women go on dates with very little expectations and sometimes don't bother to shave their legs and pussy and get prepared for sex, so she may be just unprepared.

dasanman69 · 2022-01-20T16:32:09+00:00

Communication is mostly nonverbal. You push-pull during the date by leaning in and then leaning back.

astropandaa · 2022-01-21T21:44:44+00:00

Regarding the push, you can do a lot sitting in a bar with her when talking trivial non important things… for example if you disagree with something you can say something like (this won’t work between us, or you can leave now, this isnt gonna work). Always say this things playfully with a smile. You can say you hate her (push) or love her (pull) when she mentions something. If she says something silly or dumb, playfully role you eyes and say that was silly etc.

If things are going well, always aim for sex. If she likes you and you don’t push for it, you’ll be either and idiot or a pussy in her eyes.

Title	How does push-pull work when you're on a date with someone?
Author	faithinstrangers92
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Comments	15
Date	January 20, 2022 5:43 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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