How far to escalate on this first date?

piperson · 2018-11-09T08:47:31+00:00

Girls say that they don't want to fuck to weed out the frat boys from the real guys. She wants to make a connection before she jumps into bed with someone. I wouldn't count out sex.

I actually wouldn't be thinking about sex just yet. You are setting up expectations which puts pressure on you to perform better. Be more carefree than that. Try to develop a "fuck it" attitude. "I don't really give a fuck if we hook up or not. I'm just out to have a good time." is the attitude I like to go with. Maybe get a few good laughs, a good conversation and some nice connection, is what I would shoot for. If all of that works well, the sex will work itself out. I shoot to be as relaxed and fun as possible. Don't set yourself up for failure. Just be chill and go out to enjoy yourself, no matter if you get some or not.

Br00dlord · 2018-11-09T12:40:43+00:00

I don't wanna fuck you means exactly the opposite.

The way I go for a kiss is usually. Sit close next to eachother on a bench.

1.Make a joke on how big/small her hands are. Start comparing the size of your hands.

2.Then comment on her hair and start playing with it

Compliment her perfume, go in to smell it - then kiss her on the neck/ Compliment her lipstick, go in for the kiss.

It really depends on the situation. Take time with the steps tho. Don't rush it, but don't be too slow either.

sshiv14 · 2018-11-09T06:08:07+00:00

I’d just go for the typical goodnight kiss and see where it goes from there

bratzstfu · 2018-11-09T07:59:04+00:00

Literally depends on how the date goes. If there is a flirty vibe throughout the evening, and she sends signals that she wants to kiss, then kiss with her. Don't go further though, unless she feels like it.

SelfLoveArmy · 2018-11-09T16:06:40+00:00

Sex on the first date is the norm. I close 96% of dates I bring home, and my buddy (and PUA legend) David Swift has a 100% close rate. I also end up pulling over 80% of my actual dates, often within less than 1 hour. I realize this isn't actionable advice, but it does answer the question of how far to escalate.

Now there are important concepts at play here: screening, being authentic, being a man who is regularly with women and women enjoy being with, being sexual; understanding how to show vulnerability, how to show value, how to be trustworthy. All huge.

dailymanup · 2018-11-16T04:04:07+00:00

Always assume girls want sex. They do. Period. Doesn't matter what they say. If you're inexperienced then it's time to up your game so these kinds of questions don't get you confused. Check out this book: Make Women Chase You. It will transform your life.

Xis4sarcasm · 2018-11-09T05:02:13+00:00

Go 4 anal

Hug< hold her hand<hand on her back < kiss her < finger her< sex

Just keep escalating until she stops you

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2018-11-09T07:18:32+00:00

“No, I don’t want to fuck you” is the same as when girls say “I am not sleeping with you” when you invite her over to your place. The thought of sex has already popped in her head. As to how far one should escalate, get the vibe of the date and her. You can tell when a girls is super in to you and would fuck you. I would say initiate kino all throughout and then kiss. Make her hot with it and I’m sure she’ll get wet. The rest is history

Title	How far to escalate on this first date?
Author	hospitalbathroom12
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	November 9, 2018 4:30 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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